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i'm to skinny.  i'm tired of hearing it, really.  the truth is the more i hear it the less i eat.  i have lost more weight recently.  i weighed 129 today.  i'm having a hard time maintaining.  then once i see a number on the scale, i never want it to go up again, cause then i'd feel like i was gaining.  

i know i'm rambling, but i just feel bad about myself, like when i was heavy .

You know what... I really hate to hear anyone tell a person with wls say that they look too skinny... I personally never heard that b/cause I never did get that small (but I am working on it...).  But I have heard this several times about others... I really think that pple who has not had wls understands... My thought is that pple are used to seeing us as big, fat, overweight, fluffy, etc... prior to our wls, and we do loose quickly, its not that we are too skinny, it's just that we are where we are supposed to be and due to the quick weight loss pple just cant comprehend why we now look thin, so their response is that we are too skinny... (wow I sure hope you understand my point, and that it wasn't too confusing...). Bonnie

i think part of it is that i was maintaing since may between 136 and 139 and now i'm losing.  in our old life losing 9#'s barely showed, now i guess it makes a difference. 

I agree with the other post.  I think it's because people are so used to seeing us overweight that we appear skinny to them - they have a distorted image of us.  I'm sure that it is not people who have only known you recently that are saying it?  Thats' because they see you as you are and are not comparing it to how you were. I'm sure they mean well (either that or are jealous!).  As long as you know you are in a healthy weight range and you and your doctor are content then try to ignore them (easier said than done).   I'm still officially according to the charts, overweight, but people have said to me that I shouldn't lose anymore as I'm getting too skinny!!  I'm 5'6 and 170 pounds - no way too skinny!! Try not to feel bad about yourself - maybe join the acountability daily post to get help maintaining?

You are in the same boat as I am. They call me skinny. They ask me if I've lost MORE weight. I'm also having a hard time maintaining. I also freak out when that number on the scale goes up even a fraction.  Don't feel bad about yourself. You and I did enough of that before surgery to MORE than cover for the rest of our lives. I hate how being skinny makes me feel (like I'm too thin, like I'm not healthy, like there's something wrong with me because the whole rest of the world is FAT) but I would never in a million years go back to what it was like before WLS. NEVER.  On the other hand. I feel really good. When I look in the mirror and see my collar bones or my knee caps...I LOVE THAT. So to hell with how they want to make me feel bad because I don't look like the rest of the herd (of cattle). I LOVE MY WLS...

i have lost over 100lbs 4x's in my life.  when i got this surgery i promised myself, my surgeon and God that i was neva going back and i'm not.  i just dont understand y people think it's okay to comment.  i dont remember anyone telling me (at least to my face) i was too fat.  i think i also resent people that have never been in our shoes giving me advice.

Isn't that the truth.  It's really hard to maintain for me because I've never managed to do that before. i post on the accountabilty posting of this board with all the food I eat, keeping track of all the calories and protein (and fat and carbs). Hopefully I can keep it up. There are a number of new patients in this area and I see both their reactions and the reactions of people who (1) are jealous and could never have the surgery and (2) antagonistic about the surgery. It's horrible what people say, and even behind their backs...It's not right.  The things I remember them saying to me are "Well, if you couldn't follow a diet before, what makes you think you can follow a diet now?" "I don't understand the difference between having to take medication every day and taking vitamins everyday." One jerk actually said he wanted to see what happened when I "gain it all back." Lovely.

Hi Micha, I've been there and still here it some, even though I am up a few lbs from my lowest.  It use to make me so mad when people said it now I just decided I'll shrug it off, it's there problem not mine. Saying that when I do go back and look at my pictures at 119 lbs I looked sick, for me it was too low.

thank u  sweetie.  if i'm really truthful, i probably am too thin, i just am having such a hard time with maintanance. 

I agree with Dana, when I looked at myself at my lowest, i did look skeletal.  And it does take time for the mind and body to catch up.  I t hink to a point, we w ill always be sensitive to weight gain. You need to eat healthy, so that you don't go into mal nutrition.  If you are getting your meals , vitamins and protein in and still losing, but look healthy, then shrug off what others say. If you are not eating healthy, and getting protein in and losing weight, you need to get back into good habits before you end up in the hospital. Remember, certain people in your life are trustworthy, and if those people are speaking out of concern, then listen to them.  You need to address why you are feeling bad about yourself?  Are you doing self care and nice things for yourself, or have y ou gotten loss in life?  Remember you have to have good balance. keep us posted, we are here for you! blessings, Tami