I blew it
Last night I blew it as my husband brought me home a wopper Jr from Burger king. I was slowy able to eat th ewhole burger.This was th emost that Ihave been able to eat since RNY 02/09/11 and actually keep it down without having to throw up.In march I developed an Ulcer in my pouch and am still being treated for it. Now I hate myself for eating this stupid burger and refuse to eat anything today.Why am I feeling this way ? I feel like I am back in my dieting days from the past.When I cheat I feel so guiltty and feel like crap.Please help !!
I couldn't eat a Whopper Jr when I was 4 months out, but why do you think you should beat yourself up? And why did your husband bring you something you shouldn't eat?
1) Make sure your support system is clear about what you can and cannot eat. I don't think it would be that bad to have a Whopper Jr every now and again (in maintenance), but with an ulcer, you probably need to be careful. If your support system is trying to sabotage your efforts, then do not rely on them--rely on your self. If they bring you things you shouldn't have, throw it away.
2) You should be taking advantage of this first year after surgery to lose as much as possible during the "golden time" and more importantly changing your habits because believe me, if you don't do it now, you'll have a VERY hard time in a few years when you can eat way more and you don't malabsorb calories any longer. Maybe a counselor can help you determine why you won't follow the rules?
Try to let go of that deprivation dieting mentality--AND the self punishment for "not following" the rules ("I'm not going to eat today..."). Your body needs nourishment--all day, every day. Punishing yourself by not eating REALLY is punishment, and the only one that will suffer is YOU. Food is food. Period. Some of it is better than others, but it is all just food. There are things that are better nutritionally, but guess what? You are human, and you are going to want the "junk" every now and then. When you get to maintenance, you should be able to HAVE WHAT YOU WANT..........IN REASON. This does not apply if you are a food addict.....I'm not, so I'm speaking as if you are not. If you are, I highly recommend therapy. In maintenance, you'll want to try to live like a thin person does-they eat what they want, but they also exercise more to burn it off.
3) If you aren't already, get involved in regular exercise. 6 times a week, at least 1 hour each time and mix cardio and weight training. There are many sins you can get away with when you are burning off the calories with exercise.
Bottom line-you invested a lot of time and money to get a shot at good health. Why are you making decisions that are absolutely counter to that decision? You are the only one that controls what goes into your mouth. I'm assuming you learned from all the years of obesity that the food will not soothe any feeling nor will it fix anything that is broken. Deal with the issues causing the feelings, stop medicating with food. Make YOU a priority. If you don't love you and take care of you, how can you expect others to? You must be your biggest cheerleader!!
I wish you the best on your journey.
Kim
1) Make sure your support system is clear about what you can and cannot eat. I don't think it would be that bad to have a Whopper Jr every now and again (in maintenance), but with an ulcer, you probably need to be careful. If your support system is trying to sabotage your efforts, then do not rely on them--rely on your self. If they bring you things you shouldn't have, throw it away.
2) You should be taking advantage of this first year after surgery to lose as much as possible during the "golden time" and more importantly changing your habits because believe me, if you don't do it now, you'll have a VERY hard time in a few years when you can eat way more and you don't malabsorb calories any longer. Maybe a counselor can help you determine why you won't follow the rules?
Try to let go of that deprivation dieting mentality--AND the self punishment for "not following" the rules ("I'm not going to eat today..."). Your body needs nourishment--all day, every day. Punishing yourself by not eating REALLY is punishment, and the only one that will suffer is YOU. Food is food. Period. Some of it is better than others, but it is all just food. There are things that are better nutritionally, but guess what? You are human, and you are going to want the "junk" every now and then. When you get to maintenance, you should be able to HAVE WHAT YOU WANT..........IN REASON. This does not apply if you are a food addict.....I'm not, so I'm speaking as if you are not. If you are, I highly recommend therapy. In maintenance, you'll want to try to live like a thin person does-they eat what they want, but they also exercise more to burn it off.
3) If you aren't already, get involved in regular exercise. 6 times a week, at least 1 hour each time and mix cardio and weight training. There are many sins you can get away with when you are burning off the calories with exercise.
Bottom line-you invested a lot of time and money to get a shot at good health. Why are you making decisions that are absolutely counter to that decision? You are the only one that controls what goes into your mouth. I'm assuming you learned from all the years of obesity that the food will not soothe any feeling nor will it fix anything that is broken. Deal with the issues causing the feelings, stop medicating with food. Make YOU a priority. If you don't love you and take care of you, how can you expect others to? You must be your biggest cheerleader!!
I wish you the best on your journey.
Kim
As a graduate, I have a word for the Whopper Jr: LUNCH. OK, it's not a good choice but it's 370 calories and I can fit that into my caloric intake. Besides, sometimes you just want one.
At about 4 months, I remember getting an Egg McMuffin and for the calories I wanted I could have half so I cut it right there in the store, tossed half, and left. There really are no "bad foods" just your relationship with them. All foods have a place and a time, including cake and ice cream. The trick is to eat them appropriately and if that's impossible get some counseling.
So, unless the doctor has ordered you not to eat whoppers, figure out how much is appropriate and respond accordingly next time. I get the feeling your husband is not into your journey and that happens: your austere eating need not be his as well. However, ask him to help by eating at the BK before coming home or bringing home exactly the amount you've asked for.
At about 4 months, I remember getting an Egg McMuffin and for the calories I wanted I could have half so I cut it right there in the store, tossed half, and left. There really are no "bad foods" just your relationship with them. All foods have a place and a time, including cake and ice cream. The trick is to eat them appropriately and if that's impossible get some counseling.
So, unless the doctor has ordered you not to eat whoppers, figure out how much is appropriate and respond accordingly next time. I get the feeling your husband is not into your journey and that happens: your austere eating need not be his as well. However, ask him to help by eating at the BK before coming home or bringing home exactly the amount you've asked for.
Wow...I would never have even dreamed of eating fast food 4 months post-op, and I wouldn't have physically been able to do it anyway. And why would your husband bring you food like that anyway? I'm almost 2 years post roun-en-y and I won't eat a burger like that. I want to, but I think its best that I don't.
In any case, you recognize that what you did wasn't right, or that its something you shouldn't do (at this stage anyway), and now you can move on. I have days like that now, where I eat more than I should or eat something that I shouldn't. But at the same time I also agree that we can eat most foods in moderation. Maybe you should wait a little longer, until you get to your goal, and then slowly reintroduce those foods you love. Don't beat yourself up anymore and move forward, its ok :)
In any case, you recognize that what you did wasn't right, or that its something you shouldn't do (at this stage anyway), and now you can move on. I have days like that now, where I eat more than I should or eat something that I shouldn't. But at the same time I also agree that we can eat most foods in moderation. Maybe you should wait a little longer, until you get to your goal, and then slowly reintroduce those foods you love. Don't beat yourself up anymore and move forward, its ok :)
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