My skinny days are over

I know I haven't been around in a long time. Thought I didn't need yall any more. And now that I am almost obese again, well now I am just ashamed. I read on here the same old things, I have put it all back on. My mom said that I better get it in control cause they cant take any more body parts out and still keep me alive. ( I think she was joking). I just cant get it together. I havent gotten up and done anything physical in along time. I have disappointed alot of people. And frankly, I know I am a loser in the wrong way. I guess some of us just have it and some dont.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Hope it works for the the rest of you,
Terrie

You're only a loser if you sit and do nothing. If you get back up and keep trying, you are NOT a loser...

Join in! We aren't all perfect here either but we support eachother. Figure out where you are, pick a direction and head in that direction...We'll be right here for you!

Hi Terrie. Your post made me sad~you're NOT a loser!!! Anyone can get off track and alot of people have been or are where you're at right now. I'm glad you came back here and hopefully we can all pitch in and give you the support you need to start to feel better about things!!!!!! Take teeny tiny baby steps and take it day by day.

((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))

Oh, you sound so down on yourself!!! You're not a "loser" because you've gained some weight. We've all done it at one time or another. Just get back on the horse and feel good again. I've had some regain too, and I've done better the last couple of days and already feel tons better, both physically and mentally. You've just got to get your head in the right place, and admitting you've messed up is the first step.

You are not a "loser". You have come back here, for help and support I would say and that is a good thing. Keep coming each day and join in our posts. Make a plan for yourself, and start with adding one positive change , say like not drinking with meals and do that for a few weeks, then add another thing in like cutting out simple carbs and keep adding in changes every week or two and it will get easier and easier.

As you start to see yourself getting into more control, you will feel better about yourself and be able to build on that success as the weight starts to drop. It won't be easy, but with lots of support and determination you can slowly start losing that excess weight.

Wishing you all the best.

Sher

Thank you for your nice words. And I appreciate your efforts. I have fought a good fight and the fight is gone. I know there are more like me out there. I just dont have any more fight left. I struggled for so long. And I am tired of fighting to be something I evidently am not. It was nice while it lasted. Being a thin person is a wonderful feeling and it is very powerful. But I just cant keep it up.
Thanks again.
terrie

Have you considered a revision to a DS?  There is lots of info on the DS OH board that I think you should check into.  The revisions board my also be another place to check out. 

Don't give up yet.  There is still hope!

Melissa

Terrie,

Please don't completely give up.  I know you don't know me from Adam, but I really desperately need to know that there are others like me out there who have re-gained a significant amount of weight who are still hanging in there!!!

I'm over 4 yrs. post-op, did great for 2 yrs., have been struggling the past 2 yrs., and have particularly gone to h*ll this last year.  I've succumbed to all my bad habits, and while I've had some temporary success at "getting a grip," I haven't made any lasting progress.  I maybe lose 7-8 lbs. (nothing magic--just getting back to basics), but then something happens that makes me screw up, and then I'm back to my old ways & re-gain what  I lost.  I hate myself right now and feel as self-conscious as I did when I weighed almost 300 lbs. 

HOWEVER,  I absolutely refuse to throw in the towel.   I still come here every day (don't post too frequently).  I still feel like I get a lot out of reading about other long-timers' struggles AND successes (even small ones).   I want & need the inspiration and the "connection." 

Please just at least stay around here!  I don't know if you've been reading posts lately, but I hope you will continue.  Something someone says might just help you, and you may help someone else!

"but I really desperately need to know that there are others like me out there who have re-gained a significant amount of weight who are still hanging in there!!!"

Hi Just Jo..here I am! That person you were looking for...you needed to know there are others like you who have re-gained a significant amount of weight who are still hanging in there!!!

I've gained 40 lbs from my lowest and never made it to goal. I am still down 120 lbs from my highest but have about 80-100 lbs to lose till I am at absolute goal....to think I was only about 60 lbs a way a year and a half ago.  My gaining issues started about two years out, and I am now 3 years out.  I do good loose 5-12 lbs...gain it back plus some, and have repeated that problem for 40 lbs now.  A big part of my problem is that I became an a lcoholic...and sometimes would consume perhaps 2,000 calories just in alochol...not to mention that drinking makde me want to eat all sorts of crap.  I read a book that has helped me finally stop drinking.  It's called "The Easy Way to Lose Weight"...it was a miracle...and it worked, I absolutely don't even have a desire to drink anymore..so just by cutting that out I'm consuming MUCH less calories..I've think I've made up a ltite for that in junk food consumption.  So as soon as I get it in the mail I am reading his other book " The Easy Way to Lose Weight"..I figure if it can help me with the monster alcoholic in me, and can help me with the compuslive eater in me.  I can't wait to read it.

The bottom line of this response is I am in that catogorie of I REFUSE to NOT hang in there....Once I give up..that's it, the end, it's over...no chance or hope of being thin...but as long as I "hang in there" keep looking for help, keep picking myself back up every time I fall then I still stand a chance.

I have felt like giving up entirely both in giving in to alcohol and food more these last 4 months then ever in my life.. I figured i was beat.  Then I literally RAN INTO this book..it almost fell of the shelf at me and into my hands, I was more than curious..could drinking actually be EASY to stop>?!!!?? That idea fascinated me.. I read the book in 3 days and when I got to the final chapter I had my last drink and haven't touched the stuff since, I go to bars for happy hour, partys with friends, have no desire to drink...so now I am hopeful I can find the same solution for my eating problem...

Those of us who struggle..we must NEVER give up...only when we give up is there no hope...as long as we "hang in there" we still stand a chance.!

Thats my 132 cents worth!
hhahahaaha

Leslee

Leslee!!!  Thank you so much for replying to my response to the original poster!  I have always read your posts--all of them--and yours are definitely among those that help me to not give up!  I have read with interest how you recognized your cross-addiction w/ alcohol--and your present success at staying completely sober. 

Your yo-yoing back & forth w/ the 5-12 lbs. sounds so much like me in the past year or so!  The good news is that when I am "on program" I can definitely lose weight--my surgery still works.  The bad news is that my bad habits/compusive eating also are alive & very strong. 

I am absolutely, positively NOT throwing in the towel!  Realistically, I do not think I'll ever get back down to my lowest weight of 155.  Although I think I looked good, I don't think I could ever maintain it.  I'd be thrilled to lose 20-25 lbs.--and back in the old days, I thought people who wanted to lose that amount of weight were so lucky!!!!  And now that's me . . . and I'm struggling mightily!!

Again, thank you so much; it means a lot to me to know others are somewhat "where I am"!