help me........

Anita Jo~ Stop.  Take a deep breath.  Let it out slowly and deliberately.  Say to yourself over and over "I am worth it".  It may sound silly.  I was in your exact same spot over the weekend.  My DH is out of work (due to disability) and our finances are weird right now.  I was stressing about something and standing in front of the cabinet time and again...not hungry in the stomach, but hungry in my heart.  I finally said to myself  out loud "there is nothing in this cabinet that is going to make you feel better so close the door and feel what you are feeling."  I wanted a hug and to be told that no matter what was happening, I was going to be okay.  Try some self talk.  OH has a great emotional eating workshop (or they used to)  It was free of charge and really helped me to understand that emotions are a powerful thing.  They can be used for good or evil! Oh yeah~stay away from the sausage because of the salt!!  email me if you need to talk.  I wish I could send you to my sister who lives in Elmira!  She would give you a big hug! Anjanette

hi anjanette, i wish you was here to give me a hug... or your sister. did she have wls also?  i am sure there are others like me... yes our money is tight here too but i dont think that is my problem why i look for food. yes i do look in the cubbards, closet, (we got a walk in closet of canned foods ect..) i am not hungry when i do this either. it seems like all the wls people here in elmira dont care and i am sure they might be going thru the same thing. i dont know. i didnt eat the sausage. some times i dont know what to eat.. we are on a budget and we get foodstamps..  today i weighted my self and i was 155 pounds. and i told hubby to hide the scale for a week. he hasnt yet.  also i only had protein shakes made with skim milk and also broth and tons of water and had some sf jello. i am not sure how long i will do this for yet. i havent decided but i have to put a stop to this right now. i say that but i dont keep it up but i have to or i will be in this boat all the time. where is this oh emotional eating workshop? do i need to call the nut and social worker in my area?

thanks for your help.. my email is [email protected]       anita

try not to weigh yourself so much, it's going to set you up for disaster. weigh maybe once a week, pick a day and do it each week on that day. remember your weight isn't going to change in one day the way you want it too, so be patient and like everyone is saying, protein first and go back to the basics. small amounts and if your still hungry make a protein shake and sip away. it's not hard, it's being able to set your mind to it. we are here to help eachother, post away and ask. i asked for help 2 weeks ago and have already lost almost 15 pounds. you can do it and if you need us we can do it together. =) smile.... gina

today i did weigh myself. so i will wait a till next tuesday to see if i lost. i will have hubby hide the scale. yes he had to hide the scale before. maybe i am eating too much when i eat. i do use a salad plate when i eat. thats great you lost 15 pounds. anita

(((Anita)))  I made a whole new post to you above this one with the  icon. Now because I am mad at you but becasue this is a problem you must get mad about to succeed. Hugs, Molly

I am sorry we are going thru this, but I am happy I am not alone.  I am 2 plus years out it will be 3 years Jan 24,2008.  I was doing great until about 6 months ago and was lucky and I mean lucky I didn't gain until recently.  I got from 317 to 150 at my lightest.  I got back to 167 and I was not happy.  I am the same way I eat when not hungry, when I am stressed and caught myself starting a bad carb snack habit at work.  Well I ended up in the hospital last week for 3 days!  I had a small bowel obstruction and people IT HURT!!!! I was rushed by ambulance to my doctor and he looked at the CAT Scan the first hospital did and he put me on no food or drinks and straight IV's and morphine for 3 days and on the 4th came the suppositories and by the way I was already catherized and NEITHER WERE FUN!  I was in a room with an awesome roomate who had a worse obstruction than me hers backed up into her old stomach and she ended up with surgery and drains and 11 days in the hospital and she was 11 months out.  Well this put me back because on the 4th day after I moved and the catheter came out, it was full liquids again, jello, strained soup, tea, milk  and I tell you what it seemed like heaven after 4 days!  And I wasn't hungry and I was afraid to eat, seeing I don't really know what caused the problem to begin with.  I am back to eating but I am so so cautious, but I am so afraid to slip again.  I have an appointment tomorrow and I am afraid of the scale! I feel heavy still.  So bottom line you are not alone.  Depending on that scale, I will go to protein drinks 2 times a day and a small meal at night or should I say normal for us meal at night.  Don't beat yourself or give up. Like it has been proven, our bodies are fixed our minds never will be, thus the support and venting we constantly need.  I came back to OBH and never plan on leaving again.

Thank you for sharing.  I am six years post op and have gained 35 pounds.  I have maintained for about the last year and a half, but find myself "waking up on a diet" every day and failing every day.  As bad as I hate to admit this - I think that WLS was the "easy way out" for me because I have done nothing to support myself.  I eat sweets everyday, in small amounts - but the end result is the same. I am just ashamed of myself. Would I do it again?  Most definately.  It has changed my life and I loved the 2 - 3 year window that was fun, fun, fun.  Do I still look ok?  Well, I am tall and a large framed person, so I think I look chunky but not obese.  Am I afraid of gaining it all back?  Everyday. I have to say that I have a small glimmer of hope after reading these posts.  Thank you to the person who mentioned the "grads board".  I am going for a walk now - which is something I haven't done for a long time. size18sue f/k/a size14sue