Why we overeat and gain weight

 People overeat and stuff themselves in order to feel good.  It's the pleasure factor that we are all after when we eat.  When we stuff ourselves or give ourselves sweets, we actually are feeding the hormones in our body that give us pleasure sensations and those are the same sensations we get when we feel loved.  We are as addicted to that sensation whenever we choose to overeat, get drunk or take drugs.  All of them give us pleasure and all of us are seeking it.  People just don't understand that food is an addiction just like alcohol and drugs.    I personally realized that I was stuffing myself because I never had the love of my parents.  My mother abandoned me because she chose to be an alcoholic and my father chose to love his second wife more than me and I ended up living with friends and other relatives all of my life.  My father died when I was 15 and my mother died when I was 20.  I harbored anger and bitterness towards them all of my life and chose to 'fill that void' with food because it made me feel good like being loved feels good.  When I realized that fact, it helped me deal with the whole overeating issue itself.  When I chose to forgive my parents and love them despite their failures, the desire to overeat went away.  Granted, the surgery happened before I did that and the weight came off but I've managed to overcome the 'food is my life' issue because I chose to forgive.   See, when you think about it, the people who have surgery are forced to first drink liquids the first week.  Then they graduate to more solid liquids the second week.  Then they graduate to soft foods after that and eventually get to regular food but in small increments from then on.  If you stop and think about it, if a person would eat like that without surgery they would lose just as much weight as if they didn't have the surgery in the first place.   People regain their weight because they never dealt with the issue of why they overate in the first place.  They thought that the surgery would cure the whole fat issue and it doesn't.  They learn how to graze all day or stretch their pouch back out and then wonder why they've regained most or all of their weight.    A person's weight issue will never be solved with surgery.  It can only be cured by finding out why you are overeating and deal with that first and then learn to LISTEN to your body and only eating WHAT and WHEN it wants to eat.  People think that 'mouth hunger' is real hunger but it isn't.  Overweight people usually don't know what it's like to feel a hunger pain because they don't get to that point.  Food is their life.  They live to eat instead of eating to live.  No one really realizes how little food the body needs for fuel each day.    If you ask me if I would have had the surgery again, I would tell you no.  Most WLSers aren't that way.  I would have chosen to cure myself mentally first and then listened to my body and learned what it really wanted and when it wanted it instead of just throwing food down it when I saw a commercial or smelled food cooking.    I don't know what decision is best for you but I do know that you must love yourself enough to cure the inside before you cure the outside, however you choose to do that is up to you.  

What a lot of gross generalizations.

Well Macrobin... 
Since you chose to post this here, I can only assume that you are soliciting feedback rather than merely expressing your thoughts & feelings, otherwise I would think you would have posted this to your personal blog.
That said, I cant say that I agree with your statements regarding why over weight ppl are overweight & why individuals overeat.

I am very sorry for what sounds like a horrible upbringing & childhood. That must have been very difficult & I'm sure a lot of your weight issue can possibly be attributed to that. Especially during your childhood.
I think I can somewhat identify with that as I am now seeing traits of a lack of approval from my father. I cant recall ever hearing him say that he was proud of me & i was always striving to do better & do more all in search of his approval. I think this has really manifested in me as an adult as the constant need for approval from others - am I doing this right ?- how does this look? - are you OK w/ this or that? This really came to light most recently when i graduated from college (first gen in my family mind you). I do not recall him saying he was proud of me. Something so small & so simple, but is so significant & means so much.
However, I'm of the mindset that while that might have effected my mental/emotional being when i was a child & possibly contributed to my weight issue THEN. I am an adult NOW & as such I am solely responsible for my current weight issue. Anything else would be giving my dad too much power over me. Not to mention - its not all his fault & I'm not going to blame him for everything when i know full well that other factors come into play.

But back to the issue...
While it seems like a perfectly logical for some, lack of love is not the reason every overweight individual overeats. As we all know, there are many factors that come into play. Dealing with mental & emotional issues are definitely ONE critical component to successful weight loss & maintenance, that's why they have us see a counselor as a prerequisite to WLS.
Additionally, true dat, over time, food becomes an addiction & addictions are difficult to break - but they are breakable.
I have to completely disagree with your statement & the preceding: If you stop and think about it, if a person would eat like that without surgery they would lose just as much weight as if they didn't have the surgery in the first place.
As you probably already know, it takes way more than a few weeks of liquids to get any significant weight off & keep it off for more than 6 months... for more than the time that you are on liquids at that!
I'm sure you remember all the diet fads from over the years (especially during the 70's & 80's)& I'm sure you tried this & that as we all have at one point or anything during our struggle with weight. Therefore, if it were truly that simple, we wouldn't have nearly over 1 billion adults worldwide who are over weight (WHO World Health Report, 2003) & approx 1 in 3 or 35.70% or 97.1 million people in USA who are over weight. NOTE - I haven't even mentioned stats on the kids! http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com/o/overweight/stats.htm

Well... I've spent enough time on this issue. It's a shame you didn't identify your issues pre-surg. You might have saved yourself the trouble of going through the surg & post op yada yada.
Personally - I still say having the RNY GBS is the best decision Ive ever made in my entire life. 6 yrs ago & said Why on earth didn't I do this before?!?! Why did I wait so long to have it?!??! But the technology wasn't what it was 6 yrs ago, nor was I "ready" for it. So i had it when it was the right time for me to have. The fact that I haven't done a good job at maintaining my weight loss is my own fault & no one elses. I'm the one whose misused my tool & I'm the one that's gettin git back in to shape & re-learning how to use it properly. 

I'm happy for you that you've made the breakthrough & forgave your parents. Forgiveness is what is really important.
May God continue to bless you with His wondrous peace.