Question....

couldnt have said it better.....

Hey there, I kinda look at newer post-ops as teenagers. They seem to know everything, we are the dumb ones. It is real easy to be judgemental and have an attitude when you are looking at the glass from the "other side." Many times it seems like the attitude is just cause you have been through it doesn't mean you know everything....Blah, Blah, Blah. Then suddenly they are a little farther out and that high horse up and died on them. Not quite so uppidy (is that a word?) when you are left sitting on your ass (meaning donkey)... And baby we understand. I almost never posted on the main board. I post more often here. I recognize many of the faces even if they don't recognize me (cause I lurked to the point of being a stalker). It feels like this is home and I belong here. Welcome I will bet anything you won't be shunned here. Glad you came!!! Hugs Susan -170 (said proudly!!!!)

Susan--Great analogy--new post-ops/teenagers. Perfect.

Lynda, Thanks so much. It just seemed to fit.

reminds me of the two emails I got today from a new person (I think) She has tried to convince me all day that my post telling someone their appendix is on the right side is wrong because her PCP told her it is on the left. In essence she said just because I am a nurse doesn't mean I am right when I say the appendix is on the right. I am TOO BIG FOR MY BRITCHES according to her. My reply to her, is that i would hate to have her pcp operate on my for appendicitis. What a joke!!!!!!!!

Hmmm I wonder if her PCP told her to jump off a bridge... well we know the rest of that one.

Its people like that...I leave em be....and usually they make AZZs out of themselves...

oh...thank you so much and YES... "uppidy" is THE WORD...

Hi, Christmas Baby! Welcome to the Grads board! First, let me say that we're not all at goal here--"grad" means one year or more post-op OR someone who is at goal. Many of us are struggling to lose that last 10, 20, 30 lbs or so. And others have had some regain after reaching goal and are working on getting it off. Anyway, regarding your question, I do think there's a big jealousy component to it. I know because I'm one of the jealous ones and it's a flaw I'm having to work hard to overcome. I've never been nasty to anyone because of it, but I do find it difficult at times to congratulate people who started at the same time I did or after me who are already at goal or are wearing smaller sizes or whatever. So I just stay quiet in those cases--but I've seen other green-eyed monsters get nasty. I got this way when my weight loss really slowed down a lot and I felt like I was standing still on a NASCAR race track with everyone else zooming past me. I still have about 30 or so lbs to get to goal. I'm really having to fight for every pound now, and I'm finding it emotionally difficult to be supportive to others. Just a week or so ago in this very forum I confessed to these feelings and have been taking steps to improve my attitude. Every day I try to offer sincere and gracious congratulations to someone who is doing well. It has helped a lot. Don't worry about what they think or say, though--I can tell you that it's more about them than it is about you. You have a lot to be proud of! I think you'll like it here. ---- Leslie

Leslie...I you for being honest...I think it is just HUMAN nature to see someone surpass you when you find that someone started at the same time as you have and you work just as hard or you feel harder. I cannot LIE and say I DONT FEEL JEALOUS at times, but to act on my feelings is just another thing... I have always congratulated everyone along in their journey because i KNOW the struggle... What I am saying is whne someone deliberately smytes you and says nasty things to you or deliberately hurts your feelings to make you feel awkward or out of place, YOU KNOW THE TYPE. Those are the ones that I steer clear of and wont associate with...You keep going...I know your struggle regarding the last 20 pounds or so...the most difficult. Stay encouraged...I applaud you... Christmas Baby