What is the PROBLEM???
It's my problem, and from some of the posts I've been reading, a lot of others are struggling with the same thing. Why are we constantly suffering with this weight issue? We had SURGERY with the hopes of never having to "worry" about this anymore, and here it is, that "FAT" monster, creeping it's way up behind us yet again.
I'm so angry right now, and at no one but myself, for allowing myself to have a 25 pound regain! But, what's really going on here? Because post after post I'm seeing post-ops strugging with weight gain. Why can't we just get it together? Is it because we've struggled with weight and dieting all of our lives, and now that the post-op honeymoon phase is over, we will need to "DIET" again? But what's SO frustrating about me is that I KNOW what to do! I know how to lose weight, and I just DON'T. Is is laziness? Do I just not care? Is anyone else struggling with regain having these feelings too?
For our own good, we need to get our heads right again. Seriously, so maybe it is a 25 pound regain, or for some of you 10 pounds, or 50 pounds.......IT'S STILL NOT 100 POUNDS, OR 150 POUNDS!!! Let's not get back to our old selves and end up hating what we've done to ourselves. How do we do it together and break away from this upward spiral?
I feel the same way! My problem is that I eat for EVERY reason except hunger - boredom, anxiety, stress, etc. I always heard that this surgery would not fix my head, but five years later, it's really setting in!
I've been listening to an audio book called "The Four Day Win". I'd listened to it before but now I'm trying to really do the mental / emotional exercises. The key is mindful eating - really paying attention to what you are eating, how it tastes, how your body feels etc.
One thing that really hit me was "to overeat, you are not extending physical pleasure, you are overriding physical discomfort!". THAT IS SO TRUE! I am an intelligent person. WHY do I do this???
You are not alone! I wish you all the best! If you find the key - please share!
Laina
Lap RNY 9/9/03
I've been listening to an audio book called "The Four Day Win". I'd listened to it before but now I'm trying to really do the mental / emotional exercises. The key is mindful eating - really paying attention to what you are eating, how it tastes, how your body feels etc.
One thing that really hit me was "to overeat, you are not extending physical pleasure, you are overriding physical discomfort!". THAT IS SO TRUE! I am an intelligent person. WHY do I do this???
You are not alone! I wish you all the best! If you find the key - please share!
Laina
Lap RNY 9/9/03
wow!!!what a ride 
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I think I could have written that post on many occations. And I think you are right! I did not realize that I would ever have to deal with this problem again. Although I have to say that the 2 people that I knew actually did regain most if not all of their weight, but I did not think that could happen to me;) Well, I did regain 15 lbs. I tried a lot of things to lose. What had to occur to me was a huge mental break from food. I did eat and still do, but NO more candy or flirting around with things that slide! I have developed that taste for healthy things and treats like blueberries in milk with a little splenda - and that is a treat! For me, it really is a head-game. I have begun reading again, things that take time and I like to do. Eating takes time:) I am not sure if that helps. But, for me it is more than will-power, it is a state of mind. And YES, your tummy does go back to that small, full feeling when we can get back to the very basics!
Make it a great day!
Make it a great day!
something I've always wondered since starting this journey. When we 1st had the RNY we ate very little, our metabolism SLOWED way down. now we can eat a little more but our matabolism is it still SLOWED way down? I think A key in this jouney is also getting our matabolsm to rev up. I'm battling that wt gain monster too. I hate exercizing.
every day I think I'd get it together. And it seems every day I start out good then eat something wrong.I think of food all the time. But today I am going to the YMCA & I WILL exercize.
But what do you think about my thoughts on the metabolism thing?
every day I think I'd get it together. And it seems every day I start out good then eat something wrong.I think of food all the time. But today I am going to the YMCA & I WILL exercize.
But what do you think about my thoughts on the metabolism thing?
prazzhim, I've wondered about that metabolism thing too. I know part of my problem is I do in fact eat too many calories, but the weight gain started before I started eating "too much" there was a big window where myeating habits hadn't changed at all (that I'm aware of....this may not in fact be true) but the weight loss stopped and weight slowly crept on. The last bit of weight regain I know is because of eating too ma nyc alories.. I THOUGHT I was fine..then I started journeling on thedaily plate and found I was eating far too many calories...so for me I think consuming too many calories is the MAIN factor, but I wonder as well how much metabolism has to play in this, and no I'm not faithful with exercising either. Admiting these faults in public brings it crystal clear to my mind that I've in some ways fallen into "that group" of post op patients that I swore up and down I would NEVER be in. But now that I've stopped drinking I think getting on track is going to be not only easier but actually possible.
368/190/220/140
Before/Lowest/Current/Goal I have come too far to take orders from a cookie!
Okay, no flames but I'm not giving you rainbows here.
The surgery is not the miracle cure. Here is your answer to your rant:
YOU must make a lifestyle change with eating healthy and EXERCISE, that means exercise everyday or at least 5 days out of the week. Period. The End.
I'm a revision, I've been at this for a long time. Since the early 1980's.
I'm NOT on a diet, why would I be on a diet when you embrace a life style change.
I don't count calories but I do watch my protien. I make sure I drink at least 64 oz of water a day.
Now that's not hard with exercising every day.
People that go into WLS and think they can eat like they did before need a wake up call.
YOU won't eat like you did before because you reach for portein first.
Moderation is the key. Good luck to you and if you haven't made that lifestyle change then YES you WILL always worry about your weight.
And we should always stay on top of watching your weight by weighing yourself once a week on the same day/time. It will keep you honest.
The surgery is not the miracle cure. Here is your answer to your rant:
YOU must make a lifestyle change with eating healthy and EXERCISE, that means exercise everyday or at least 5 days out of the week. Period. The End.
I'm a revision, I've been at this for a long time. Since the early 1980's.
I'm NOT on a diet, why would I be on a diet when you embrace a life style change.
I don't count calories but I do watch my protien. I make sure I drink at least 64 oz of water a day.
Now that's not hard with exercising every day.
People that go into WLS and think they can eat like they did before need a wake up call.
YOU won't eat like you did before because you reach for portein first.
Moderation is the key. Good luck to you and if you haven't made that lifestyle change then YES you WILL always worry about your weight.
And we should always stay on top of watching your weight by weighing yourself once a week on the same day/time. It will keep you honest.
No rainbows here either but a thought. I realize that when they operated on us they worked on our intestines and NOT on our brains. Most of us (if not allof us) have issues, mental issues, with food. I'm a food addict, I know that. Given the tool of this surgery, I've been able to face that mental issue and make adjustments to my lifestyle and make changes I hope will keep my addiction at bay.
This surgery is only a tool. What we do with that tool is totally up to us. If we have somehow ignored the gift of that tool and slipped, we can still get back on by remembering the rules and picking that tool back up and working with it. It can be done but after a year or two it's not as easy and does take some effort...exercise and diet...
I was hoping that I'd never have to diet again but the fact of the matter is diet is WHAT WE EAT...Not something we are "on".
This surgery is only a tool. What we do with that tool is totally up to us. If we have somehow ignored the gift of that tool and slipped, we can still get back on by remembering the rules and picking that tool back up and working with it. It can be done but after a year or two it's not as easy and does take some effort...exercise and diet...
I was hoping that I'd never have to diet again but the fact of the matter is diet is WHAT WE EAT...Not something we are "on".
Yes, RNY worked for me but it also requires a lot of work from me!
Before Surgery: 214
Highest Weight: 240
Now: 125.6
Goal: 130
Before Surgery: 214
Highest Weight: 240
Now: 125.6
Goal: 130
Why are we constantly suffering with this weight issue?
Because "we", whether you admit it or not, are a food addict. The only thing surgery changed was your disgestive system, not your head.
About 9 months out, give or take, I came to the revelation that a lot of this job is mental. Surgery gave me a window of opportunity to change my life. How I chose to use that opportunity was up to me leading to my second revelation: there is no fate but that which we make.
Any person's inability to lay off the twinkies and ding dongs lies within themselves: not the food. theis lead to my third revelation: There are no "good" or "bad" foods; it is my relationship with the food that is good or bad. The food is neutral.
Surgery has created a situation in which I am never PHYSCIALLY hungry; but, I still always want to eat. This lead to my fourth revelation: I can eat anything I want; just never all that I want.
I was very near goal weight within a year and, in my mind, surgery has given me a "do over" on many parts of my life. If I return to doing what I always did, I will get what I always got. To this end, my life has changed as follows:
1) I eat enough calories to maintain my current weight
2) I excercise 4 times a week for at least 40 minutes: two days a week are running, two days are weight lifting. This is a non-negotiable. I would sooner skip brushing my teeth which is less important than the HABIT of excercise.
Because "we", whether you admit it or not, are a food addict. The only thing surgery changed was your disgestive system, not your head.
About 9 months out, give or take, I came to the revelation that a lot of this job is mental. Surgery gave me a window of opportunity to change my life. How I chose to use that opportunity was up to me leading to my second revelation: there is no fate but that which we make.
Any person's inability to lay off the twinkies and ding dongs lies within themselves: not the food. theis lead to my third revelation: There are no "good" or "bad" foods; it is my relationship with the food that is good or bad. The food is neutral.
Surgery has created a situation in which I am never PHYSCIALLY hungry; but, I still always want to eat. This lead to my fourth revelation: I can eat anything I want; just never all that I want.
I was very near goal weight within a year and, in my mind, surgery has given me a "do over" on many parts of my life. If I return to doing what I always did, I will get what I always got. To this end, my life has changed as follows:
1) I eat enough calories to maintain my current weight
2) I excercise 4 times a week for at least 40 minutes: two days a week are running, two days are weight lifting. This is a non-negotiable. I would sooner skip brushing my teeth which is less important than the HABIT of excercise.
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