My question to all of you is what thoughtless, remarks have you gotten after WLS?

Hi All! I am don't post much but I read often. As I was reading today I had to post. Yes, while I was obese I got some looks and remarks but I have to say that since I had WLS I have heard worse. I am 2 years post opt., and although I have gotten a world of compliments, some of them felt more like insults. For example: "Who knew underneath all of that fat (with major look of digust) was such a small woman." "I was really happy for you upto now, but if you get smaller than me I"ll die" "You cannot be thinner than me????" "Stop losing weight because I am looking fatter and fatter each day." "No, you are not wearing asize 8! Can I see the tag!" -then she preceed to look down my pants!!! I could go on! Do people not realize I had surgery on my stomach not my brain. That fat or thin it is still me??? All of these remarks just makes more determined to keep my weight off. Anyway my question to all of you is what thoughtless, remarks have you gotten after WLS?

I know exactly what you mean. When I was fat, I always heard "You have such a pretty face", translation--but the rest of you is disgusting! But I think by far the worst insult now is the people who avoided you before but now go out of their way to talk to you. I actually had someone ask me out, that prior to surgery always looked at me and treated me like I smelled bad. Did this person really think I was shallow as they are and would lower myself to associate with them! I do however, enjoy the sincere compliments and appreciate them. thx g

Yes, g....I agree the biggest insult is how people who have never given me the time of day before are now falling over themselves to talk to me! It's a whole new world, and although I am overjoyed and appreciative for all of the attention, my heart breaks for my old self who looks out through this new body.

There have been so many positives but I will never forget this "blow", "I could never figure out how someone who was so smart and together could let herself go like that..." OUCH!!! I hate the fact that despite the thousands of supportive, loving and wonderful comments, this one sticks out. Judi

I was having a conversation with one of my co-workers who knew of my surgery and was asking me questions (which I always answer) and then another co-worker came in (he didn't know me before surgery - much less that I had it) and he asked the question, "well, how much have you lost?" When I told him 130 - his LOVELY comment was "HOLY F*** you were HUGE" - I could have slapped him. Lucky for me my other friend did!

This is an easy one. Three years out, someone asked me if I had had surgery yet. That stung a bit. Patty

my father asking me what are you going to do with all that loose BLUBBER? i replied with asking him what can he do if he runs out of viagra shut him the hell up

How about when people ask you right of the back,"So how much do you weigh now?" Why do they take this liberty? Is it because I had WLS? I just don't understand if you want to give a compliment...here's a thought...say something nice and leave it at that. To the rest of them a big EWWWWWWWWWW Thanks for all the "sharing"...at least we're not alone! Hugs to all, Gabriela