Scared and Lonely!

Why can I never find someone who likes me for who I am.Why do I always adjust to the wat they are?How come it is always about them?Why can't someone treat me the way women should be treated?Why can't they like me the way I am without any adjustments?Why can't we all just find that special person?I am so scared to grow old and die alone!Where is my knight in shining armour? Candi

Candi--I just wanted to say and wish there was a hug thingy too. I'm sorry you are feeling this way. The best advice I can give is to live your life the to it's fullest as an individual and you never know when that knight in shining armor will ride in and sweep you off your feet. Take care--and oh--you are very pretty--not that it makes any difference, but I was just admiring your picture a little earlier.

Thankyou for the compliment Lynda,I just wish the guys could see that to but whats on the inside also because I may be pretty as you say but I am a big time tomboy and I think that is part of the problem I am a jeans and t-shirts girl,but like to still get dressed up to.I just want to be comfortable in life!!! Candi

Candi, you remind me of my self a few yrs ago.... you ever heard that song wishing on someone else star??? I felt that that was my song... I think we must learn to love ourselves before we can expect the same out of others.... It is hard but it is something we can work on.... I have a wonderfull girlfriend, best friend sister, that has tried to drill this in to my head for about 12 yrs now.... Believe in your self and the love that real friends have for you and the rest will come when it is time..... good luck to you .... email me if you want to talk.... and Lynda is right, you are beautifull.... Kiwani

Thankyou,Kiwani and may I say that is a neat name!I wish I could hear that song,because I don't know how to love myself I have no friends and the only family I have are my 12 and 7 year old kids,And Thankyou for the compliment you all are such beautiful people!!! Candi

We have to learn to love ourselves in order for others to love us as we are now. If we don't love ourselves where we are today, of course we are going to try to change to fit everybody elses needs. The only problem with loving ourselves is we learn to enjoy the freedom of being alone too much. I can hardly imagine a man that I'd want to share my life with now. I would enjoy dating and having a SO in my life, but I don't want to live in the same house with him. I like being in control of my life, money, enviroment. I don't have to cook and clean up behind anybody or wonder who will take out the garbage. Not sure I was very helpful, but best of luck to you. There are some wonderful self help books at the library if you're interested in peeling the onion back and finding out what makes you tick. { { { { { HUGS } } } } }