I need some support {sorry long}

Hi my name is Susan and I had rny nearly 3 years ago. Things have gone great despite the usual iron issues. Here is my issue. I was doing great with my weight until the last 6 weeks or so. My goal was to be between 150-160. Not as low as alot of you but it works for me. That is about -140 from my highest. Here is the issue,I have become the 24 hour caregiver formy fil, with a little help from other family members. They all live at least 3 hours away. It is becoming increasingly more difficult to be at home all the time and not get depressed and eat,And the boredom.Luckily the work is what I do for a living. I am a HHA for hospice. Have been for 8 years. And my fil is on hospice. I am into my  8th week of my FMLA, and I only have 12 where my job is protected. He has COPD. lymphoma and CA of the esoophogus. He is very easy to take care of but I miss my life. So as you can tell this is one of my feeling sorry for myself days. I come to this site a few times a day to try and stay focused, It helps alot but my weight has still gone up a few lbs. My own fault. Please continue to support me and others as you do. Susan

susan ... sending hugs and prayers....you know that you need to keep your protein levels up and your body hydrated....can yo get some exercise in there? even a stationary bike? throw in a walk away the pounds dvd when he sleeps? sorry- maybe i am not helping but you are not alone in this- my own hubby became very ill when i was at my losing best and all of my efforts stopped immediately. he is allright (well-that's a weird thing!) now and i am on the losing side again but no where near as fast as i would like- i am a lil over 3+ years out and haven't reached goal yet-and i was a light weight! do NOT compare yourself to others in the pounds lost or where you feel comfortable dept--each of us is different in structure and everything else- hugs to you!

Susan  its  a pleasure  to  meet you ..  My   heart  goea out  to  you  ..  A  few   years  back  I   did  alot  with  Hospice  tilll  it  hit  home  and  I  just   could  not  do  Hospice  after  having  them in  to  care  for  a  spouse ....  You  will  be  in  my  prayers  so   know  your not  alone....  I  am  not  sure  that  I look  at  it  as   feeling  sorry   for  your  self  but  rather  facing  a  very  intense  reality  of   caring  for  a  loved one  ...  I   know  first  hand  that  is  so   very  hard  ..  I  would  like   to  invite  you  to  start  posting  on  the   The  Do Right  thread  PiggyBabe   starts  it  every  day  and  we  all  post  alot  back  and  forth  to  stay  on   track  .  I  know  the  encouragemnt  has  helped  me  ...   Please   feel   free  to   send  me  a  personal  message  any  time  any   hour  and  I   will  be  more  than  happy   to   stand  with  you  through  this   tough  time ..  Be  encouraged  you took  the  step  to   post  this  morning  so  you  are  taking  steps  to  to  read  on here  so  that is  a very  positive   step  ..  Your  not  alone  you  have  a  WLS   family  here  and  there  are  many  who truly  care on  this  forum ..  (((((((((((Susan))))))))  Hugs  & prayers,  Tami

Hi Susan. I am so sorry for all that you are going thru. At a times like this we all would put ourselves on the bottom of the list and do what needs to be done for the family first~that's completely understandable so don't be hard on yourself. I am an emotional eater so I know how it is to eat when you're stressed, upset, bored, etc. You are dealing with so many emotions right now and eating is a way to cope with our emotions. Like you I also try to maintain my weight between 150-159lbs. It does not sound like you have much time right now to fit in any exercise and that's ok~you can get back to that at a later time. Right now just try to focus on staying healthy and don't even worry about what the scale says~be sure to get in your protein, vitamins and lots of water. I will say a prayer for you and your family........Take Care

Bless your heart!!!  I'm so sorry that you are under so much stress!! I don't have any real words of wisdom, I just wanted to sympathize with you a little and let you know that my prayers go out to you! Hugs and hugs and hugs,   Piggy

I'm so sorry for you. I had a similar situation when my mother was dying from breast cancer.  I managed to gain over 80 pounds when I was taking care of her, just trying to keep sane and didn't have time for exercise, and ate everything that couldn't get away from me. I had to wear something that looked like a sack to her funeral because everything had gotten too small. I went through so many bad feelings (anger, depression, etc.). It was almost like being in prison and I hadn't done anything, and I never knew when it would end. And the bad part was, the only way it was going to end was when my mother died. I will say a prayer for you tonight. Please know that people are thinking of you.

Glad to meet you.  You said something that connected to me and that is not as light as everyone else.  I too am not skinny.  2 years out and i have never gotten below 179 and staying about 185.  I believe God does't want everyone to be a size 2 or 4 or 6.  We are just as good as the light weights and have to learn that we are valuable people also.  Coming to this site helps a whole lot we are a good support.  Hang in there your hard work will be rewarded.  Sheila

Can I just extend a virtual hug to you? You poor thing, your plate is overflowing!!! I think I read that you are a Hospice caregiver yourself. What would you in that role advise a family member who was going through what you are?  That might help. I just want to give you a big hug.. I hope you start to feel better soon. Jess

Susan, I just want you to know that you and your family will be in my prayers. Take care of yourself as best you can. Be sure to ask for any help you can get so you have some time for yourself to engage in activities you enjoy for your well  being. Hugs Sher

Hi everyone, I would like to thank all of you for your hugs and prayers. they are very appreciated and needed. Someone asked if I were doing what I tell others to do and that is ask for help. Not one of my strong points, but I will try to do more of it. I know it is very important. My poor husband does his best to try and support me , but if I don't ask, he won't know how to help. He gets stressed out trying to make sure I am ok. So I act like I am even when I'm not. And then in comes the emotional eating. {maybe this graham cracker will push those feelings down a little bit. ha ha.}  Today is a new day. Thank you all again. Have A great day. Susan