Will this work for ME?

Today is exactly two months after my Sleeve surgery and I am 47 lbs down. I look better and I feel better. Amazingly, others are just NOW starting to notice that I've lost weight and commenting on it. To say the least-I am ecstatic with my progress but at the same time I guess high expectations are making me somewhat fearful so I've come here for a little experienced advice and encouragement. Exactly how does this work? I've been through the three week stall and a short one somewhat after that and I know it is just part of our body adjusting. Yet, I guess with our rapid weight loss also comes high expectations. I've been stuck at 286-289lbs for about two weeks now. I exercise 4x a week and I make sure that I am eating correctly, drinking correctly and eating the proper food . I guess I am afraid that this is it? If I am taking in only about 800-1000 calories a day and my weight is fluctuating and not going down but even up a few lbs periodically I guess I'm just wondering how the rest of the weight will come off? What if my body gets used to the 800 or so calories per day and just stays here? I know many of you have been through this and after a year or so may look back and laugh at your fears at the time but this is why we beseech you on these forums. I realize my mindset is from years of dieting, years of failure, and years of gaining weight back. Admittedly I am afraid, that I'm unique, that it won't work for me as it has for others. I am afraid.  I know, I know. "Just work the program and the weight will come off". I guess I just need to here that from you experienced Sleevers. It's not that I want to be doubtful but I need to hear that. Thanks.

Weight loss is never linear.  Most of us are stair step losers. :)  I use TrendWeight.com which helps me focus on my trending weight and not my day to day weight.  It helps me through the stalls to know that the trend is still going in the right direction even if I'm currently stuck.  (Like fight now, I'm bouncing around 209!)

You'll get there, but being afraid is totally normal.  Are you seeing a therapist?  

Thank you. No, I'm not seeing a Therapist regularly but as part of my program I get to see a NUT and a therapist I think 3 times annually. I seen the therapist once before surgery and I guess I have two more visits I can arrange before the end of the calendar year. Hmm, perhaps a good time to go and speak with one? Thanks for the encouraging words, going to check out "TrendWeight.com" now.

I think that might be a good idea!  I know that my therapist helps me - I have the tendency to get wrapped up in those negative thought patterns that go like "omg, I'm failing.  That means I'm a failure and will always fail.  Why even bother.  I'll just fail."  Etc, etc.  Seeing a therapist has helped me figure out better skills to break out of those patterns.  

You might find it beneficial to find a therapist you click with and can see on a more regular basis - I don't know - but it's definitely worth a try!

I agree. I think any tool that we can use in this healthy lifestyle journey should be utilized. As one poster said "our stomachs were operated on not our minds" Our minds, our emotions, our history are the key to our being successful. The surgery is just a tool and like any tool, the better the operator the better the finished product we are creating. So unlike in the past I am willing to use all avenues open to me. It's funny, when you watch shows like "The Biggest Loser" or "Extreme Weight Loss", the biggest breakthroughs come when emotional issues are dealt with and met. Once the emotional weight is shed-whether it's abuse, low self-esteem, rejection or whatever it allows for the physical pounds to be lost. I truly believe that many reasons why we have lost so much weight in the past only to regain it is because we allow the emotion issues to remain. Thus, eventually the pounds creep back up on us. And especially I-as a man-we feel everything just needs to be fixed and we try to repair things ourselves instead of letting someone objective help us.

So actually, yea, that's a GREAT idea to take advantage and go see a therapist, ESPECIALLY this early in the game so that I can develop the proper skills set before I harden myself in wrong thinking and patterns. So thanks, I look forward to speaking with someone!

I think you've got a great attitude about this.  I predict that you will continue to have great success :D

Thank you. No, I'm not seeing a Therapist regularly but as part of my program I get to see a NUT and a therapist I think 3 times annually. I seen the therapist once before surgery and I guess I have two more visits I can arrange before the end of the calendar year. Hmm, perhaps a good time to go and speak with one? Thanks for the encouraging words, going to check out "TrendWeight.com" now.

Hi, four years sleeved.  I felt the same way, will I be the only one this doesn't work for?  Be kinder to yourself.  It will be ok.  Follow your plan so it becomes second nature.  Expect a lot of loose skin.  Some days are better than others.  The closer you follow your plan, the better your results will be.  I lost 98 lbs with all the mistakes I've made, and believe I'd have done better if I'd held off on pregnancy longer and stayed on plan.  Life happens, and the sleeve is a faithful friend and tool.