My conclusion on Time Out and a discussion hopefully!

Oh great! ADHD? Well, I will try even harder to chanel my energy then! LOL!

Molly, I think if the Time Out plan helped you, then it was worth trying and no harm done. Believe me, I was tempted in the back of my mind to give it a try, but thru therapy I have found out that I need to leave those things behind (my old bad behaviours of all or nothing) and chose a life of moderation. I go off the deep end sometimes just like everyone else and it seems that moderation is out the window, but thankfully somehow I get myself back on track and seem to stay on track for the most part. I feel that everyone is different, we all face different challenges so how we face our challenges will be different. There's not one "right" way IMO. I'm glad that doing the Time Out got you thinking so much about yourself and what you need to be successful in your weightloss and in your life! Good Luck and we're all here for you anytime!!!!!!!

Hello Tracy! Yes, the time out thing really did help me. It gave me a chance to think about a lot of things as well as lose a few pounds and give me a renewed focus on me and why I do what I do. So, no regrets really just makes me sad I am so extreme in my behavior througout life! I'm getting better starting today . I will be on this forum for the long haul as well as support meetings in real life. Thanks so much for your response and feedback. IT means so much to me!!!

Good morning Molly. I read your post yesterday and wanted to ponder on it and how I felt. After reading yours and everyone's responses, I can only say that I am feeling much the same way. I've been doing the TO plan on and off the past week and a half. Yesterday I was hungry and had some solid food. Now I'm upset with myself because of it. Sometimes I feel like I tried too hard and am being too hard on myself - expecting perfection all the time. I do feel better when I eat less. My pouch is happy. My plastic surgery incision areas are very happy.  Today I feel so full and tight. I hate that feeling. I'm having such a struggle to find a happy medium. My brain is still in the mode of having my cake and eating it too syndrome. Two years out and it's been the battle of the brain vs the stomach. I've become addicted to shopping. Now that has to stop because it is draining me financially. I have to channel my addiction to food and shopping in a new way. I know that my WLS was a success but I still feel like a failure because I haven't gotten this eating under total control. I do need the support here more than ever! I am so thankful to you for sharing your most inner thoughts, fears and feelings. That meant so much to me. Lucy  - crying now as my emotions are all over the place!

Hi Lucy!  We are in this this thing together. I do not regret the time out I took only my lack of moderation in my life and still see time out as a good thing to get a grip on eating. I realized by not eating how much I HAD been eating! Whew, what an eye opener.  I have concluded that I don't have to go on full liquids to stop over eating....How about, oh, I don't know, PUTTING DOWN THE COOKIES and picking up some beef jerkeyand after that a walk around the block. Sheesh...I am working on being so extreme. But you see what I mean. So, from now on, first things first as I realize it is all about planning, tracking and working out. Those are all things I can do for life. Hugs to you my friend and have fun at your surgeons office showing off that svelte little figure of yours! Please update us on how it goes! Molly

Molly Mae...Thank you for being honest and giving us a chance to see ourselves in your post.  I too joined a modified Time out and I learned that I wanted to go back to old diet habits of quick fix.  Which never works...duh!  Now I am adding more exercise and eating more protein and less carbs. That is what we are suppose to do but old habits slip right back in there, but I now know why and how I use them to cope.  See I do listen to all the posts...and everyone have helped me in some way, if not right now maybe in the future.  In saying all that Thanks and I did loose the 5 or 6 lbs that I could not get off, it was so great to see the scales move again after 2 1/4 yrs out from surgery.  Have a great summer and God bless you. 

Deb, I know what you mean about the scales moving...I forgot how intoxicating it is to lose weight! Fun, fun, now we just have to keep it going and although it will be slower, it will be steady and we will prevail through moderation and balance. Molly

Hi Molly, great point you made. One of things I have learned being on the TIME OUT plan, is if I put my mind to something I can do it.  I can discipline myself.     I have just completed day 3 (no food) and have lost 11 pounds.  I am already planning my menu once I start to include food.   I think this is important, too many times I grab something to eat whatever is easy and that is usually junk food.   This time I am going to plan my week out and shop ahead of time and look at my menu each day.   Only protein and vegs, no JUNK food in the house     Good-luck to everyone. Laura

Laura, I too, was shocked myself with my ability to stick to it albeit temporarily. That is why I do have boosted confidence in my ability to do SOMETHING for my health. Now I just have to concentrate those efforts on the long term solution. Three weeks ago I wasn't even thinking about getting back on track yet. I was still spiraliing out of conrtol so this is a great improvement for me! Hugs! Molly

Molly: Having read your post,  I am wondering, is it possible you could be bi polar, or maybe obssessive/compulsive??  I don't mean to offend, but with the big swings just a thought?  Have you discussed it with a therapist or Dr?  Just wondering if maybe some meds would help you to find a happy medium with things in your life?  You know most of us have some o/c and addiction issues or we wouldn't have needed wls!!  Good luck!!  DeeAnn R