regained alot

Hi.  I have regained a lot of my wt. some of it it  related to medicine, but most is due to being totally lost without a support group.  I am so ashamed, I am avoiding friends and family.  Any advise on getting back on track.  Thanks.

My first thought is to tell you to go back to basics ... what you did in the beginning.  Protein first, veggies second ... little to no carbs.  Take your vitamins, calcium, B-12, Iron ... whatever you need to take ... go and have your levels checked to see.  Sorry to say, but GET MOVING!  Find you an exercise that you like and can commit to.  1 hour of your day for your health is nothing. If there is no support group in your area, then visit this site daily ... so much support.  BUT remember this is your life, you control your life ... plan your work and work your plan!

Blessings ... Jameen

Love this advise Jameen. Very sound. Thanks for sharing and the reminders ... we all need reminders...

I agree with Jameen. And you DO HAVE A SUPPORT GROUP:) We're here!! Definitely protein first. Chicken, Turkey,  Nuts, beans, Tofu. EXTREMELY low carbs and sugar. You're right about the GET MOVING. I'm not sure what your level of exercise is at this point, but whether its getting out of the house to get the newspaper and mail or walking around the block... do it.

Please keep us informed . You can do it!!

M

Oh you sound so much like me! I've gained 50lbs & so ashamed of the way I look. I was so proud of my 240 down to 135lb body loved having people notice. Now I hardly leave house so I won't run into someone & see that look.

Meds I'm on brought some of it on & I begged Dr. not to put me on them. I have severe fibromyalgia & osteoarthritis so need meds that work & these do work. It's Gabapentin, Savella that seem to make weight shoot up quiclkly. Seems they make you crave carbs.

I suffer from stress from a unhappy marriage, so I have severe insomnia which Dr. said adds to weight gain. Was told to keep stress level down. Now how in the heck do I do that with a binge drinking husband who consumes 1/2 of a 350ml bottle og Crown royal in less than 2 hrs.

It's a no win it seems, but I'm determined to put ME first & fix meals for me that aren't comfort foods he wants. He can make his own ;)

I'm going to try the 5 day pouch & than see about Weigh****chers online.

Best of luck to you! We can do this!

Take care,

Kathy

Marriage like that - why do you stay with him? 

My ex was like that. I told him to get help or get out - now he is out of my life,  Life is too precious to waste on people like that. 

Stress and regain, they are best friends.  Coming from a family of alcoholics all I can say is I wish you strength and hugs. Put yourself first, they certainly do.  Be kind to yourself, get some help on coping. Don't let their pain and addiction become your burden  that derails your success, you deserve to be healthy and happy. Take care.

thanks for your heartfelt reply. We share the same feelings.I have a difficult time putting myself first. I am lacking emotional support. Weigh****chers sounds like something i could do.

Regain is so hard, stress really takes a toll on most of us.  When I regained I completely went into hiding, but that only made me eat more.  I force myself to get out, exercise even a little everyday.  I write my feelings down in a diary and track my food, try to be around 1200 calories, 100 grams protein, veggies only, no bread or pasta carbs, the only carbs are fom veggies, except when I fall into my old comfort food habit, then sugar carbs sneak back in. Please don't feel ashamed! We are all wounded in some way, that is why we hav surgery, to heal,,feeling ashamed will only keep you a slave to depression and ongoing regain.  Come onto the back on track group on OH and create a plan on how to get back on track.  

I think it's key to make time for yourself.  My doctor once said that if he told me I had cancer I'd set aside time each day to work on my health.  I am not so sure I would, I spend so much of my time making myself busy and putting other people's priorities first I think it's such a habit I don't know how to change, BUT when I do spent time on me, I am more successful.

Thanks for the rely. I like the cancer analagy.