Consistency

I cut out sugar completely. It's a drug just like alcohol..you have to go through detox and the longer you stay away from it, the better you will feel..

If you are an alcoholic, you can't just have a little bit. They will drink the whole bottle and there is no moderation in alcoholism..none..it's none or the same thing you were in before.

Treat it like an addiction and you can over come it just like alcoholics and drug addicts..but you have to be strong..no one can do it for you or give you a magic pill or magic surgery..

quit using words like never, can't, won't..always..Build habits like exercise..even if it's just getting up from the chair and walking rather than watching yet another rerun of something on the idiot box..park further from the stores when you go shopping..plan activities that make you walk or at least MOVE..

You are so wise to have done this!  I agree that sugar is just like a drug - it's so addicting.  However, I am actually petrified to think of a life without it!  How sick is that?  I keep telling myself that I can control my usage, but I never do.  Well I can't say never, I have my good days and bad days, but I think you're on the right path by just cutting it out completely.  Then you don't have to worry about whether yesterday was good, and how is today going to be?

Thanks so much for sharing.

That's the addiction talking! There so many more diabetic and low and no sugar items out there...you will not have a problem..

You can see what I eat each day on the accountability threads. I don't go hungry!

Hi Carlita:  I think it is good that you are exercising more. What I have noticed over the years is that some people have more limitations from their surgery.  Often the people that were severely obese do the best.  Usually it is because they have more invasive RNYs.  Their pouches were made smaller, their bypasses longer and their stomas smaller.  I have noticed that really heavy people that clearly could not control their appetite before surgery lose their appetite after surgery.  For example I just read a profile of a man who weighed 492 lbs and after surgery he got down to 172 lbs.  Often they dump and get sick more when they eat incorrectly.  If you can tolerate chocolate (fat and sugar) my guess is that you don't have as many limitations from your surgery as some others.  Some people don't absorb many of the calories they eat because of their long bypasses.  Some people feel "like they can't eat another bite".  No surgery is the same.  Bottom line is that we need to eat less and move more.  Assume you burn 10 calories per pound of you (most people do).  To keep off 60 lbs. then you need to burn more or eat less 600 calories every day forever!  That is really tough when you have fewer limitations from the surgery but it is possible.  My dietitian has me eating 200 cal. at breakfast, 400 calories at lunch and supper and 3 snacks 150 cal., 150 cal. and 200 calories.  I am losing 1/2 to 1 lb. a week.  I can't eat less or exercise more.  By the way, I lost almost all of my weight over 20 years before I had the RNY.  Those people that maintain they are "using their tool" better than some others have a tool to use or they wouldn't have had to have surgery.  The "back on track together" group is full of people that need to lose 40 or more pounds.  They are a really nice group of supportive people.  Please check us out   Just me

THanks for the heads-up about the "back on track" group.  I will check it out sometime. I really appreciate your comments and hearing about what you are doing to get with it.  I think I'm in the group with less limitations, as I had about 100 to lose.  Will write more later.  Thanks again!

Hi, where do I find the back on track group, I don't see it under the forums.  I need some help and support!

Thanks!

I should also note, I am no longer pregnant... miscarried Monday and can't get the darn ticker off....

I agree about the sugar addition, which for me also extends to refined wheat flour.  Focus on dense protein and fat, which contribute to a feeling of satiety.  Fat doesn't make you fat unless you eat carbs with it.  Eventually the craving for sugar goes away, but it does take time, and flares up again with each slip.  I will say the thinking about treats doesn't go away as easily, I still "romance" goodies in the grocery store by poring over them, on TV commercials, reading recipes, etc.  Alcoholics call it going into a bar to order a drink of water, and it IS dangerous behavior.  But it's fleeting, and then I get back to what I was doing before.

Good luck!

Great post.  You are so right about this addictive-type behavior.  And you're right about the carbs/fat thing.  I did Atkins pre-WLS, and it definitely works-I was never hungry, and ate as much as I wanted of the legal foods, and still lost weight.

I'm very afraid of letting go of my sugar.  I think I know it's what I need to do, but can't make myself do it. 

Thanks for sharing.

Sugar is soooo...the problem for me too.    I have been fighting the same 8 pounds for 3 years.  But I'm so happy it is just 8.   After I lost 100 pounds from my VSG, I said "I am no longer a victim".    I keep telling myself that, food will not control me ever again.  I still screw up, but I DON'T HAVE TO.    I can control it and you can too.   

I know you are feeling desperation,  I can hear it in your writing.   Don't let 60 be 70.  You do have the power to stop it.    Being overweight is the most painful thing ever, but try to think about how you felt when you were at your lowest.