Same Story different person

Hi!  Someone said I should post this here, so I am . . .

Ok, I'll try to keep this short.  I had my surgery on 7/5/05, I was a lightweight.  I lost my weight and was doing really well...I never got to the real goal - my body lost about 30% of my bodyweight and stalled.  I maintained about 15lbs over my original goal, but my doctor and I were happy.  I lost a total of 75.3lbs.

Here's why I'm back.  I need some support, help, etc.  In August 06, a little over a year after surgery I moved 2000 miles away.  I left my nutritionist, doctor, surgeon, support group, family, etc.  I completely fell off track about 3 months after I moved and I've never found my way.  I now look at myself and I've gained (I can't believe I'm being honest right now) 50lbs in 2.5years.  Obviously, that's a huge chunk of my weight.  I'm completely out of my mind with regret, humiliation, etc.  How did this happen, how could I fail this miserably, etc.  Another weight loss surgery site has this 5 day test thing that I've tried, 4 or 5 times, with no success.

Anyway, I'm back here because this is where I've started.  I realize many, if not most, of you may not have failed like me, but maybe there's at least one out there?  I recently joined weigh****chers at least for the accountability aspect of it, even though I can't possibly eat everything they want you to in a day (all those fruits, veggies, points, etc).  Has anyone else had to reach out to another program like that for help getting weight loss started again? I feel like if I'm just left to my own resources I'm not getting it done.

Am I alone here is is someone else on this wagon, too?

You are not alone. I hear this story told daily on this board. I am on that wagon as well. My lowest weight was 183 and I gained up to 207. My doctor recommended WW and that's what I did to help stay accounable. Just knowing that I had to check in once a week kept me straight. I rarely eat the amount of points that they suggest but I do follow the point system. I eat more fruits and vegtables now since joining WW so my carb count is higher but they are good carbs.

Hang in there! It's possible to get back on track! Go back to basics

Thanks :-)  The basics part was so much easier when you're first out of surgery!  I remember having no appetite and having to force myself to eat...ugh.

No, you are definitely NOT alone!

I had maintained my weight (although not at goal) for more than 3 years and then this past six months have really lost my way.  Due to depression (family & job) I stopped exercising and  increased my grazing of mini-meals and have gone back up to 260#.  AAAARGH!

Since I left the job that had me so depressed, and have moved to CA in searching for work, I have been able to begin walking again, as well as eating right.  I look forward to getting back to my size 10-12 pants!

Good luck to both of us.

Weigh****chers has been grand to me.  -62lbs last year.  It helps tremendously to be accountable, to weigh in, to have the support of others, to have a wonderful group leader.

Oh, now WW is forming walking groups all over.

Good Luck, You Can Do It!!!

Really?  WW helped you lose 62lbs?  Awesome.  How did you do it?  Did you feel like your point range as too high for you?  I find myself getting to the point where I can't eat anymore so I stop and it's definitely helping me to keep track of everything.  I tried doing that on my own but always slipped things in here and there.

Well, here's to your success...congratulations and I hope to be where you are soon!

Mere

Thanks.

How did I do it?  I was sooooooooooooooo desperate, embarrassed, disappointed.  I just dropped myself off at WW one day and surrendered (I thought I had done this pre-op with the many other things I tried but this was real).   I didn't want to be fat anymore - didn't want fat as an initial excuse for not living the way I thought I should or not having what I thought I should have.  I wanted to still have a chance to have babies, I wanted to push off any illness that may have occured if I had kept my weight.  I felt bad about myself .  I was desperate and humble and receptive.  I knew everything about dieting and exercising but I walk in a room empty and willing to learn.  I scream teach me because obviously I do not know.  I can not do it alone.

 FYI, My Band had almost never worked and I was in the midst of a WLS revision appeal that cold snowy day that I walked into WW.  Today, I'm losing my size 8's

Find a meeting with a group leader that you can relate to.

Best,
Leila

Oh My Dear,
I'm on the exact same wagon as you. If you look a few post right below yours, this one, you'll see "I'm discouraged, really down" that's my post. Everyone was so encouraging and supportive that replied to my post. All words-of-wisdom, people who we can learn from, people who are successfully staying at their goal. I feel like I'm on a run-away-train that I just can't, for the life of me, stop. Your words: "completely with regret and humiliation." You know, after GBP I THOUGHT I finally had my wt problem licked, heck with my small pouch, I can NEVER eat alot again, it's all mind bloggling. This I know, staying down in the dumps is NOT the answer, "fall down 7 times get yourself back up 8.... I do not dump..... I can eat candy bars galore and not get sick. Yes, if we want it BADLY ENOUGH we will and certainly can get to our goal and stay there. We have alot of mental issues behind all this, I think. I'm a night eater, like I can pig out after everyone is in bed and it'll never show... I believe journaling, drink plenty of water, being active in this blog, leave carbs alone, etc... we have to have tools in our tool box to work with.
please know, you are no alone.I'm right where you are.