Help did I mess up for good?

Okay so it takes all I have to come here and post.  I guess it is like admitting that I have failed even after my bypass.  Sigh.  I am trying to figure out when the wheels fell off it could be many times over these past 6-8 months.  I went through a horrible divorce moved my life and children to Orlando from St. Petersburg.  I moved in with a friend so that I could have help with rent and bills.  I lost my job in June.  Hmmm well there ya go and during all of these FUN times I have managed to put on about 30 pounds.  I am depressed and scared to death that I have completely f'd up my pouch.  (sorry for being so blunt)  I just need someone to tell me that I still have a  bypass that it will come back off and that I can get down to my happy size again.  I was a 4/6 which is perfect because I am a short gal but a size 12 that I am in now SUCKS.  I know I don't look HUGE which is fine people tell me all the time OHH stop would you you are NOT big look at what you have lost even still.  Okay that does NOT help me.  If I don't get control soon it will be even harder to get myself back.  I went through a tummy tuck and got the boobs done and now I feel like i am screwing that surgery up too by stretching my tummy out.  What is wrong with me???????  I am a total idiot.  I just need some help if you have suggestions how I need to start please let me know.  I think that I am not trying because I am afraid that I have blown it so why bother. 

Get up! Brush yourself off and remember that every thing happens for a reason. And you can do this. I am 4 years out and can still loose. It is not to late. I know depression way to much. Find something else to do than turn to food. I got hooked on xanax now when I fene for some I go and walk and walk. Trying to get off them is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do. It was a week on saturday that I stopped my xanax benge. The withdrawls suck big butt!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But I can do it and you can do it with your weight. I am a weak person. So I feel your pain. Good luck. 

Have a blessed day

Amy

Why bother? Because you need to love yourself...You need to decide that you are the most important thing you need to take care of..I don't know how many people told me before surgery that they didn't think I needed surgery at all. Now when they see the old pictures, they say "I never knew you were THAT big." They don't know what you need inside your brain to survive and thrive.

Yes, you can lose the weight and the pouch will still work. Work is the key..it's work and it's not really easy. First you need to see what you are eating. Do you have a journaling site? fitday or dailyplate. I like fitday. Then you put everything you eat into the journal and see where you need to adjust. Don't try and adjust too much at a time. You can lower the carbs and increase the protein and do pretty much anything, gain or lose by seeing what you are doing and change it alittle.

If it's sugar that's the problem, steer away from it. There are some of us grads that participate in the accountability posts each day. I usually start them but it's up for anyone to post how their day went and what they're doing. We all stay accountable and open to suggestions..None of us are perfect. It's either mental or physical but we all need encouragement..

Always ALWAYS take your supplements...No excuses for that at all. Now go and do the hard things...You can do it. If I can...you sure can.

The tool is still inside you.  The trick is to get your brain wrapped around that fact.  Only you are the one that can change whats happened.  I am not going to say that I've been through what you've been through over the last couple months, but I can say that I found that over the last 3 years that I've too, have put on 30 pounds.  I had some medical issues and still getting those resolved, but just like everything else we've been through, Its something that we have to do for ourselves.  You have to get to that point.  Admission is the first step, you've done that, now run with it. 
I can offer some hope though, in the last 3 months, by getting back to the basics and following the rules, I have dropped 15 pounds.  Was it easy? NO.  Its just something you have to put your mind to. We have the tool, now use it.
Good luck and God Bless. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs,  dawn   :)

I hear that people who have gone off track can get back by using the 5 Day Pouch Program. at http://5daypouchtest.com/  Best wishes, I know you can succeed!

I'm seven years out and last year I decided I had had enough of the weight gain cr*& and I started changing my life, again.

It takes one foot in front of the other.  One step at a time.  One moment at a time if need be.

I have went from 235 to 194 since last November (I did not weigh myself before November when I got on my wii fit).  I started working out and eating better way before that, but it took awhile to kick in the weight loss.  I'm not sure where I will end up but my goal is to just feel better.  The sciatica that I was suffering from last year is almost gone.  

I am 5 ft 7 and 35 years old.  I have struggled with addiction transferance (hello alcohol and pills) and depression.  I get up every day and accept the challenge that is life.

You can do this.  If you are depressed, find a therapist (I'm sure that Florida has mental health help for people who cannot pay-go ask at your local public health department). 

One step at a time, one moment at a time.  Put one foot in front of the other.

My goal is to be fit by 40.  I have lost 41 pounds so far, I have about four more years to get the rest off.  Long term goals and doing your best every day.  If you have a bad day, you can start over the next day. 

This is life, you don't have to do it perfectly just do your best.