Head hunger 24/7 & gained back 100lbs

I would go see a nutritionist who works with bariatric surgery patients before deciding whether to go back on liquids/protein shakes. You have so many things going on and you probably need a step by step plan and professional consultation about what to do with regard to any drastic changes in eating. I second the advice to find a good therapist to work with, again someone experienced at working with bariatric patients. And also, you are your husband's wife, not his employee! If you do not want to cook fried food for him every night, then don't be willing to! He can try healthier alternatives (baked versions, for example) and if he doesn't want it, oh well....You are feeling like you don't have any choices but you DO! You may not like the scary thought of making someone else unhappy, but meanwhile you are hurting yourself and you deserve better. Relationships. Sending a virtual hug of support.

Cathy G. 

thank you Cathy 

In my humble opinion, restriction really just feeds the problem.  It doesn't fix anything, and we just repeat the same old patterns.  If you can get your hands on a book called "The 12 steps and 12 traditions of overeaters anonymous," I highly recommend it, starting with the chapter on Step 1.  I use the program in conjunction with a therapist because some issues go really deep.  Praying for you!

Your posting this here is very encouraging.I had RNY in 2011,i successfully reached 215 pounds, just now i have weighed myself,i weigh 250 pounds. very dissappointed in myself, since my dd passed away in february i have found myself not caring about myself very much.I am going to call my doctor and see if there is  overeaters annonymous group near me.Hang n there. the first step i realizing a hange must be made.Does anyon have any ideas on merestarting my weight loss?shoul i do the 5 day pouch test?does it work?

Therapy or a support group would be a good start, as would a serious talk with your saboteur of a husband. Your husband is not entitled to tell you what you can and can't do. Why is what he wants more important than what you need? You only get one life. Don't waste it! Please, please try to see someone you talk this through with.

Cindy, I just want to tell you how much I admire you for surviving all you're going through.  A lot of people couldn't handle all the stress you're experiencing, yet you're hanging on. I'm a very strong person, but I don't think I'd last long, if I were in your shoes.

All that being said, and keeping in mind I'm sticking my nose where it doesn't belong, I think you need to do what everyone else has said, and find a therapist or counselor who can help you work through all the emotions and pain you're feeling that are resulting in the self-medication with food. I also think you need to realize that you ARE NOT responsible for anyone else's happiness, only your own. I'm from the generation where women were taught to cater to their "men-folk", but I've learned along the way that's a bunch of hooey! = : P  If your husband is ambulatory, he should be able to make his own meal, given the fact you're working 12 hours a day. Again, this isn't my business; just adding my two cents! More than anything, I hope you can take a couple of steps back, and realize YOU ARE WORTH TAKING CARE OF YOU, as well as you take care of others. 

For what it's worth, I'm almost 2-1/2 years out from my surgery, and after a 120 lb. weight loss, I've re-gain about 10 lbs., and even worse, I'm falling back into my old ways.  A lot of it is stress, and like you, I'm eating things that are bad for me, even though I know I shouldn't. Even worse is that NONE OF IT TASTES GOOD! In my mind, I want and need it, but the reality is afterwards, I often want to through up, because it just doesn't feel right in my body, if that makes any sense. And many times, I dump, but keep eating the wrong things anyway! How sick is that?

I'm wishing you the best on your continuing journey.  (((Cindy)))

Just fyi, I didn't realize how off my signature is! Ignore it! My current weight bounces around between 200-206, but I made it all the way down to 192 for a day or so, LOL! I'm hoping to get back there, and then go down from there.