How Come?

Good evening grads, I have a legitimate question I think... at least it's been an issue with me for 2 years........ Why is it that when I was researching my rny, and agonizing over the decision and looking for a really good reason to NOT go for it...I could not find a profile of one single post op where they had gone "NUTZ"??? Did any of you go mental? I did. I'm not totally convinced I've finished either, though "stuff" is settling down quite a lot. Not to mention I'm just getting tired of the sh*t. Seriously, I found many postops with complications, and a few who did admit they wished that they had not done "it".....but no where did I find anyone that seemed to experience the disorientation or the huge, drastic life changes. Maybe it's just me and I was mental when I started? I didn't appear to be...I was most stable, emotionally, financially and mentally.....according to my family and friends. They all want to know what the hell? I have had some devastating results from WLS, though physically really successful and happy about that except for the anorexia......but ....and yeah I'd do it again in a heartbeat (especially knowing what I know now) but I have not always felt that way! I've gone through a lot of regret regarding my choice to become a hybrid (what my husband calls us)....... So, is it just me? Or am I just open mouth and let it all roll out without boundaries and maybe others experience some of the same difficulties, and just keep it more private? As an eventual outcome, I have to say, I am happy with the outcome of the major changes I've experienced, but then again.....daaaaayamm. So, all in all, maybe my life just needed an entire revamping cuz' that's exactly what it got!!! LOL So, have you experienced anything that is really "out there" / dramatic or a total surprise to you since your surgery? What has happened to you that you would NEVER have expected?? C'mon don't make me feel so alone............ I do not know any of you hardly at all.......tell me........... Jeannie

I'm in the process of going mental now....makes a person wonder why they doing anything they do. Dar

LOLOL Ya' know after I posted that stupid post, I thought about it and I really believe I have probably not had any greater trauma / drama than anyone else....it just seems so freakin' big cuz' I'M the banana head that did it!!!! Talk to ya' tomorrow.......... LOLOLOL J

I can honestly say I haven't experienced the mental issues you've experienced on your wls journey. Possibly that's because I did the mental thing when I was in my 40's and peri-menopausal. Saw a psychiatrist for 10 visits, did Prozac for a few months, lost a job I hated due to the company selling, went off the Prozac. No depression since. Sometimes our systems just get overloaded and we need help to deal with it. My wls has been a breeze mentally for 19 months, but who can say what will happen tomorrow. Many of us stuff problems deep rather than dealing with them. One day the problems begin to bubble up and we have no choice but to deal with them. The weight probably has a lot to do with stuffing those problems away and pretending they don't exist. Once we get honest the need to eat for comfort tends to disappear. I know you well enough Jeannie to know you are trying to deal with life honestly now. Just hang in there and it will all come together soon. You've said yourself that you are in a better place so maybe that time has come for you. {{{HUGS}}}

I didn't go nuts or mental, but i've seen women in my support group (and one man) go that way. I have to believe that the number WLS can do on our hormones has to be a contributing factor. Plus, wow, our bodies are changing in ways we couldn't have imagined before surgery. I ran into myself in a wall sized mirror once because I didn't recognize myself--or realize it was a mirror I was walking up to! I've cried to the extent I had to leave a dressing room and go home because I got those "little" clothes on--easily. It sometimes takes me a half an hour to decide if I should risk washing my jeans for fear they'll never fit once they've been through the dryer (that's how it was in the "old" days). But I don't think of those things as being nuts or mental--just a reaction to a new experience. i don't fly off at anyone or say inappropriate things. But I do have a hard time not concentrating more on me. I used to ignore "me" and envelop myself in my work and hobbies (OK, and food). Now I focus more on self improvement, clothing, general appearance, etc. I don't know if that's good or bad or something in between, or maybe, just maybe, normal. Happy journey for the rest of your life. Ann