help i miss the food

hi everyone, tomorrow will be 7 days post-op from a lap rny.  i am having such a hard time with the emotional eating right now.  i so want a bagel and cream cheese but have to have sugar free jello.  i have two children and I have found that it is difficult for me to cook for them because it makes my cravings even stronger.  Last night i grilled cheeseburgers, a rice salad and green beans.  i was in such a bad mood because i couldn't have any.  does it get any better when a few months down the road i can have a few bites of that food and not have to have beef broth?  I am wondering if i have made a mistake having the surgery?!?  Any thoughts? thanks, Meagan

Hang in there, it will most definitely get better!!!  I remember at 7 days out I was having the strongest craving for Pizza Hut Pan Pizza.  It does suck, but get through it the best way you can and I promise it'll get better.  Your body has gone through alot of changes in the last week, once it settles down and you start dropping the weight, then things will look alot brighter. {{{ HUGS }}}

it gets better, the day i came home from the hospital my family ordered kfc and i realllllly wanted some. oh and thanksgiving was right around the corner in 2 weeks, that was horable, but you get through it. just remember what the rewards will be like in a few months. if you have the feeling that you need to eat something... DRINK! it will get better hun

IT DOES GET MUCH BETTER AND IS WELL WORTH THE INITIAL AGGREVATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   AT 2 YEARS YOU'LL BE WISHING YOU COULDNT EAT :-) HANG IN THERE!!\ DIANA RNY 9/17/03 360/196/STILL AIMING AT 180

I really didn't have cravings for a while, but when they hit, boy do they hit.  It always helped me to remind myself that when I am craving a particular food--that is usually head hunger rather than real hunger.  So I focus on the facts (just the facts ma'am) to get away from the emotions driving me.  At this point it must be tough cooking for others when you are on such a limited diet.  But when possible, maybe you could fix things that have a similar flavor profile.  So maybe have a cheese soup when they have cheeseburgers?   And depending on the age of your children, this might be a great time to start them in the kitchen.  The food network has a lot of good ideas and recipes that are kid friendly.  And kids tend to eat healthier options when they are involved in the preparation anyway. I love to eat and eat good food, so I know it can be tough at times, but it will get better.  Keep the reasons why you did this in the front of your mind, and I'm sure you'll get over this rough spot. Sally

Thanks so much for all of the replies.  I couldn't do this without the support and guidance from this website.  My husband means well but doesn't truly understand the whole emotional eating thing. 
I was visiting a neighbor today and she was making this great looking sauce for spaghetti, everything homemade and i just looked away and visited.  Then, i came home and had a protein drink and I'm happy to say that I'm ok right now.
What kinds of suggestions do you have for protein drinks and supplements?  Do you know where to buy the brand Any Whey protein powder?  My nutritionist said to get 76 grams of protein a day.  That seems almost impossible to me!
Thanks again!
Meagan

I get any whey protien powder at the vitami shop.

 

Sher

on line there is a product called any whey, it is the best, you can add it to your coffee, you get it on line. just googel any whey protine powder, as everyone says be lucky cause the cravings are going to come down the road and you will wish that you where like you are know, you know this isn't a mirical cure you do have to work at this it is a tool and you have to learn how to use it. when you have a craving you will have to learn how to deal with it and make the right choices. good luck to you , here to help you any way i can

Hi, I'm 3 yrs out and still have eating issues with all the food I can't eat. I gues that's the way it's going to be for the rest of my life. Gradually you will be able to eat fairly normal as I do now.,it's just certain things I can't and I will just have to accept it and move on. My huge weight loss and the health that has been restored to me weigh out any food in the world. Focus on that. But how I would love to sit down and have a big plate of fetttucine.lol. Good luck and God bless. peggy

HELLO MEAGAN, MY NAME IS EVELYN AND I HOPE I CAN BE OF SOME HELP.  THE HUNGER FEELINGS CAN BE BECAUSE PRIOR TO HAVING YOUR SURGERY ALL U THOUGHT ABOUT WAS FOOD.  WHATEVER WENT WRONG OR WRIGHT, FOOD WAS THE FIRST THING WE WOULD REACH FOR.    THIS SURGERY IS A TOOL AND IF YOU USE IT WISELY IT WILL HELP U  ACHIEVE SUCCESS.   YOU ARE GOING THRU A NEW TRANSITION THAT WILL ALLOW YOU TO  RETRAIN YOUR EATING HABBITS AND EMOTIONS, TAKE FULL ADVANTAGE OF THIS TRANSITION AND USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE.  CONTINUE  WITH YOUR WATER INTAKE,  WHICH IS A VERY IMPORTANT PART OF THIS TRANSITION, IF YOU DEHYDRATE YOUR GOING TO FEEL HUNGRY ALL THE TIME.    I HAVE TO ADMIT THE FIRST 4 WEEKS ARE GOING TO BE TOUGH, REMEMBER IT TAKE 8 DAYS TO FORM A HABBIT, MAKE IT A GOOD ONE THAT WILL HELP YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   DON'T TRY BURGERS RIGHT NOW THERE WILL BE PLENTY OF TIME FOR THAT MUCH LATER,  (BURGERS WITHOUT BUNS)  YOU WILL ADJUST AND DO WELL.  MEAGAN STAY FOCUS YOU ARE ON YOUR WAY TO A HEALTHIER LIFE AND YOU ARE GOING TO FEEL SO GOOD ABOUT MEAGAN.  THIS STAGE WILL PASS, TRY CRYSTAL LIGHT ICE CUBES,  SOMETIMES THE FEELING OF JUST CRUNCHING ON SOMETHING WILL  SOOTHE THAT CRAVING.   MAYBE U NEED TO ADD MORE PROTIEN TO YOUR DRINK BECAUSE THAT IS PRIMARILY FIRST.  TALK TO YOUR DOCTORS OFFICE AND THEY SHOUL BE ABLE TO HELP U OUT.   YOUR PROBABLY SICK OF JELLO,  BUT I WAS NOT ALLOWED JELLO UNTIL MY 4TH POST OP.   TRY ALSO READING ABOUT THE STAGE YOUR IN, THERE ARE SO MANY  BOOKS NOW THAT THEY CAN ALSO HELP.   MEAGAN I TOTALLY KNOW HOW U FEEL I HAVE  BEEN THERE AND I COULD ONLY TELL YOU THAT IT WILL GET BETTER, I PROMISE... ESPECIALLY WHEN THOSE POUNDS START FALLING OFF, YOU ARE GOING TO BE SO BLOWN AWAY THAT THIS MILE STONE WILL BE A THING OF THE PAST..   ONCE YOUR DOCTOR GIVES  YOU THE THUMBS UP TO GET OUT AND WALK DO IT AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, THAT WILL HELP YOU CLEAR YOUR MIND AND REMIND YOURSELF HOW FAR YOU HAVE COME AND THERE IS NO GOING BACK , ONLY FORWARD.   WHEN YOUR ON LINE CHATTING WITH PEOPLE' BE  CAREFUL WITH THE BACK DOOR TRICKS THEY MAY SUGGEST, THAT WILL ONLY SABATOGE YOUR REASON FOR HAVING THIS SURGERY.   REMEMBER IF IT SOUNDS GOOD TO BE TRUE ITS NOT GOOD.... ALWAYS CHECK WITH YOUR DOCTORS OFFICE BEFORE YOU INITIATE  ANYTHING DIFFERNT.  REMEMBER THE RULES: STAY AWAY FROM SUGAR, IT WILL MAKE YOU  NAUSEOUS, YOU CAN THROW UP AND FEEL FAINT.  (DUMPING SYNDROME) GREASE WILL GIVE YOU PAINFULL GAS, AGAIN YOU WANT TO CRY.  CARBANATION, EVEN IF ITS DIET, STAY AWAY IT WILL BLOW UP YOUR STOMACHE AND AGAIN PAIN.   TRUST ME STICK TO WATER AND CRYSTAL LIGHT IS GOOD,  IF YOU HAVE A TARGET NEAR BY, BUY THE TARGET BRAND ITS CHEAPER AND IT COMES IN DIFFERENT FLAVORS, I RECOMEND THE PEACH AND RASBERRY.   MAKE ICE CUBE OUT OF THAT AND THAT WILL HELP.   STAY FOCUSED AND I  WILL PRAY FOR U, SO THAT U WILL SUCCEED THIS TRAINING COURSE.  DON'T HESSITATE TO RESPONDE I'M AT [email protected]   I WILL GLADLY RESPOND FOR AS LONG AS YOU WOULD LIKE ME TO.  I HAD MY SURGERY ON 6/7/01  WEIGHED 310LBS , DROPED TO 158LBS  AND STILL TRYING.     EVERYDAY I HAVE TO MAKE GOOD CHOICES, SOME TIMES THEIR GOOD AND SOMETIMES THEIR NOT THE BEST BUT ITS ONE DAY AT A TIME..... GOOD LUCK, STAY FOCUSED AND TRY  A LITTLE MEDITATION.                                         TAKE CARE, GOD BLESS, SINCERLY  EVELYN  LEMUS