Am I being petty?

since 9/17/03 I see my surgeon ever single month. Even when Im rushing and his nurse gives me my B12  I will say i dont need to see him, his work was done years ago :-)  BUT he always insists on seeing us...usually just for a hug or hows stuff  but he is always there. Diana RNY 9/17/03 360/196/forever aiming at 180

It seems like it can go either way depending on the surgeon.  I the kind of person who is always trying to find the rational reason for why people behave in a way that leaves me disappointed--he was busy, I really didn't need to see him--just get the information, etc., etc.  But at the same time my emotions tell me it isn't unreasonable to want a follow up with the person who "did this to me"!  I'm sure it's just my own insecurities that make me wonder if I did or said something to offend him.  But as I'm always trying to get my students to think with reason not just emotion, I have to kind of practice that as well--what a drag! Sally

I think its very simple....you know he sees otheres and you want & deserve to be treated just like everyone else :-)

I'm going to the support group tonight, and I might say something to the bariatric nurse who runs the program.  I just didn't want to make an issue of it if I was just being childish and petty! And to top it off, I'm the one who put together a survey for the program and am analyzing the results! Sally

Hi Sally

how did it go at the support group when you talked to the bariatric nurse?  I hope it helped, especially as you a doing stuff for them as well - sometimes it's hard to make ourselves atnd up for what our emotions tell us is our right.  Our heads rationalise it all out, but it still leaves us feeling hurt. Ruth

It turns out that while the surgeon does see a few patients for the yearly check up, most do see the PA.  So that makes me feel a bit better.  I suspect that for many people, the one year mark is the "big one" for them, but I had so much to lose that it really did take two years.  Now I am finished with my major plastic surgeries (well, all I can afford!), so this just seemed more of a "finished" mark.   I do keep reminding myself that, in truth, his job was done pretty early out since I didn't have any complications.  So his professional role is pretty limited this far out.  It is really the work of patient (me!) that makes the difference now so I shouldn't expect him to have much personal involvement. Hope you had a good Thanksgiving, Sally

I see my surgeon about 1/3 of the time.  Otherwise, its the PA.