i'm back :(... and for all the wrong reasons...

Hi all, I'm not sure if any of you remember me, I've been here off and on for the past 4 years (OH) and i've been a WLSG since 2007, i'm 2.5 years out of my surgery (may 5th, 2006) and my scale is all of a sudden quickly going in the wrong direction. This past year has brought a gigantic amount of changes to my life. Last October, my husband of 4.5 years and I split up very amicably. I moved out, got into some trouble :(... and then straightened myself out and met the love of my life. I lived in my own place for  a year, and this past October moved in with my true-love (same guy from the "love of my life" statement). That aside, the first few months of our relationship were so packed w/ home-repairs and running and working out and walking and "physical" contact (wink, wink).. that I easily maintained my weight... In the past 3 mo, i've noticed my clothes getting noticibly tighter, but not too bad... and a little meat meant a little less hanging skin... and things were good.. Then summer hit, drinking, and barbeques..and all of a sudden, what do you know??? I can eat more, and realize I'm eating full portions...and then snacking later.... and then all of a sudden..those "snug" clothes.. are tight! and unattractive...and so I get back on track, cut back on my portions, cut out the fats and the starches..I mean..after all, we all know how to do this right?? I don't need any help..right?? WRONG!!!  I'm a mess!!!! I am now in a position where it seems as if I am gaining weight minute by minute! I swear! I weigh more now than I did when I came to work this morning!. I have a huge muffin top coming out the back of my jeans, and my sweater that is usually too big on me is very form fitting...  I need help.. I need to get back on track..I need to come back to my roots and I'm hoping you guys will welcome me back.. not that I left on bad terms, I just kinda..left.... and that was a mistake.... don't get me wrong, I've never once forgotten where I've come from..but..I need to get re-directed to where I need to go.. please help??? Does anyone have that 5 day stomach re-set thingy? or something? I've already started riding my bike 2-3 times a week, going to the gym at least once...and walk every single night w/ my guy (he gained 35lbs since we started dating..I'm a good cook...) ..so i'm on the right track, but it seems like now I'm gaining weight at mach 10 speed! help!?

jess

Hey Jess, Welcome Back! Here's the link to the 5dpt~
http://www.5daypouchtest.com/

It sounds like you're getting back on track already with working out and trying to cut out the bad carbs. What about drinking with  meals and 30/30 before and after?? Are you taking in at least 64oz or fluid daily? How much protein?? Do you track or journal your food somewhere like thedailyplate.com? What about going to support group?? I find these are all things that are helpful to me. Good Luck and update us on your progress!!!

Hi,
I left too and am now back also.

You are doing the right thing by getting back on track before it gets to be too much.  Be proud of yourself, you have gone through alot and still, only probably gained 5 or so pounds (maybe 10 or more) but so what! Prior to surgery how much would you have gained? Seriously think about it.

I too went through alot the 2 years after surgery (had my RnY 6 years ago), Moved, met someone, married, baby, divorce...and gained about 30 lbs plus a few more too. I felt horrible.

I left a very unhealthy realationship but the stress of that caused me to shut down mentally and barly exist. That did cause me to stop eating, so much stress I could not eat. That is something I never understood that my skinny friends would tell me, they would get so stressed out they could not eat. Now I am like them but you know what, that beats eating a chocolate cake because I was stressed.

Give yourself a pat on the back. You are taking care of you. The weightgain is a slight bounce back but sounds to me that you are getting it back together.

The 5 day pouch test is online, just do a search. It works for people. I never got around to it, my divorce kinda gave me the jump start, now I need to keep at it.
Good luck.

Thanks Tracey, I remember you from before. :) You were also so nice with advice, and never judgemental. Thank you for the 5 day pouch test link, I"m going to do this next week..silly to start it over Thanksgiving. But, I've already been cutting back, have my weight back under 150.. a whopping 149.2...but still..LOL 

I think I feel i've gained "more" because I dropped to 132 back in last December, and was a size 4, almost a 2..and now i'm back up to a size 6 maybe an 8, depending on the pants. :) Anyhow, I am going to re-charge and focus on my needs. I've been focusing on my boyfriends needs and my works needs...and have lost track of myself. :) Thanks! and yes, I was drinking during meals, but have stopped doing that. :) my biggest issue is coffee w/ breakfast... need to stop drining my coffee w/ my breakfast and then cut the caffeine out again all together. :)

thanks!

jess

Welcome Back Jess, you've come to the right place for support.  Tracey gave you some good questions to ask yourself to be sure you are following the rules.  One thing I didn't see (might be an oversight) is vitamins?  Are you taking your vitamins and when did you have your last labs drawn? 

I have definitely seen more struggles this past year also, right now I'm at the top of my range and fearful of what's ahead with the holidays, parties, etc.  I don't want to allow myself to much space but then again want to enjoy all the parties and food (yes I'm still a food junkie).

I'll be checking the boards often in the coming weeks.  I know next week I'll PLAN my week of food out and stick to it.  I do know that if I plan and measure out exactly what I'm allowing myself for the day and drink my water (I struggle here) that I do much better.

Good luck!

I would suggest finding a good NUT to work with, perhaps a refresher and some guidelines will help? Early out we are more structured with what to eat and when to eat it... as we get further out we are left to our own devices. Womens Day has a good eating plan that fits into the WLS lifestyle (if you google 1400 calorie diets you should find it... the plan is for any caloric range) that could give you a good basis... or find any plan online if you feel that will help you. Get back to logging your food as well so you can see exactly where you are falling. I would even suggest seeing a surgeon/PCP and getting your bloodwork done to make sure everything is ok there. Have you been dilligent with your suppliments?