Almost three years post -op

Hi everyone.  I am almost three years post -op.  I have lost 91 pounds, and am still sruggling to lose 10 more.
      My problem is all of my loose skin.  i have loose skin hanging over my bra, and I have a big roll of skin above my belly button. I have the worst time finding clothes to fit me. They look ok standing up sometimes, but when I sit down, forget it .  It all flows.  I have tried every undergarmet known to man kind.  I think.  They all ride up, ride down, are to heavy in hot weather ect. My skin wiggels and jiggles.
   I am so miserable, I sometimes feel like I want to die. I have totally ruiened my body.
I'm just looking for some input, about how to deal with this.  Have any of you found anything to help you?  Am I the only one? 
    My insurance company Tuffts denied me for Panniectomey also.
 Please help and give me idea on how to look good with my clothes on and to be comfortable.

Some people have worse issues than others. I heard that if you have rash issues because of folded over skin, you can get your insurance to reconsider. I don't have that issue but if I wasn't happily married, I'd be getting the extra skin removed, I figure.

Mine isn't too bad but I try not to look at myself neked too much. LOL.

have you tried spanx I love them

What is or are spanx?

Shapewear is my best friend.  I also lost 91 lbs so far and skin is the worst however shapewear kicks it right into gear.