help to get back to basics

hi all, i had gastric bypass rny aug 28,2003 just had a my first baby on 10/11/2014 i have gained 62 pounds . how do i get back to basics? help please..

For me it started with going back to support groups.  We all know what to do, but I needed help and support in doing the next right thing.  I met with a dietician to work out a plan I could live with.  I had to re-visit some old habits -- not drinking with meals; weighing and measuring food; eating 6 small meals a day; drinking water; adding exercise.  It felt too overwhelming to do everything all at once, even though that's certainly how it was right after surgery.  When I got back on track, I really had to take one small step at a time.

It took me a long time to get my head on straight and get down to business. Wishing don’t make it so. Making a plan and sticking with it does make it so.

 I came back here for the support I know I need. The people here understand what it’s like to have those cookies calling from the kitchen. It helps to post and share and offer support to others.

 I record what I eat every day. There are a lot of websites and/or apps to record your daily intake. Decide on the numbers your going for. Know what the numbers of the food you are going to eat before you eat it to avoid surprises.

 I plan my food for the day and somewhat for the week. Have the foods you should be eating ready. If you plan to eat raw veggies have them cut up and ready to go.

No drinking for 30 minutes after eating. Even a mouth cleansing sip makes a difference.

 at the end of the day I pat myself on the back for doing a great job for the day. If you slip up and eat something off your daily plan accept that and move forward. The entire day is not lost because you ate one thing you shouldn’t have.

 Good luck and keep sharing, it really does help.

I forgot to add exercise.  I walk on the dreadmill.  You have to move in some way to get the weight off or it will be even slower to go.

Congratulations on the baby.  My RNY was 7/8/2008.  Over the last year I've gained about 12 lbs..  I was grazing and eating way too many carbs.  I've quit grazing.  I'm back to high protein, low carb.  I plan my food for the day and spread it over the day with 3 meals and 2-3 snacks.  I drink water all day but never drink anything with meals.

I had surgery in July 2009 and the answer for me to get "back to basics" is accountability. Wherever you may find it - regular check ins with your support group, dr. visits, or whatever....I wasn't able to address regain on my own. I now work with a dietitian and have weekly weigh ins scheduled. It has helped a LOT - I am down 20 # (with 15 to go) since mid November. Losing the regain has been very slow - not like the honeymoon phase loss - but it has helped me refocus a LOT on what is most important. 

Water - lots

Protein First

Log your food - every bite, every morsel

No refined carbs (sorry) - my "treat" is now half a sweet potato!

No refined sugar - or very, very limited intake

For me - no sugar alcohols unless I want to spend a day in the bathroom

Eat every few hours - again, this is my definite preference and need - if I let myself get too hungry, I go overboard

And again, for me - I limit dairy products now, although my protein includes a couple of whey protein shakes each day

We CAN do this! Don't try to do it alone - we all remember the feeling of waking up every day promising to do "better" - and what happens. I have given a lot of thought to the pain that comes along with confronting regain. We've done a drastic thing in having surgery....and now, have to ask ourselves if we have "failed" somehow. We're ashamed when the "skinny jeans" don't zip. All of it. We understand here, and I encourage you to keep the conversation rolling. Believe me, many of us have been there. Sadly though, I believe that many post ops simply fade away when they have regained....rather than dare to address it head on. It's part of the permanent change of MIND that we need....

Best best wishes to you!!!! Love to baby!