Need Help .. Know what to do but can't seem to get started
Hello,
I am new to this website and am I glad I found it! I had my surgery back in 2004, had 2 children after that and now have been diagnosed as a Pre-Diabetic. My highest weight was at 241lbs and my lowest was at 125lbs. I am currently at 157lbs and is has been sooooo hard to loose the weight or maintain the weight after the last baby 2 years ago! To be honest I have not followed a regimen either but thought that eating in smaller portions would help. Recently I went to the doctor because I was not feeling my best. I was diagnosed with Pre-Diabetes. I am pre-dispossed to Diabetes as it is which is why I took the final decision to have my surgery in the first place.
The thing is that I have been trying to get back on track and I have found it so difficult. I am trying to eat more proteins, less carbs, but everything has carbs! Trying to stay away from the soda (I am horrible, I don't even drink diet I drink regular coke) and drink much more water! I mean I know how I got to this but is so hard to get started. I keep thinking of course is in my best interest since my health is at risk but Lord is it hard!
Any suggestions on how to get that push? That quick motivation?
Please help.
I am new to this website and am I glad I found it! I had my surgery back in 2004, had 2 children after that and now have been diagnosed as a Pre-Diabetic. My highest weight was at 241lbs and my lowest was at 125lbs. I am currently at 157lbs and is has been sooooo hard to loose the weight or maintain the weight after the last baby 2 years ago! To be honest I have not followed a regimen either but thought that eating in smaller portions would help. Recently I went to the doctor because I was not feeling my best. I was diagnosed with Pre-Diabetes. I am pre-dispossed to Diabetes as it is which is why I took the final decision to have my surgery in the first place.
The thing is that I have been trying to get back on track and I have found it so difficult. I am trying to eat more proteins, less carbs, but everything has carbs! Trying to stay away from the soda (I am horrible, I don't even drink diet I drink regular coke) and drink much more water! I mean I know how I got to this but is so hard to get started. I keep thinking of course is in my best interest since my health is at risk but Lord is it hard!
Any suggestions on how to get that push? That quick motivation?
Please help.
Hi,
For me, my motivation is my children.... I have 3 little girls ages 7, 5 and 1 1/2. I had this surgery so our quality of life would be better. I had it between the last 2 kids.. I have 20 lbs on from pregnancy still and since the fall I had gained another 7.. My "fat" girl was back, at least my brain was even though I was still down 80 from my highest. One day I realized that I was hiding again. I wasn't being social with them. I was withdrawing. I felt horrible about myself and I was wallowing in failure and self pity..... So I picked a day and started. I have been following Atkins for the last week. I had been my most successful presurgery with this way of eating because it broke my carb addict cycle and I needed to do it again. The first 2 days were tough!!! Withdrawl from carbs.. headache and tired, and the cravings were killer.... But now that that is over, I am now in control again.. That is what I needed... To gain control... I honestly believe I have an addiction to carbs- certain kinds. I get OUT OF CONTROL with sugar and white flour. And they slide through my pouch with no problem. I have gotten back to basics, no drinking, mostly protein, vegetables... and I feel wonderful.. My bloat is gone. I can say no to food. And the best is I am down 5 lbs already.
My biggest piece of advice is GET RID OF THE SODA!!!!! It is pure sugar and until you do your cravings will be unbearable and you will not have the will power to make the changes you want. You can do this... Just pick the day and take it and hour at a time... Good luck.
Jessica
For me, my motivation is my children.... I have 3 little girls ages 7, 5 and 1 1/2. I had this surgery so our quality of life would be better. I had it between the last 2 kids.. I have 20 lbs on from pregnancy still and since the fall I had gained another 7.. My "fat" girl was back, at least my brain was even though I was still down 80 from my highest. One day I realized that I was hiding again. I wasn't being social with them. I was withdrawing. I felt horrible about myself and I was wallowing in failure and self pity..... So I picked a day and started. I have been following Atkins for the last week. I had been my most successful presurgery with this way of eating because it broke my carb addict cycle and I needed to do it again. The first 2 days were tough!!! Withdrawl from carbs.. headache and tired, and the cravings were killer.... But now that that is over, I am now in control again.. That is what I needed... To gain control... I honestly believe I have an addiction to carbs- certain kinds. I get OUT OF CONTROL with sugar and white flour. And they slide through my pouch with no problem. I have gotten back to basics, no drinking, mostly protein, vegetables... and I feel wonderful.. My bloat is gone. I can say no to food. And the best is I am down 5 lbs already.
My biggest piece of advice is GET RID OF THE SODA!!!!! It is pure sugar and until you do your cravings will be unbearable and you will not have the will power to make the changes you want. You can do this... Just pick the day and take it and hour at a time... Good luck.
Jessica
pre-op 265/current 160/goal 140
105 pounds gone forever!!!!
105 pounds gone forever!!!!
Hi!
I recently decided to get control again and I understand how hard it is to restart!!!! We know we need to keep up the protein and water and keep down the carbs and once we are outta control it seems quite overwhelming to get back on track. How bout focusing on only one of the things you need to do/change. For me I am concentratong on increasing the water intake. I have begun measuring out cups of water (2 at a time as I have a large cup) and I realize a few things: 1- I have definetly not been drinking anywhere near what I am supposed to. 2 - Unless I am commited, and really pay attention ****il it becomes habit), I could easily forget to drink anything but coffee (no good). 3 - I was sooo dehydrated and didnt see the signs, now (even after only 3 days of increasing my water intake) even my skin looks sooo much better. 4 - I feel much fuller. AND IMPORTANTLY... I feel empowered... I AM GOING TO GET CONTROL!!! One step at a time, thats what we need to do. You can do it too!!! Pick one thing you know you need to change or get control of and try it...one day at a time. Give it your best shot!!! And don't give up.. this is a life long journey we are on and it's NEVER to late to get back on track!!! Good Luck and please keep me posted!!!
Jane
I recently decided to get control again and I understand how hard it is to restart!!!! We know we need to keep up the protein and water and keep down the carbs and once we are outta control it seems quite overwhelming to get back on track. How bout focusing on only one of the things you need to do/change. For me I am concentratong on increasing the water intake. I have begun measuring out cups of water (2 at a time as I have a large cup) and I realize a few things: 1- I have definetly not been drinking anywhere near what I am supposed to. 2 - Unless I am commited, and really pay attention ****il it becomes habit), I could easily forget to drink anything but coffee (no good). 3 - I was sooo dehydrated and didnt see the signs, now (even after only 3 days of increasing my water intake) even my skin looks sooo much better. 4 - I feel much fuller. AND IMPORTANTLY... I feel empowered... I AM GOING TO GET CONTROL!!! One step at a time, thats what we need to do. You can do it too!!! Pick one thing you know you need to change or get control of and try it...one day at a time. Give it your best shot!!! And don't give up.. this is a life long journey we are on and it's NEVER to late to get back on track!!! Good Luck and please keep me posted!!!
Jane
Jane
Jane Ganly
Jane Ganly
I know exactly how you feel. I am coming up to my 7 year anniversary (2/2/2004) I fell off the wagon.
I began at 380 pounds, went down to 180 pounds and now I am up to 217. I am not liking myself very much. I don't have any excuses. I just don't have the will power. I have the same problem with the soda.( Mine is diet) I wish I would have never put that soda to my mouth.... I did not have any for over 3 years and then I tried... I have been hooked. I need to find that push also.
I do not drink enough of water. I am going to use that as my first goal. I WILL DRINK MORE WATER AND DROP THE SODA. Will you join me???
Lets help each other.
I began at 380 pounds, went down to 180 pounds and now I am up to 217. I am not liking myself very much. I don't have any excuses. I just don't have the will power. I have the same problem with the soda.( Mine is diet) I wish I would have never put that soda to my mouth.... I did not have any for over 3 years and then I tried... I have been hooked. I need to find that push also.
I do not drink enough of water. I am going to use that as my first goal. I WILL DRINK MORE WATER AND DROP THE SODA. Will you join me???
Lets help each other.
lahulala,
It's not about motivation because if that were true we would all be set up to fail. Think about it, who keeps motivation up 100% of the time? No one...not even skinny people.
You are not that overweight, you are still a success so now lift that chin up and continue on with life.
You can get to your magic number on the scale but think about it another way. You aren't on a diet, nothing is off limits but be aware of what you put in your mouth and journal. This doesn't give you permission to eat hog wild either. Anyone ever tell you that you can't have something or say "are you going to eat that?" Hummm...
Exercise and lifestyle change, it is meant for our whole lives. Some people over do it with exercise but you should exercise every day for at least 30 minutes. Have fun with exercise, include your children. Dance, go for a brisk walk. Leave at least 3 bites on your plate always. If you want sweets, do the 3 bite rule, your taste-buds are satisfied. If something sets you over the edge like chips or ice-cream then be very aware of these sweets. I bet if you stop drinking regular coke and switch to Coke Zero just making that change alone with drop pounds.
After 2 children and your at 157 I'd say you are marvelous. Stay off the scale, drop the coke if you can and you will see a change. Celebrate your success everyday even if it's not drinking your coke.
I'm much older than you. I'll be 55 next month. It's a daily struggle for me and always will be. I now have an Eating Coach. I practice Mindful Eating and journal. Cookies and chips are my downfall and always will be. I have to walk away from cookies! Hugs Debbiejean
It's not about motivation because if that were true we would all be set up to fail. Think about it, who keeps motivation up 100% of the time? No one...not even skinny people.
You are not that overweight, you are still a success so now lift that chin up and continue on with life.
You can get to your magic number on the scale but think about it another way. You aren't on a diet, nothing is off limits but be aware of what you put in your mouth and journal. This doesn't give you permission to eat hog wild either. Anyone ever tell you that you can't have something or say "are you going to eat that?" Hummm...
Exercise and lifestyle change, it is meant for our whole lives. Some people over do it with exercise but you should exercise every day for at least 30 minutes. Have fun with exercise, include your children. Dance, go for a brisk walk. Leave at least 3 bites on your plate always. If you want sweets, do the 3 bite rule, your taste-buds are satisfied. If something sets you over the edge like chips or ice-cream then be very aware of these sweets. I bet if you stop drinking regular coke and switch to Coke Zero just making that change alone with drop pounds.
After 2 children and your at 157 I'd say you are marvelous. Stay off the scale, drop the coke if you can and you will see a change. Celebrate your success everyday even if it's not drinking your coke.
I'm much older than you. I'll be 55 next month. It's a daily struggle for me and always will be. I now have an Eating Coach. I practice Mindful Eating and journal. Cookies and chips are my downfall and always will be. I have to walk away from cookies! Hugs Debbiejean
Maybe you could try to eliminate white flour and sugar. Those are the two big things that convert very quickly into unrefined carbohydrates in your system. I know that many things have a tiny amount of white flour and sugar in them. Trace amounts are okay. I'm just referring to breads, bagels tortilla, etc. when I say breads. With sugar, I read how much is in each package. If it has more thaan 15 grams of sugar, I don't eat it. Even natural sugars make me dump. My body doesn't know the difference between honey, fructose and white sugar. Any more than 20 grams makes me dump. I can't eat candy, frosting, cookies, etc. because when I start, I can't stop. One nibble of a cookie will make me eat the whole bag over the course of the day. I just eat small amounts at a time so I won't dump. That is horrible and dangerous behavior for me so I never take the first bite.
A trick that I have been using for a month is to eat everything out of the same size of small cereal bowl at every meal. That way, I have a visual comparison from meal to meal to show me exactly the volume of what I am eating. Any more than 1/2 bowl makes me bloat and feel uncomfortable. Rarely, I will split the meal between two bowls if it is something that would be nasty set beside something else in one bowl. I eat four 1/2 bowl sized meals a day - 8:00 am, 12:00 pm, 4:00 pm and 8:00 pm. and nothing in between.
Have you tried to look back at the photos of you during the course of you life before and after the bypass. I know you have gained some weight back but you are still much smaller than your high weight. I always remind myself of my top weight when I feel bad about where I am.
Hang in there. Keep posting here. Support, feeling like you are part of a weight loss community and a bit of accountability will go far.
A trick that I have been using for a month is to eat everything out of the same size of small cereal bowl at every meal. That way, I have a visual comparison from meal to meal to show me exactly the volume of what I am eating. Any more than 1/2 bowl makes me bloat and feel uncomfortable. Rarely, I will split the meal between two bowls if it is something that would be nasty set beside something else in one bowl. I eat four 1/2 bowl sized meals a day - 8:00 am, 12:00 pm, 4:00 pm and 8:00 pm. and nothing in between.
Have you tried to look back at the photos of you during the course of you life before and after the bypass. I know you have gained some weight back but you are still much smaller than your high weight. I always remind myself of my top weight when I feel bad about where I am.
Hang in there. Keep posting here. Support, feeling like you are part of a weight loss community and a bit of accountability will go far.
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