VERY frustrated 6 years out!!! Please encourage me!!!

Thank you all so much for all the support...please keep it coming!!!  I kinda feel like I am starting over, because I have gotten so "normal person" feeling that I don't seem any different than anyone else.  I need to constantly remind myself that I AM different, and I have to do things differently to stay healthy.  I know this...it's just so hard to keep those thoughts fresh in my mind after I get up from the computer and go back to being wife...mommy...etc...anyway, you all help and encourage me more than you know, and I do appreciate your concern.  Thanks again! Beth

I know the out of control feeling you descibed and I always wonder why do I do that to myself?!?! Have you worked with a therapist that specializes in eating disorders at all? I started this a few months ago and its really helping with my food addiction and emotional eating. It sounds like you know where the problems are rooted so now its time to try to figure out how to gain control again. I was told to get at least 60oz of protein daily (I shoot for at least 80oz) and I keep my carbs at a moderate level b/c I have a pretty good workout schedule and my body needs the good carbs to burn. You didn't mention if you are still exercising?? Its a great stress reliever and helps to boost the metabolism so if you've given up exercise even just getting out for a walk will help you feel better. As far as being tired, have you had your labs run lately?? Low iron can cause you to run tired. I wish you the best of luck as you move on to the next phase of your journey!!!!!!!!!

you are not the only one going through this. I am almost 6 yrs post op this month. I went from 233 to 133 now at 159. Some foods I can eat more of than others so I am not totally freaking out , but I can eat more than say 3 years ago. I find myself eating out of boredom and stress. I am sure my pouch has streatched some but not too much.  I know 10 of my re-gained pounds have come on since my breast lift w/implants due to no exercise. I know I need to increase my protien and water and cut out the carbs but with my stress right now that is impossible. I have tried the "time out" and is is actually really hard. You are NOT to have the salad at dinner until you have done all liquids( protien shakes x3, water and crystal lite) all day for 2-4 weeks. Then you add a small salad and then after so many days you add a lean protien. This plan is the same plan you followed right after surgery. I am not sure of the original posters name but everyone has modified it to suit them . It is a short term plan. Not a forever liquids and salad plan. You can ask around and see who posted it first. Anyhow rest assured you are not alone, we have to retrain ourselves and be more strict with our intake. I too have slacked off and plan on getting myself right. good luck Tammy

HI, I'M 3 YRS OUT AND CANNOT GET THAT LAST 30LBS OFF. I CAN EAT BASICALLY ANYTHING THAT IS WHY,  I WENT BACK TO MY GOOD OLD FOOD ADDITION ROUTINE. SO THIS IS WHAT I'VE DONE. PROTEIN SHAKE FOR BREAKFAST AND LUNCH. SMALL DINNER WI/O ANY CARBS. EXERCISING 5 TIMES A WEEK, DRINKING TONS OF WATER AND I'M LOOSING AGAIN. GET BACK TO THE BASICS GOOD LUCK AND EVERYTIME YOU EAT THINK OF WHY YOU HAD THE RNY AND IT WILL HELP. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS. MARGARET

Hi Sewmama, I'm still pre-op, but I do have some help to offer.  You mentioned that you are dealing with a LOT of stress and "still feel just like you used to when you were big."  You feel out of control but still self-sabotage...  soooo, I would recommend taking some quiet time every day to read "Feeding the Hungry Heart"  and "When Food is Love" by Geneen Roth.   I HATE self-help books, especially preachy ones.  Geneen's books are nothing like that.  Instead, through sharing her own painful journey with food addictions, she helps uncover the real reasons why we feel out of control, self-sabotage, etc.   In fact, most of the book doesn't talk about food at all!  Personally, I have cried while reading almost every page and have come to learn many things that are pivotal to post-surgery success. {{hugs}}  Hope this helps even a little bit. Heather