need help w/maintenance

Hello All! I am 1 and 2months out and for the past year I have been maintaining my weight.  i lost 80lbs in a fairly short amount of time and was able to maintain.  I am very happy with my weight loss and y dr and I agree that this is a good weight for me.  Last month I started having trouble with vomitting, I have lap band.  i went in an they took out .2, but about a week and a half later I had them put it back.  My usual weight is 147.  Since the un-fill and re-fill I have been b/t 148-150.  Frankly it's killing me.  I know it is only a couple of punds but none the less I don't like it.  I got on the scale today and I am @ 151.5.  Now I will admit with all the summertime barbeques I have indulged in both food and drink.  I am trying to get back on the wagon.  I stepped up my workouts and I have been very mindful of what I have been eating. The thing is I am driving myself crazy pver these 4lbs.  I feel like today it's 4 tomorrow it's 20 and then it's right back to where I started.   Does anyone have any advice for me to help get out of this negative thinking place and to lose the 4lbs?

Good for you and the way you are thinking. You are so correct by saying 4 pounds today and 20 pounds tomorrow.  However, you should not beat yourself up over those 4 pounds. I really don’t think you are being negative you are being realistic.  I suggest that you allow yourself those 4 pounds. That is what I do. I am a post op RNY lost 167 pounds I will be three years post op in November.     My goal weight is 150 and I have been there for well over a year.  I go between 149 and 154.  I usually put those extra few pounds on Friday, Saturday and Sunday for the same reason.  However, Monday- Thursday I am very good and usually get 4 of the 5 pounds off.  What you need to do is weigh yourself daily and NEVER, I Mean NEVER allow yourself to gain more than the allotted 4 or 5 pounds you set for yourself.  Don’t beat yourself up over the gain CONTROL it and enjoy life.  You have worked hard to get it off and now you need to keep it off.   GOOD LUCK and always remember YOU CAN GAIN IT ALL BACK!

Lauretta

 

I completely understand how just a few pounds can drive you crazy and mess with your head! I'm a daily weigher and that's how I try to stay on top of things so that 4lbs doesn't become 20lbs.I allow myself to bounce around in the 150's, but when I get to the higher end I feel like crap! I hate how I look, how my clothes fit, etc. Its amazing how a few pounds can really change your whole outlook on yourself and your appearance.  That being said, thru therapy I have learned that I need to try to stop the negative behavior and not let it get to  me so much. As I've told my therapist "the scale can make or break my mood for the day". Not good at all. She has me working on having an attitude of gratitude daily~it can be something simple like "I'm thankful that I can walk upstairs without being out of breath" or if its the weekend and I've indulged a little too  much it can be "I'm thankfully that I only gained 2lbs this weekend". Really it can be anything at all as long as I try to do it daily to work on changing my thinking patterns for the long haul. We also need to remember that our bodies go thru daily/weekly/monthly fluctuations and that's "normal". Anyway, hope this helps and just wanted you to know that I understand.

Thank you for your post. I'm a new WLS grad having just had my one year at the beginning of July. I'm at the high end of normal but at goal. My range can be 107 to 141 lbs and I'm around 137. I honestly don't know how I'd ever be 107 lbs without being a stick figure!!!  I am seriously having psychological issues now about the scale.  Like you said, if I gain a few lbs, I feel like I'm so fat, hate how I look and how my clothes fit. I feel mentally like I'm back to 288 lbs! Over just a few pounds! It's so weird how this plays with your head.  I honestly don't want to go far from the scale because I want to stay on track of my weight and keep myself accountable because I know how easy it is to binge and start grazing again.  But I find it soo weird how a gain of one or two lbs (on a weekend) just makes me so darn depressed. I know however, once I get totally on track, I can lose that in a day honestly so why I stress out I don't understand..but it's purely mental at this point.  It's just nice to hear that other people experience this too. Thanks, Dawn

We are in the same boat.  I have gained about five pounds.  (Well seven from my very lowest weight.)  I am 2 yrs. 4 months out from RNY.  i am scared to death.  I know I am over reacting, but been here-done this before many times on every diet I every went on.  I know go back to basics, exercise, etc, but.....