WHAT IS THE MEANEST THING SOMEONE CALLED YOU OR SAID TO YOU WHEN YOU...

About 15 years ago, I had to stop at the grocery store on the way home from work. It was in the middle of an unexpected blizzard and I grabbed all the "emergency" cold weather gear I could from the trunk. I looked pretty bad, but didn't think too much of it. The sidewalks and parking lot were too much of an icy, sloppy mess to push a shopping cart through so after shopping I started lugging the shopping bags out to the car. A car full of teen boys drove, right next to me, through the slushy goop, intentionally spraying me, and then yelling fat lady obscenities to me and throwing lit cigarettes at me. My humiliation and defeat after a long day and terrible drive were overwhelming. I slung the sack holding two gallon jugs of milk at their car--and hit it square on the rear window, adding my "mess" to their car this time. They stopped and got out of the car, yelling more fat lady obscenities and accusing me of "intentionally smashing their car for no reason". Wouldn't you know it, a cop was right there and had seen me throw the milk. Of course, I said to the boys that I lost my footing when they intentionally sprayed me with the slush. They asked the cop if he was going to let me get away with that, and he said yes because he saw it all and was sure they had caused my slip. The cop made them pay me for the milk in exchange for not getting a ticket for reckless driving. Although this turned out OK in some ways, I had nightmares about their comments for a long time, and shortly after that joined WW and lost 70#. I did eventually gain all the weight back and then some. I've thought about that incident many times over the years and it still pains me emotionally. I'd like to go up and twist the nuts of those "children" even now. Of course, they'd wonder why this slim attractive woman was so mad at them. Ann

Hey Ann, Got milk? Way to go! I bet they will think twice before yelling obscenities at someone else.

When I was around 13 or 14 I had a half quarter, half arabian mare. She was beautiful, I was riding her around my town and this car of older teenagers drove by and yelled "Who is riding who?" laughing the whole time. I'm 37 now and I never will forget that. The other time is during my first marriage I attended a family function with my ex after not seeing his family for a long time. The first comment out of their mouths was "Oh god you got sooo fat." Well that just made the entire day awful. You know no matter what, I vowed to myself when I started this journey that I would NEVER forget where I came from. In fact I will step in now if I see someone making fun of a fat person. NEVER, NEVER will I put up with that crap if I can help it. So many years I wanted to just melt into the shadows and not be seen for fear of the taunts. So I will not let anyone taunt a heavy person if I am around!!!! Hugs Susan

Susan, I am the same way. I jump right in on someone picking on an obese person. It really ****** me off ! I love it when I am around someone who didn't know me before surgery and they see an obese person and make a smart comment, I go off on them so bad and just walk away from them!

Oooh that ****** me off so bad! Not long ago I posted where someone did that to a friend of mine at the gym's pool. The hospital where I had my surgery owns that gym so all the bariatric patients go there for pre ops and working out and such before surgery. This heffa came up to me in the hot tub and started making nasty remarks about my friend, oh what did she do that for? I was ready to rock tha****er whipping her butt! I had to let her know she was wayyyyyy outta order!

Hi All! I am don't post much but I read often. As I was reading today I had to post. Yes, while I was obese I got some looks and remarks but I have to say that since I had WLS I have heard worse. I am 2 years post opt., and although I have gotten a world of compliments, some of them felt more like insults. For example: "Who knew underneath all of that fat (with major look of digust) was such a small woman." "I was really happy for you upto now, but if you get smaller than me I"ll die" "You cannot be thinner than me????" "Stop losing weight because I am looking fatter and fatter each day." "No, you are not wearing asize 8! Can I see the tag!" -then she preceed to look down my pants!!! I could go on! Do people not realize I had surgery on my stomach not my brain. That fat or thin it is still me??? All of these remarks just makes more determined to keep my weight off. Anyway my question to all of you is what thoughtless, remarks have you gotten after WLS? All my best, Gabriela

Gabriela: I was constantly told, " Please don't lose anymore weight, you look sick"

Wow, I am so sorry you went through that. I thought the words and treatment to me were harsh. I give you the upmost respect for your great achievements in the workplace while dealing with the fact that your mom said those things to you. Hugs