OH NO! I've become one of THEM....(kind of long)

I am so ashamed of myself. My mouth and brain weren't cooperating this evening and I became a terrible person for a few minutes. There is a woman I know whom I don't care for (she happens to be overweight, too. Of course, this isn't the reason I don't like her. That would be absurd ). When I see her, I am polite and respectful. I ALWAYS keep my comments to myself. When she gets stupid I just let her dig a hole and I keep my mouth shut. This evening I was taking a walk and stopped to chat with some neighbors. Here comes Woman to join us. I smile and say hello. She says, "You're out exercising? I thought you looked like you'd gained a few pounds." ( my small gain only shows on the scale. I can still wear my clothes even though they're tight). I smiled and said nothing. Woman proceeds to tell the other ladies that I had WLS a couple years back (they didn't know). Woman says, "I knew you'd gain it all back. They always do. Surgery isn't a cure all". This is where brain and mouth weren't speaking to one another. Before I could catch myself, I said, "So ____ when is your baby due? You look ready to pop any second." Woman went pale and said, "I'm not pregnant". The other ladies snickered. Woman gave me the evil eye. I smiled, excused myself and continued on my walk. When I returned home hubby was on the phone with Woman's husband! He called to complain about my comment! Hubby said, "__________ isn't pregnant? I thought she was, too." LOLOLOLOL They hung up and I'm sure the rest of the neighborhood knows by now. I've never behaved like that in my life. Still, it felt pretty good. Am I turning into one of those people who forgets where they came from ( the obese side)? Or have I just had it with this woman? GGGRRRR!!!!!! I can't tolerate stupidity! Bex

OMG! She had it coming. I wish you'd had a hammer in your hand.

Are you on a military base???  Sounds like some of the woman here on camp Pendleton.  Just remember they don't have anything else better to do with their time.   I remember it was about 6 mo after my surgery on the the ladies who had lived in the neighborhood was visiting.  Mind you had moved prior to my surgery Came back for a visit.  Well everyone was over in the yard across the street.  I went to my car waved as alway and then left.  Well seems she went to my neighbor and her statement was oh my didn't recognize Paula maybe I should get that surgery.  I was so mad.  Not mad that she knew just mad that these women couldn't give me my credit for getting the weight off.  They had to throw that surgery card out there.  So they are Jealous.  Good.  Love yourself honey.  And your comment I must say yes not nice but really funny,   Shut her up.   Keep you beautiful head up.  Some woman just can't tolerate beauty and success. 

I believe in this case you were more than justified.  She started it and was very out of line first.  I wouldn't feel bad at all.  Sounds like to me she more than had it coming.  If she behaves that way all of the time, I am sure the neighbors are silently clapping that someone finally put the *itch in her place.  Don't sweat it, sister!!   Melissa

Ummm, I don't blame you one bit!!! I love those people that are allowed to act out however they want and hurt other's feelings or put them down, but then they can't take it in return! URGH! As my sil always says "she's very sensitive" so that's her excuse for her bad behavior, but none of us is allowed to say the wrong thing to her b/c she's SO sensitive so we all have to walk around on eggshells around her-NOT!!!! Sorry, that doesn't work for me! I'm glad you stood up for yourself and no, you  haven't become one of "those" women. You should never let anyone put you down or make you feel badly about yourself~I don't care if they're thin or heavy~its just plain rude! Obviously she's jealous b/c you haven't gained all of your weight back and you're successful with surgery. I think its funny that she had her husband call your husband~my husband would have been like "you want me to call who about what? are you kidding me?" especially since her husband most likely knows her pesonality and how she has a tendancy to insert her foot into her mouth!!!!!!!

That's great!  I love it!  She definitely had that coming and I don't see you as becoming one of "them".  She's one of those vultures that are just waiting for things to "go wrong" for you and would take such satisfaction in seeing it happen.  She also had no business saying anything about any weight gain (real or perceived) in front of others and CERTAINLY had no right to advertise your WLS to others.    A person can only take so much and I think you've just had it with her and I also think you did the right thing.  Maybe she'll keep her big mouth shut from here on in.  Sounds like she can di**** out and can't take it......she had to go home and cry to hubby.  And where does her hubby get off on thinking he even has any business calling your house about it?  Didn't we get over that in elementary school?  Sheesh!  I wonder if she told him what she said to you and about you.  Wow, sorry to rant here but this just ticked me off! 

WOW! Thanks for the support! You all made me feel MUCH better. 1. Yes, I do live on a military base. 2. No, I can't believe her hubby called mine, either. Apparently we did NOT get over this type of thing in elementary school. I'm actually surprised by my husband's reply. I guess he's had it with her behavior, too. I guess I was afraid of turning into one of those WLS grads who look at obese people and say, "Why don't they do something about their weight?" as if everyone should because he/she did it. That attitude infuriates me. I've met a few like that and I hope their attitudes don't spread! Again, thank you all for your support. Bex

She definitely had it coming...

OMG... LMAO!!!!  That is tooo funny!  I think I had an out of body experience about 2 1/2 years PO also...  I guess it just happens.  She had no right to say anything about your "gain" or about your WLS.....  What you said wasn't all that bad, but it was due and very funny!  I can't believe her hubby called your hubby... It's kinda like "I'm going to go tell my mommy on you!".... lol!  I don't think you're becoming "one of them", she had it coming and like I said, it wasn't that bad!   ... lol!

SHe SOOOOOOOOO deserved that!  I would have done the same thing but prob added a few cuss words in.  lol lol  We all have our "i'm 16 again" moments! Denise