Regain- anybody successful at relosing?

I had my RNY 5.5 years ago, and I have regained 35 pounds. Im so depressed and angry at myself! I feel like I am right back where I started,,but I know I have kept off 105 pounds so Im not really.

Has anyone out there experienced a regain and been successful at losing it? I just need some encouragement that all is not lost for me.

Im 64 years old,,in the summer Im active but the winter here in Indiana is cold,,so not so much. Im going to buy myself a gym membership in January..but right now Im stuck at home. Any suggestions?/ I have a Leslie Sansone set of dvds to walk away the pounds,,Im gonna start that again..and I have some Richard Simmons. Trouble is , I have kids and grankids here for a few months and my workout room is now a bedroom for them. I am so frustrated..and embarrassed.

Help!


SW: 340 lbs  LW- 195  CW-230

I am so sorry and I so feel your pain.  I originally lost down to 160 and am now at 235... how depressing is that... i am anxious to hear what others have to say...

i am also having stomach aches lately and am scared I have an ulcer... 

i am just a depressed fat mess that hurts 24/7...   

so try not to feel too bad... it could be way worse... you are still quite the success in my eyes...

hugs
donna

I totally understand your pain. I have also gained some weight. We must encouraged and remember where we came from. I give you all my support and together would be more than happy to go through the losing stage again with you. Be blessed.

Thanks for replying. I am right there with ya in the depression department.

I talked to a woman in my church that had the RNY 7 years ago. She lost 249 pounds and had 60 pounds of skin removed. She said when her mom died she gained 30 pounds. but she has recently taken it off and become a gym rat..She is a size 6 now,,and looks great. So, there is hope for us.

Lets just take it one pound at a time.....:)

That is encouraging news. I have had about 15 lbs creep up on me in the past 2 years...I could ignore it for a while because, although my clothes fit a little snugger, they still fit. The last few lbs of regain pushed me to a point where nothing is comfortable anymore.  It is very depressing.  I am now 7.5 yrs out. I know my regain is a result of sloppy eating habits and scattered exercise over the longterm....Winter has also sent me into a tailspin. My dr's answer to that is to "watch your diet closey and get more exercise". grrrr. Easier said than done!  I have a wls friend who had a little regain and also tackled it by becoming a gym rat---she is at the gym more than she is home! I just do not enjoy the gym that much, but I am going to give it a try to go more regularly.  Baby steps.....  I like what you said, "one pound at a time".  I have had a good eating day today, and will look forward to another day tomorrow.

I originally had RNY on 11-14-2000 at about 575 lbs and eventually got down to 336.  I had bounce back of about 30-40 lbs and mentioned it to my surgeon.  He said that a rebound of about 20% of the excess weight was normal.  I trusted him--what did I know back then.  In 2004, I had to be scoped and the internest said that it was as if I had never had the RNY.  I had a staple line disruption and needed an RNY revision.  That was done with a different surgeon on 01-21-05 ( the original surgeon no longer accepted my ins).  I weighed 426 then and got down to about 380 when I went in for a follow-up.

Unfortunately, I'm manic-depressive and didn't realize that I was clinically depressed at that time.  It seemed to me that the nurse in the surgeon's office berated me and I never went back for any more follow-up ( admittedly not too smart).  However, I did contact my shrink and found that I needed a new antidepressant but that he wouldn't prescribe it to me until Oct 2005 -that wa a precaution he had to take following the surgery.  So, my weight didn't go down like it should have.  I did get the new meds in Oct and joined a gym in early 2006.  I was able to lose about 20 lbs from aquasize but the gym terminated my membership because I fell a couple times on their property.  I can barely walk even with a rollator.

In 2009, I became abstinate from my addictive foods from mid Jan through mid May.  I used Dr Judith Beck's book, the Beck Diet Solution Weight Loss Workbook which provides abou 40 strategies for following diets.  You needn't do them all, but they become valuable tools for the rest of your life.

I celebrated my great feat by eating an addictive food in May and hadn't been clean for even one day since then until this past Sat at 7:00 am.  So, I'm enjoying (?) a tenuous abstinence now.  I did not binge between May of 2009 and this past Sat.  But, I did eat too much addictive foods.  My addictive foods do not come in single servings, i.e., I can't eat a potato chip.  Rather, I eat the whole bag.  So, when I get the urge to eat, I try to get the smallest bag possible.  We don't keep them in the home because the bag would never last overnight.

I started using an exercycle in my TV room in Oct and that has helped a lot.  I'm now using the techniques I had learned.  I'm currently back down to 337 which is within a pound of the lowest weight I've been post-op.

If you want to read more of what I have to say on a variety of topics, link onto my Latest Posts.  Respond to me here or by Contact.  I try to remain positive with my responses.

One thing I've realized lately is that I should treat myself with the same tenderness and mercy that I show to others.  And, I've been suggesting this to others who are slipping or badly tempted.  We should be kind to ourselves as well as being kind to others.  Bob

I read your post and sat back and said "WOW I COMPLETELY get how you are feeling" I have and still am where you are at..I think LOT's of us feel this way.  Once the "newness" wears off and the reality sets in of just being "normal" then we slowly fall back into old habits. I was once 270 (im 5 feet 1 inch) my lowest weight (for maybe an hour) was 135, I think...I had my surgery over 7 years ago.  I PROMISED myself that I will NEVER EVER go back...well today I weighed in at 166..I am not angry with myself...maybe I am a little dissapointed but it is my own fault...Soooo I went back to the basics from the beginning...protein drinks etc...and I am going to do my best not to cheat...The problem is that I KNOW I can eat more and I know that certain foods go down way to easy so I have to tell myself just because I can eat it does not mean I should and for me one slip and I am SCREWED!!!! My mental out look hasnt changed but my stomach size has...I really wish I could have a BRAIN BYPASS for my food addiction but thats not going to happen anytime soon.

FORGIVE yourself and get back to basics...You still have the "tool" ...start using it again....

Keep posting here because I have felt that this helps a lot!!!!

Good Luck and try and stay positive...YOU can do this!!!
Blessings
Stacey

Those are such encouraging words. Thank you so much!!!

Thanks for all the replies,,it helps to know people are reading and relating.

I just sat and watched the Biggest Loser online,,and every time I hear one of em say they will never go  back,,or never gain their weight,,I think,,its not that easy! They lost theirs in a surreal atmosphere..and they wont have the tool to help em.

I agree abou tthe brain transplant,,that would be awesome. I read someones post on another forum and they nailed it on the head. Im not hungry but I want to eat. Wow. That sums it right up.

Yesterday I stayed right at 1300 calories..
Today I have had 400 so far. I made a pot of Weigh****chers pointless vegetable soup..its beef broth and veggies and spices. Almost calorie free..great fiber..fat free. Its a great filler when I feel hungry. Im drinking water again and taking vitamins. Im telling myself I dont have a  huge amount to lose,,it could all be gone by summer or before if I am diligent and make the right choices.

My mantra is,,,one day,,one meal,,one minute,,one choice at a time.
Im hanging on to that..and coming back to this site often. You all have already helped immensely!

Be blessed.
Betsy

Had my RNY on 8/16/2004.  lost 103 and didnt learn a thing about eating or exercising.  was on that 2 year high when what ever i ate didnt stick.  so now i am 235.  I gained 56 pounds back.
the RNY aggrivated my Hypoglycemia and i was chasing my blood sugar all the time.  so i fianaly got tired last month of feeling bad.  So far its been 9 days without any "white" foods.  I also had a diet coke addiction, and i went off cold turkey.  I am not so concerned about the weight as i am of the blood sugar.  i was feeling like crap alllllll dayyyyy longggg.  Since i stopped eating crap, i am feeling better and if the weight comes off, its an added bonus.
Gina