How do I start over?

I had an RNY in Jan 2005.  I lost 160 lbs and have regained 25 over the last year.   Lots of reasons why - emergency surgery for burst ulcer, both my sisters have died in the last 1.5 years, my youngest daughter had to be hospitalized for depression, work issues,  etc.

I don't know if life will ever change back to "normal" and I have to find a new "normal."  I can't live anymore waiting for the other shoe to fall on my head.  I am tired of feeling Road Runner being chased by Wiley Coyote!

How do I start back to stabilizing my weight and then losing my weight?  I hate that I have gone back to plus sizes!   Is there any recommend website or program on OH that someone can clue me in on? 

I have to do this very slow and gradual or it will never stick.  If nothing else, I've learned that drastic changes set me up for failure.  I finally broke down and bought a bike.  Until an asthma attack a few weeks ago, I was riding almost every day.  My goal for the week is to get back on the bike at least three times this week.

But ... now I have to fix the nutrition .... Any suggestions, anyone?

As always, the support I get here is better than anything I could get from a co-worker or friend on this topic!  I am grateful to have this board to return to when I need it!  

God Bless, KKmack 326 ~ was 165 ~ now 200

Hello K,     I had an RNY in June of 06 I weighed 326  when I went in. I only got down to 250 at my lowest and that was in the first 6 months since then I have slowly gain back 33 lbs. ! Let me tell you I wish I could of gotten down to 200 Lbs. I've seen my Dr. twice since surgery, and after my one year check up he thought I was doing well.  I don't see how! It seems to me I should'nt of been able to eat the amount of food that I can, he told me every one was different. I thought maybe my pouch was to large. He told me to just eat untill I felt full. I've been try n to get back or restart or what ever you call it, seems almost impossible. Any way I just want ed to say you lossing 160 lbs  and then only gaining 25 lbs in a year is not quit as depressing as starting at 326 lbs only dropping 76 lbs then gaining 33 lbs two years after surgery. I know your weight gain looks realy terrible to you because its you that its happen n to. but by percentage I think you can get back on track with just a little stick to it and will power! Any way I hope it works for you.

I appreciate your perspective - it helps mine!   I lost the weight so fast it made my head spin and it worried me then (it took less than a year to lose 100 lbs) so it feels like something is not quite right and I somehow  "deserve" to gain it all back since I lost it so quick. Hang in there!

I feel your pain...I lost 160 total almost 4 yrs ago, and have managed to put 80 back on...right now i've gotten on here hoping for support and encouragement to get back on track with my weight loss..i know i dont wanna resort to another surgery to lose again..i do believe its something you have to mentally conquer...I just wi**** would click in, how...good luck..

I feel your pain.  I started at 368, my lowest was 211 and I am up to 225 now...very frustrated with myself.  I started having wine and it was my big downfall, so I gotta give it up.  I seem to be an all or nothing kinda girl, so I gotta go with none. I started the 5 day pouch test yesterday.  I go one day at a time and think that helps.  After the pouch test I am going to go back to how I ate right after surgery (will obviously add a little food) and hope I can get below 200 (which was my original goal).  I don't care if it is just 199, I want the 2 part out of there...

I recall when researching RYN that typical weight loss was 100 lbs, no matter what the original weight was.  This is a little depressing, depending upon where we start.  But, if we think 100 lbs, how often is 100 lbs lost and not regained?  Keeping off 100 lbs is nothing to sneeze at!  But, if we have gone to the extreme measures that we have, we really want more.  Our lives are still complicated, sometimes more.  The root causes of our weight problems are not solved with the surgery.  I do not have answers.  I wish I did.  I am working through all of this, just like all of us, I guess.  Just fostering conversation among our group, thinking about this problem a lot.  I wish you the very best.  I do think we can do it!

I am right there with you!  I cried when I saw the "2xx!"  195 would make me happy!  A size 16/18 (w/o the "W" behind it!) for the rest of my life would be wonderful!

You are my twin! haha. I started at 368, got to 190 and am now back up to 225.. and I know how it feels to want to get that 2 off!! Even 199 would feel  SO great! To be in the 100's!!! I was only there for a few months, then I lingered around 211 for a long time..then the last few months bumped up to 225. I'm eating much better, drinking much less, working out.. but still just kinda hanging out at the 225 mark! Anyway, just wanted to say hi cause I so relate with your numbers! lol I hope to get below 200 by the end of September, I have a BIG hike planned,and to hike it under the 200 mark would be so great! Take care, Leslee

Leslee, I can't believe how close our stats are.  I keep saying if I could get to 199 I would be happy....just don't want to have that "2" either.  I have tried doing the 5 dpt, but fail miserably.  Don't know what is wrong with me, I just can't get through the 2 days of liquid....unless of course it is wine...lol This Board is great and I am hoping I can get some real motivation from it..  Good luck!

I keep telling my DH that there is no good time for us to make major changes (him quitting the nicotine habit, us having a baby, starting a new eating regime)... Life is a challenge... We have to take care of ourselves to meet that challenge and to enjoy the good parts. I used to feel guilty about taking time for myself, taking time to pamper myself, taking time to do my workout, plan my foods, etc. The itty-bitty-****ty committee in my head was always bring me down...  I too started to regain some weight--not a lot--but I definitely could tell that my eating patterns had changed and the scale showed it. The first thing I did was come back to OH.com DAILY. It helps keep me focused. The second thing I did was start journaling my food religiously. I post it here on the Accountability thread each day and read what everyone else is eating as well. That has helped enormously! Maybe you could just start there...  Put the bat down. You don't need to beat yourself up. You can regain control!  Best wishes! :-)