the skinny one!

morning everybody hopes everyones fine today.yesterday the weather got cloudy so i decided not to go to the beach with my gf like i said i want to go to the beach with no cloouds and it was cloudy.. my sister calls me around 1130 says you want to come to salem with me i have to take a class its only 45 minutes well go shopping after and go for a early dinner..i said ok give me 15 minutes let me iron something else and ill be rready..so i ron another outfit and we go.,.my siter is a beautiful moman she sgot it all..the looks, the house great job..loving husband ..smart as anything uses 20 dollar words in conversations ..i mean we are complete oppoaites in so many things she is who she is im who i am.. we go to salem and thers a stasarbucks near her class we agree to meet in starbucks after her clas because i dont know my way around salem..im content drinkingba caapachumo no big deal were going shopping after .. so i go in starbaucks and some guy starts talking to me ..so for a half hour this guy is talking awy to me no flirting just innocent talk..me im the type of person who talks to everybody inm supermarkets...in stores what do i care im not introverted at all..she come in i introduce her to the guy im talking to say buy to the guy ..were walking to her car and she flipps out saying stuff like i shouldnt be flirting and talking to other men..i said why? no 1 i was not flirting and no 2 you know i will talk to a fly on the wall thats how i am..in italy she scolded me also for talking to strangers but i just figured she was being the over protective big sister not that i need protection.. so we go to a resraunt and im ordering my burger which by the way why cant they cook a burger to the way you like them i wanteda burger meduim rare but its against the law to eatthem like that? the meal comes i trew the bread away on the other plate but i did rember to put the napkin on my lap>> i really need a napkin on the front of my shirt but miss manners says lap it.. som i cut up the burger and do the small bites chew it good she looking at me im like what?? she said its amazing how you eat now,,i told her i eat ok i eat good ..ipicked on a few sweet potatoe fries omg to die for..had a few onion rings..i wasnt perfect ate about half the burger ..it wasnt like i gorged but i think i ate normal.. we go to kohls i buy a pair of hello kittyy pjs for the winter and shes loking at me she bought a granny nightgown ..her choice..let me explain something before this goes on..shes very very conservative in her dressing ..yes shes a school libarian..but she needs to brighten up.. but its her stuyle mines is difffernt.. then i saw a pair of sponge bob pj bottoms and bought those shesdont even know who sponge bob is..im telling her about him and she is like you actually watch him? im like yea why ..can****ch pbs constantly especially if theres no cooking shows on.. we go to marshalls after and were looking at skirts ..i see this real cute one with seguins bright print cute for the fall i was going to get it but the class im going to be working in i know the kids will get distracted with the seguins so i decided not to get it..i said why dont u get it..she said to me i have to go in the plus department lets go look.. she made me feel kinda bad..so were in plus department shes wining about weigh****chers again in the fall..mind you shes not big a size 16..shes hippy her face is thin..her waist is small ..shes bottom heavy thats her body and the past year or so her body has shifted.. i said to her you know you were always the skinny one..for years you were the one who bought off the rack..wore cute heels.. if i had ended up in a size 16 the end of this i would of been happy..i wasnt looking to be a size 10.. or be super thin imhealthy i felt healthy even when i was losing weight stabilizing at a 16.. its like she kida made me feel bad im thinner than her and guitly yea the friggen spelling is off..i know.. for years i rented a apartment before i bought my house.. her n her husband always drove nice cars while my husband always had the put put mobile.. her house is huge gorgus got the built in pool.. my house is small but its cute n its cleanm.. we have and always had diferent lifestyles.. i was never joulas of her and her life..she always traveled ..i always took care of my neices while she worked and when her n her husband traveled..i didnt have a carrer to go back to work she did she also had the big house payments n car payments..i choose to stay home be a donna rreed.. i dont know its tuff being the skinny one now..btw i belted out a song in the middle of tj maxx ..haha..figure i had to really end the day on a bang..how could anyone resit abba? bahaaaaaaa have a great day everyone hugs JoAnn: and she dont smoke! lifes a ride enjoy it

Hi Joann, I'm going through a similar thing with my mother. For my whole life she was a size 6. She also put me through every weight loss program you could think of (even hyptnosis) starting at age 8. And I wasn't even that big of a kid! But anyways, my mother has really put on weight in the last year, she's up to a size 14 or 16 I think and she is proud of what I've done and is happy for me, but she makes comments about I can take her clothes, and how she hates herself and all of this. And I feel wicked guilty!! Plus, it's my mother and I want her health to be a good as possible. So now I watch her eat garbage like she watched me eat garbage my whole life. It's like the roles are reversed. Michelle 294/149

Amazing how the ones who mean the most to us can still hurt with the words. They just don't get it at all. I have two sisters, we were on vacation and went to Freeport to do some shopping and one of my sisters was appalled that I wanted to go into the GAP... it's for teenagers and I'm no teenager according to her, no I don't buy low rise jeans or belly shirts or lycra tops or skimpy anything, but I have bought some casual wear there. She made me feel as if I had become one of those "old" ladies dressed like a teenager!!!!Not!!! This sister also watches every bite I take followed by the caution that Do I know I probably will gain back all the weight I lost, you still have to be careful or if I don't eat enough I'll just get sick. No pleasing some people. Even though I know this is probably going to happen, it still hurts. A little support would be nice. Just don't let it get you down. You feel better, look better and can do so much more than before this is what it's all about not what some else thinks. Looks like it's going to be another nice day. Enjoy the sun, Bella

It is strange.....the feelings we get once we are smaller than other people. I am going through a similiar thing with my daughter. My goal was to get to be her weight.....at the time, she was a senior in high school....a few inches shorter than me and was around 145 pounds. As I was losing weight she was gaining weight. She is now almost where I was as a pre op and I am smaller than my original goal. It kills me to go clothes shopping with her because I know that my size is making her feel badly about herself. I am now the skinny mother. By the way...I am now smaller than my sisters. They were always the skinny ones growing up. My "petite" sister handed over some of her clothing to me.....they don't fit her anymore. I confess......I am enjoying every minute of that. Payback for all the crap I took from them as a kid.

Awwwwwwwwwww Syb, Don't she know that I am the real smokin sister???? Hello Kitty and Sponge Bob huh??? well I will have to get out my Tinker Bells for tonight, is supposed to go down to 45.... lol Love you, oh and wiggle that cute butt the next time you are out, and remember strangers are only people you haven't met yet.....