Anyone else miserable after weight loss?

I had the lap band 7 years ago. At the time I weighed 367 pounds. I've since lost 200+ pounds (depending on the day). I've had a tummy tuck, boob job and just 3 weeks ago a butt lift.
While I"m thrilled to be a more normal size, I sometimes find myself wishing I was fat again.

When I was fat I didn't care. There was no male attention. I was satisfied with what attention my husband paid me. I was satisfied with our sex life. I didn't care about my looks because no matter what you wear, you just can't make 367 pounds look good! 

The last 1.5 years has been a roller coaster of emotions. I strive to maintain my weight, my husband and I are in marriage counseling because of an affair (on my part), and life is just hard now.

Am I the only one experiencing this?

Wow, I am so sorry to hear that. I am only 5 months out from surgery, but I have noticed things starting to change myself. People act differently toward me and I actually care what I look like. I sometimes miss before, but I think only because I could eat whatever I want and whenever I want.

I don't miss the eating. I'm at the point where I can eat anything  in large quantities. The stressor there (i.e. miserable factor) is that I freak over a little weight gain and starve myself for a wee****il I'm back to where I should be. I know it's unhealthy, I know it's basically turned into an eating disorder, and others comment on it all the time. That's just one of things that's changed; I"m constantly anxious about my weight.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I have gotten to the point that if I eat too much or the wrong thing I sometimes make myself throw up. I try not to do this. I have had a good couple of days, eating healthy. Proud of that. I wish you well. I know that I have had an eating disorder of some type for years. It is difficult.

I'm sorry you are going through this.  It's good you and your husband are in counseling, I hope that can work things out for your marriage.

May I ask what kind of surgery you had?  It's great that you have been able to maintain all these years.

I am 4 yrs and down to 150.  I had a TT also and would really like the boob job, but more for comfort than appearance.  My husband has been very supportive and understanding through my journey.  I think he takes pleasure in having me as his wife and the response he gets when he introduces me to people.  He is 6'3 @300.  I really do enjoy the part that I turn heads and get attention although as a woman it also seems to isolate me from other women.  But yet I do enjoy it... but that is all it is for me is getting that little feeling when I know men are looking at me.  I know I truely love and respect my husband and he is the one that is there for me.  I am very careful not to get myself in to any situations that could lead to any infidelities.  Aside from that my husband is a very good provider and I usually tell myself that most men would not be able to provide the things I am accustomed to.

Hello All,
    I do not post often or respond but your tag caught my eye. I thought I was the only person unhappy with weight loss. I had my surgery in July 2008 and in November 2008 my husband of 18 years left me for another woman. I was blindsided and totally surprised. He is very tall and chubby himself. The woman he left me for is 10 years younger but certainly a large gal. I hate myself and tried every way I knew to sabotage my weight loss. I ate everything but still lost down to about 150 pounds. I weighed about 290 on my surgery day. I look at myself in the mirror and all I see is saggy, ugly skin. I miss my big boobs and my full face. I see all the wrinkles on my face and neck now. I look old and am miserable. I do have a new man in my life now and he thinks I look great. I cannot accept his compliments because I still feel so badly about myself. I do not notice men looking at me. My boyfriend and grown daughter tell me all the time that men are checking me out, but I am oblivious to it. I do notice other women "mean mugging" me when I am out, especially in a resturant or club. It hurts my feelings. I am not used to that. I always fixed myself up even when I was at my biggest point. I never leave the house without makeup, hair done, jewelry on, etc....so that hasn't changed. I am doing better but struggle every day because I know I can eat everything. I always want sugar and crave it. When I stay off of it, I am better and can control myself. The pouch is there and when I slow down and listen to my body, I feel it still. I have gained about 20 pounds and am now determined to get it off. This weight loss is not physical at all - it is emotional for everyone. Stay in couseling and I wish you the best of luck. Stay on here for support, we will all be here for you.

Hi Leigh,

I am not at all unhappy about my weight loss, no.  Life isn't perfect, of course, and there have been struggles along the way (I'm 4.5 years out), but I love being "normal" and healthy.

The attention from others, positive and negative, is something we all have to get used to.  This is a good place to vent about it!  I'm used to it now, and it doesn't affect me the way it did at first. Not that I get hit on by men all the time! lol  But that does happen, and now I can let it roll off and I just keep going.  

It's great that you are in marriage counseling, but if I were your in real life friend, I'd say it sounds like you need some private counseling, too.  Some things you just won't say in front of your husband, and also, not all of this has to do with him.  You are experiencing things that are affecting you emotionally and would, whether you were married or not.
Just my two cents worth.  God bless you!