Triggers, do you have one that sets off your day?

I've been getting really frustrated myself lately.  I've been reading a lot of medical reports and stats about RNY after 3 years and it was really beginning to bother me that regain is much worse than I thought it was.  The fact that they don't really know why is even more distressing... I'm like you...I get so down because I lose confidence in myself. I always bounce back, but as the years go on, I find myself eating more...and healthy or not...I really worry too.  Lately I am doing okay and in the back of my brain are those mixed feelings...I hate STATISTICS...we are not all the same...and while we are all WLS peeps, our bodies are incredibly different.  My biggest personal challenge in life was always try to be different. I am so not a follower...I can follow rules and I am loyal to everyone but myself!  I just have learned that some risks are better than staying on a road that worked for so long and is suddenly not working. I am determined to find sevearl different perspectives on the regain and find a way to help us all figure out how and why we all settle so differently in our bodies after the 2nd and third year.  I'm still so glad I did this surgery, but fear creeps in like water and just permeates into every nook and cranny of my confidence...That's when I have to remind myself that I got my second chance at life and health and I lost some 150 lbs and in order to gain that back...I have to REALLY REALLY work hard at abusing my eating habits over a long period of time. I know that it will take a lot of emotion to get me that low.  I also know I'll be faced with an emotional burden eventually...and that is when I am really gonna need friends, because I'm not that strong when it comes to self doubt and food....and I give up and procrastinate when I need to do things. So many of us are like this. I feel all their pain and fear. Your's and the 20lb gainer and the 100 lb gainer...Something breaks us and we give up and sometimes we don't even know we're doing it.  I know in my heart that I may eventually be one of them that loses it emotionally. and begins to eat wrong again. (I do at christmas every year)  Gotta stop that! ...I also know that if I make myself sick over it...I'll put myself right where I don't want to be with no really good excuse!  LOL  Yeah...the "easy way out"...:::cough::::: my fat butt!  LOL Big ole hugs Anita

I start off the day and go until supper without any problem at all.  Nothing temps me.  But come 7 pm.m, look out!  Even when I am not hungry, I can't concentrate on anything because of craving carbs.  It seems to me like dinner is my trigger, and it doesn't matter what the dinner is.  So, how do I avoid this type of trigger?   Dena B