issues: alcoholism & wt gain

Your issue with alcohol is becoming more of an issue. Many people who have over-eaten for years to the point of obesity, have had issues that caused this "mindless eating". Finding the reason for over-eating foods or other addictive behaviors needs to be done to help reduce or eliminate the problem. A professional counselor in one of my support groups told us last month that she current has 10 RNY people in her office for addictive behavior. This is a high rise in her normal case load, compared to a couple of years ago. Professional help may be needed to find the root cause of your addictive behavior. You've lost the weight before, and now you put your addictive personality on to another bad behavior. There have been studies on RNY patients, that show the effects of alcohol to be far more harmful than  person with a nomral digestive tract. There have also been at least 2 people who have publically stated in my support groups that they too have had issues with alcohol. The best solution is to try and avoid these situations where you might be tempted. The high sugar in alchol is a primary reason your wt loss is difficult at this time. I see a mental health expert when I feel the need to, and it's not a shameful thing to admit that to yourself. Good luck. DAVE

I have to agree with everyone else that its addiction transfer, which is very very common. The blackouts are scary!!! I know there are a few ladies around here that have been thru the exact same thing and I bet they can give you some insight and some good advice about this. It sounds like you've realized this early so hopefully you can give it up without too much of a fight!!

Reach out to the Addicition Board!

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Michele

Thank you for posting this.  I have been dealing with the same problems and am trying to get a grip on them.  Hard to figure out because I am the happiest I have been in MANY MANY years.  I remarried in April and have the most wonderful hubby.....who is always happy to stop and get me a bottle of wine.  I know I need to stop and every morning tell myself I am not going to have any wine that night but by the night I cave.  Maybe we could become a support system for each other.....I know it helps me to know others out there are having this issue.

For now, I am going to try to stay away from wine for at least today.....then I will deal with tomorrow tomorrow.

Good luck and let me know how things are going....

OMG you guys, getting on this thread this morning and seeing all the wonderful thoughts being sent my way and to know I am not alone, it is a great feeling and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.  I am happy to say that I have gone 2 nights without a drink and last night was hard because I was seriously craving it but I just kept stopping myself every time I headed for the basement fridge.  After reading just a few responses yesterday I pretty much knew what the right thing to do is.  I need to stop completely until I get myself together.  I admitted to myself that I was in denial.  I think I am an alcoholic.
I do go see a therapist and take Celexa for anxiety.  Unfortunately my dose kept getting increased until finally I told them something was major wrong.  I was doing things I normally would never even think of (while drinking) and she did diagnose me as manic from the high dose of Celexa.  That was only 2 weeks ago and things are much better, but they need to get even better still and I know it.  I see a nurse practicioner for my meds and those appts are only 15 minutes long but several weeks ago, I called and made an appt with my therapist to discuss the issues I have been having lately and I will be seeing her later today. 
I thank the Lord that my kids never once saw me drunk - I can't begin to describe my gratitude that I had the tiniest bit of good judgement left to never drin****il they were all asleep.  Of course, once they were asleep and I started drinking, my good judgement went out the window!
I got rid of all the booze in my house a week ago but I talked dh into stopping and picking up some wine last weekend and I will go pour that out today (he bought red which I hate so that wont be so hard)
Thanks for the support and I plan to update and I will be sending some PM as well.  Thank You!!!

Hi Jenn,
I'm glad you are pouring out the wine and haven't drank x2 days. That's a start. Keep posting we will support you, no flames. Try to go to AA if you can get away to go to meetings. You will find now that you've stopped drinking you will loose those 25 pounds. Drinking adds calories. You have recongized your transfer addiction so that excellent. Try to find a hobby something you can do in the evening when the kids are in bed. I just covered transfer addiction in 2 of my support groups that I sometimes help lead when the normal instructors are on vacation.
How much sugar is there in Alcohol?
1 shot of 80 proof vodka (1 oz) = 65 calories=6.25 teaspoons of sugar
When you mix it with 6 oz. of OJ=19 carbs=4 t. of sugar

12 oz beer has 150 calories vs a 12 oz light beer=95 calories

The typical 5 oz glass of white wine has 100 calories vs red wine @ 105 calories

OMG I am so there I start with 1 glass and end up drinking the whole night and have put on 10 lbs I dont think I have a problem other than the weight gain it helps me with my stress after the kids go to bed but than again drinking is a problem everynight I am glad I am not the only one hope we can all change this part of are life

I also have the same issue. I don't drink every day but i do drink about twice a week and i cant stop when i feel the buzz. I just want to keep going. Then the next thing i remember is waking up in the morning asking my husband what happened. I feel so bad making him babysit me when i am drinking. luckily i have him. I tell myself that i don't want to drink anymore and then when my next day off comes around there i go....  Its crazy because just like sweets i don't want to completely give it up. I don't want to be restricted from something that only makes me want it more. I wonder if that is part of the addiction? It is very hard to put myself out here so Thank you for posting this and being so open. I know it wasn't easy.. April

Hey Everyone.  Just a quick updat e- 4 nights - no drinks.  Last night I tried to figure out a way to tell dh I was goign to the store to get a bottle of wine though - I really wanted some.  Kids went to bed early and I was just hanging around.....pure boredom.  So instead, I sat on the floor and did a bunch of stretching exercises.  I feel so much better lately.  I am getting to sleep at a decent hour and not waking up sleepy....getting so much more done during the day!  I am happy.
BTW - my therapist told me to go completely Cold Turkey on the booze and that if I find I can't, seek out an AA meenting.