RNY 10 years ago. Lost 85 pounds, gained back all back 40 lbs. Advice??

Um, ok.  

First of all, why do you assume that losing 85 pounds was not losing to his/her goal weight?  Perhaps (s)he is short and 85 pounds was all of the excess weight.  Even if it wasn't his/her goal weight, sometimes people don't make their arbitrary goal wight, especially if it was just a randomly picked number.

Second, do you have any idea how rude and judgmental your post sounds (especially coming from someone who is only 10 months out to someone who is ten YEARS out)? Surely if you re-read what you wrote you can see how arrogant and offensive it sounds to ask some one how they could possibly have regained weight and why they didn't lose more in the first place...?!?

Apparently your surgeon has not warned you that regain is a very real possibility after ANY type of WLS.  Even DSers can regain.  As Laura said, come back and see us in a few years... then you can let us know if you are still asking how people could possibly regain.

Lora

Hi Lora..

I am so ashamed of myself to assume when actually she did a fantastic job of losing the weight and keeping it off for 10 yrs.  I do envy her.  Maybe, I am afraid I might gain and wondered how does anyone gain some weight back? But went around it in a wrong manner.  I want to go below my ultimate goal by 10 lbs for a cushion for any gains.....it does scare me.

I did apologize to Laura for my being so stupid and wrong for writing those coments....she did do a fantastic job in losing her weight and keeping it off for 10 yrs....that is a wonderful accomplishment!  She is my hero...

Sincerely, alese

No, if your eating is "terrible" a revisions is almost certainly not the answer.  As the others have said, getting back on track with your eating is the answer.  

Go back to a high protein, low carb meal plan.  Pay attention to portion sizes.  Don't drink while you eat or immediately after.  It is SO easy to let too many carbs back into our diet, or to start making too many less-than-healthy choices, or to let the portion sizes creep up.

I am almost 7 years out from my RNY and need to lose 8 pounds that I gained by being so sedentary all winter after having a knee replacement in November, so I am doing the same thing myself.

Many people have regained and have been able to get the weight back off by going back to basics.  It doesn't come off very quickly, of course, but it WILL come off.  Having someplace like OH or a live support group to get some support also helps keep people on track.

Lora

...start over again with great hope in your heart... It will come back off!

I want to thank you for posting this.  I am nearly 11 years post op and understand your struggle.  The "newbies" will criticize and say to themselves "it'll NEVER happen to me".  Never say never!

Within the first 12-16 months after surgery I lost exactly 150 pounds and kept it off for 5 years (bounce back weight was 5 pounds)...then I got married...  Now, don't get me wrong I'm not blaming my husband! :).  However, slowly over the next 5 years I gained a pound here and there...  Right now I'm 20 pounds above my bounce back weight.  I know that doesn't seem like that much...and I will not insult my past (or yours) by saying "it feels like 100 pounds".  It's not! 

So, moving forward, about 1 week ago I decided I had better get a handle on this weight and starting tracking and THINKING about what I put in my mouth.  Between that and my new found love of exercise (sarcasm ;-) I've lost TWO pounds ...  I know it seems crazy to be  excited about a mere 2 pounds...yes...I know abou****er weight...blah blah.  That being said, it gives me confidence that I can lose this extra weight and to remember what a special tool and GIFT I was given by having this surgery.

Now, I have an opinion about your revision question.  It seems to me that the surgery you had was not the best option for you.  If I were you I would go back to your doctor (or perhaps someone new) and talk to him/her...  It's possible you need some "re-education" as I did. Or, he may have other options that you can consider.

I wish you the best of luck with your struggle and know that I understand our weight issues WILL be a lifetime battle.

Height 5'2"

High 263, low 113, maint 118 current 138