Very upset/discouraged

So after losing over 100 pounds, I am thinking I look okay, and people won't look at me anymore and say, wow, that's a fat person! I am single and I took out an ad on Fitness Singles.com because I like to get out and do active things. I wasn't getting any responses and finally I get this one. 

This guy from Washington State writes me and starts off with something along the lines of, “You seem really deep, may I “enter” your world?” I didn’t answer and he kept after me saying one weird thing after another, then I wrote him and told him I thought he seemed a little forward (and friggin WEIRD, I thought but didn't say). He wrote back and sort of apologized, then went on to say he didn’t mind an overweight woman, that he thought my pictures looked good anyway!!! WTF??? No wonder these guys are single. Of course that just made me feel even worse about myself than I already do. I think I’ve lost all this weight and come to find out I still appear fat. I just want to die. I blocked that specimen from ever contacting me.

I have gained about 30 pound back from my lowest and am feeling pretty self concious about it. I am working out three times a week but the honeymoon sure is over. What am I going to do?

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Well, first of all I'd say stay away from goobers like that dude!  His idiotic comment sounds like something he said because he didn't like being dismissed by you... you hurt his feelings, so he did the same to you... just an infantile move from an infantile man... at least that's my take on it... I really thin****il we learn to TRULY love ourselves from the inside out... no matter how big or small, we are never going to be happy... there is SO MUCH more to us than our exterior selves... sigh!  So many people forget about what truly matters, which is who we ARE as human beings... our hearts... our souls... and then we get caught up in all that crap about what gives us worth... grrrrr... that always ****** me off!!! You are BEAUTIFUL... hello!!!??? Hang in there...  Angie

 

DeeBee, I think you look great!  Don't worry about his comments, BLOCK him!   As for weight gain, you need to psych yourself up again like right after surgery.  I know it's easier said than done, but you can do it!   I remember one thing my doctor said, "if you gain 5 pounds, lose it, because it's too easy for 5 to turn to 15, to 25 etc." Weighing myself daily really helps me. Good Luck! Cathy

I believe myself to be really honest, maybe too honest at times, when people ask my opinion of their level of "fatness". If he saw the same picture that you post here and I can say under no uncertain terms that he is insane. I checked every inch of your pic and all I see are cut cheeks & chin and shoulder blade bones sticking out.  He is nuts  You are lovely!!!!! Enough said Diana  

I have a picture of me in scuba gear on that web site and then a portrait similar to the one here. A scuba suit doesn't hide anything, but I thought I looked okay. Maybe not. Either way, I didn't reply to this clueless git in the first place because he seemed really creepy. I was right. -=db=-

WHAT A LOSER that guy is!!!!!  You are gorgeous and NO, you do not look "fat"!!!!! He sounds like a freak and you don't need to give him your time!!!!  WHAT A JERK!!!! You are beautiful. Lorri

You are a truly beautiful woman, I've thought that since the first time I saw you post. There's more horse's a$$es in the world than there are horses, and you found one of them. I would hate to think how hard it would be to start dating again at my age. I think if something ever happens to my current husband, that would be the end of that for me. I also have a knack for attracting the horse's a$$es.

He's a loser~don't even worry about him or his comment! You're a goregous woman!!! Don't let anyone take that away from you. Maybe you intimidated him in some way??? Anyway, you blocked him so just block him from your  mind too!

Sitting at home in him mom's basement - ha! You're probably right. But you know, thanks for all the good wishes and compliments. It's hard when you think you've really accomplished something and some bozo comes along and shoots you down. I was really floored by what he said. -=db=-

30 pounds over weight? Egads. that is NOTHING...And if he thinks you're fat now, would he even email you before WLS? You don't need that jerk at all. Block him. He's a loser.