Can anyone relate?
I am a bit over 2 years out of RNY gastric bypass.
I done absolutely amazing for the first year. I would even go so far to say "model bariatric patient." I look forward to seeing the weight go down and it did, never failed to ...
It all went down hill around 1 year post-op.
Please note, I am not looking for pity ... I believe I am looking for someone who can perhaps relate to me.
I haven't taken my vitamins since around Feb. of this year. Very stupid, I know. I know what risks I am taking without taking them. NO EXCUSE for that. I had a lot of constipation problems... and also was taking 3 stool softeners per day. I'm not sure if that is okay or not...
I feel like I haven't had surgery. Some things make me sick but I can mostly eat anything. I haven't worried about protein/carbs/fat for a long time. I haven't been back to see my surgeon since then. I am embarrassed.
I am a diet soda addict and cannot remember the last time I had water.
I want to be better, I want to feel like I had this life changing surgery, I want the scale to go down again... I WANT RESTRICTION!
I do not want to do fad diets or take diet pills. I have a big problem with planning my meals.
Can anyone relate?
Has anyone been here and overcame it??
I done absolutely amazing for the first year. I would even go so far to say "model bariatric patient." I look forward to seeing the weight go down and it did, never failed to ...
It all went down hill around 1 year post-op.
Please note, I am not looking for pity ... I believe I am looking for someone who can perhaps relate to me.
I haven't taken my vitamins since around Feb. of this year. Very stupid, I know. I know what risks I am taking without taking them. NO EXCUSE for that. I had a lot of constipation problems... and also was taking 3 stool softeners per day. I'm not sure if that is okay or not...
I feel like I haven't had surgery. Some things make me sick but I can mostly eat anything. I haven't worried about protein/carbs/fat for a long time. I haven't been back to see my surgeon since then. I am embarrassed.
I am a diet soda addict and cannot remember the last time I had water.
I want to be better, I want to feel like I had this life changing surgery, I want the scale to go down again... I WANT RESTRICTION!
I do not want to do fad diets or take diet pills. I have a big problem with planning my meals.
Can anyone relate?
Has anyone been here and overcame it??
yes I can relate to some, but NOT with you not taking your vitamins.. come how hard is it to swallow a pill. I keep my vitamins in my desk draw at work (since I am there more than at home)
But the no****ching my protein and carbs and SUGAR is something I really can relate to.
I was like you at first the model patient.. but as I became to feel like more of a 'normal' person I began to think, well I am normal now, I can have that cookie and piece of candy etc.
I have come to the realization that I will never be "normal' It is not that there is something wrong with me, just my body doesn't matabolize calories like most people. I will be 3 years out next month. I had loss a total of 192lbs but have since put back on 40lbs.. It makes me very depressed but 152lbs is still amazing. You didn't mention if you have gained weight?
I think the best thing to do is go back to the beginning.. read all the info you got before your surgery, this is what I did. It was like a refresher course. I am sure there alot of people here that will have other ideas. You are not alone..
We can do this
Lynn
But the no****ching my protein and carbs and SUGAR is something I really can relate to.
I was like you at first the model patient.. but as I became to feel like more of a 'normal' person I began to think, well I am normal now, I can have that cookie and piece of candy etc.
I have come to the realization that I will never be "normal' It is not that there is something wrong with me, just my body doesn't matabolize calories like most people. I will be 3 years out next month. I had loss a total of 192lbs but have since put back on 40lbs.. It makes me very depressed but 152lbs is still amazing. You didn't mention if you have gained weight?
I think the best thing to do is go back to the beginning.. read all the info you got before your surgery, this is what I did. It was like a refresher course. I am sure there alot of people here that will have other ideas. You are not alone..
We can do this
Lynn
You are absolutely not alone! I know that a lot of us that are past the "honeymoon" stage struggle. I too feel like I did not have surgery and I miss the restriction that I had in the beginning. If only it could last forever! I have come to realize that I am going to have to watch everyday what I eat, keep a close eye on my weight so I don't gain and be sure to keep the water and vitamins and protein at a high level. You can do this, you can make it back to your goal. You committed to the surgery two years ago, recommit now. If you can't give it up limit your diet soda( I have a problem with it too). Treat yourself to one after you get all of your water in for the day. I can't drink plain water very well so I use a lot of Crystal Light and other no cal flavors. Like the previous poster said, look through all of your old materials, any journals you might have kept and keep on this site! The more I come here the more I learn and the more inspired I am. Look for good recipes. Keep your protein high and your carbs low. Do you exercise? I know that would help you out a lot! You know what to do, you just have to put it into action again. Make yourself plan your meals and snacks and please, please get back on your vitamins. Maybe you could get ahold of your nut at your surgeons office, just fess everything up and ask for help. I am sure you are not the first nor the last, I am sure more people are in your position than you realize. Don't be embarassed, you are human. Food can be a powerful addiction!
I wish you the best, please stay in touch!
Shanon
I wish you the best, please stay in touch!
Shanon
RNY 2/14/07
This surgery is a tool, but not a fix all. I am 15 months out. I am starting to be able to tolerate sugar a little better. I simply DO not allow myself to eat things I know I should not. It takes alot of willpower, but I REFUSE to let myself go through all that I have and then gain again. SODA is TERRIBLE for you. It EXPANDS your pouch. The carbination is what is doing that. Stop and think about all of the things you are doing to effect your weight loss and stop them all. I can gain two pounds a week just by eating saltine crackers instead of wheat crackers. I keep a food diary and weigh every morning. Maybe I am obsessive, but I can tell what, when and how I eat that makes me gain. I NEVER want to get big again, and I cannot afford to buy new clothes anymore lol. Go back to when you first had the surgery, and follow THAT diet for a few days. Let that pouch work for you. I would let your surgeon know about the soda and have them check to see if it has expanded too much. Best of luck to you!
I don't want to be addicted to the scale. I want to just be at a healthier weight. This is something I don't want to obsess over. I want to be able to live my life without jotting down each bite I have.
Carbonation does not expand your pouch, this is an old myth. I'm not worried about the pouch as much as the stoma.
Thanks for your input Kathleen. I was never super skinny but I felt comfortable at around 200. I'm about 45 lbs away. I am keeping this in mind. At one point I was 120+ lbs away from that so it could be much worse, right.
I have a difficult time planning meals.
I wi**** were easier.
Carbonation does not expand your pouch, this is an old myth. I'm not worried about the pouch as much as the stoma.
Thanks for your input Kathleen. I was never super skinny but I felt comfortable at around 200. I'm about 45 lbs away. I am keeping this in mind. At one point I was 120+ lbs away from that so it could be much worse, right.
I have a difficult time planning meals.
I wi**** were easier.
No pity from here. This is work and we have to work at it for the rest of our lives. I'm 3 years post-op and am maintaining, but I work at it everyday.
You know you need to take your vitamins, calcium and whatever else you need to take FOR LIFE. Do you drink with your meals? - can't do that. Do you get in your protein - you have to if you want to do well, and BE well. As for soft drinks, they need to go and water (with Crystal Light, etc.) needs to be pushed DAILY.
Please go back to your surgeon and start over with vitamins, etc. I drink 2-4 protein shakes per day - that is the only way I can get in enough protein. Have you ever visited the site BariatricEating.com? You should. You can get really great vitamins, protein, etc. - everything you need. Also, Vitalady.com is a great site. And as for the water, ou
I'm not saying I'm perfect - not by a long shot, but I really work at this everyday. You said in your post that you CAN eat mostly anything - but that doesn't mean that you SHOULD eat mostly anything. We have altered our bodies forever and have gone through way too much to undo it by eating stuff we shouldn't be eating.
As for your pouch, I think it still works, you just need to put the right things into it.
Question: Have you reached your goal weight? How much weight have you lost?
Best of luck to you, but please make some changes NOW.
Linda
You know you need to take your vitamins, calcium and whatever else you need to take FOR LIFE. Do you drink with your meals? - can't do that. Do you get in your protein - you have to if you want to do well, and BE well. As for soft drinks, they need to go and water (with Crystal Light, etc.) needs to be pushed DAILY.
Please go back to your surgeon and start over with vitamins, etc. I drink 2-4 protein shakes per day - that is the only way I can get in enough protein. Have you ever visited the site BariatricEating.com? You should. You can get really great vitamins, protein, etc. - everything you need. Also, Vitalady.com is a great site. And as for the water, ou
I'm not saying I'm perfect - not by a long shot, but I really work at this everyday. You said in your post that you CAN eat mostly anything - but that doesn't mean that you SHOULD eat mostly anything. We have altered our bodies forever and have gone through way too much to undo it by eating stuff we shouldn't be eating.
As for your pouch, I think it still works, you just need to put the right things into it.
Question: Have you reached your goal weight? How much weight have you lost?
Best of luck to you, but please make some changes NOW.
Linda
I'm actually not sabotaging myself. I could see it as being self-sabotage if I continued the behaviour. I am asking for ways to get on track. I am not at all trying or wanting to hurt myself. I want to be a healthy young person and enjoy the life I have.
My life depends on it? Nicole, I always value input from anyone who takes time to write but this is a bit much.
I've simply gotten way off track. I am taking my vitamins again. At this point I am taking baby steps. I took my healthy lifestyle and completely flipped it. and I will flip it again to do the right thing.
I will never quit.
Thank you.
My life depends on it? Nicole, I always value input from anyone who takes time to write but this is a bit much.
I've simply gotten way off track. I am taking my vitamins again. At this point I am taking baby steps. I took my healthy lifestyle and completely flipped it. and I will flip it again to do the right thing.
I will never quit.
Thank you.
I 'get' what you mean...but actually she may have a point with the whole 'your life depends on it' thing as far as vitamins go. Going without vitamins CAN have irreversable effects, even once you go back to taking them.
The great news is that you recognize what's happening and taking steps to remedy it. I think we have ALL been there in some form or fashion. Maintenance is just as hard as learning how to live life as a post-op. My scale has been up...nothing dramatic, but UP nonetheless. Enough to scare me!!! It sounds repetitive...but back to basics...lots of protein, and LOTS of water in between meals is usually what helps to reign me in. Are you getting any exercise in? I don't know about you but that was always hardest for me. I try to fit the gym in 3-4 times a week. I know that feeling that you don't want to obsess over the scale...I am the same way about how counting calories, protein grams, carbs, etc. I can do it for a while, but after that it does make me feel obsessed to the point that it becomes depressing. Maybe sit down and figure out some of the foods you like to eat, see what their nutritional value is...track for a while until you get a good handle on what you're eating? Also when I get 'off', it helps me to measure food out for a while. I also to this day still eat all of my meals off of a salad plate. It makes your portions look bigger.
ETA: And even though it sucks...the one thing that I still do is weigh myself daily. I know it sounds crazy but I honestly believe this is one of the BIGGEST reasons I have kept my weight off at 4 1/2 yrs post-op. It is a good way to keep ahold to the bigger picture...much harder for the pounds to creep on. I know a lot of folks disagree but it works for me.
The great news is that you recognize what's happening and taking steps to remedy it. I think we have ALL been there in some form or fashion. Maintenance is just as hard as learning how to live life as a post-op. My scale has been up...nothing dramatic, but UP nonetheless. Enough to scare me!!! It sounds repetitive...but back to basics...lots of protein, and LOTS of water in between meals is usually what helps to reign me in. Are you getting any exercise in? I don't know about you but that was always hardest for me. I try to fit the gym in 3-4 times a week. I know that feeling that you don't want to obsess over the scale...I am the same way about how counting calories, protein grams, carbs, etc. I can do it for a while, but after that it does make me feel obsessed to the point that it becomes depressing. Maybe sit down and figure out some of the foods you like to eat, see what their nutritional value is...track for a while until you get a good handle on what you're eating? Also when I get 'off', it helps me to measure food out for a while. I also to this day still eat all of my meals off of a salad plate. It makes your portions look bigger.
ETA: And even though it sucks...the one thing that I still do is weigh myself daily. I know it sounds crazy but I honestly believe this is one of the BIGGEST reasons I have kept my weight off at 4 1/2 yrs post-op. It is a good way to keep ahold to the bigger picture...much harder for the pounds to creep on. I know a lot of folks disagree but it works for me.
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