Non-Timeout roll call!!

I, too, see a therapist, and she too suggested I get off of this board all together.  She felt it wasn't what I needed in order to get well and recover from my eating issues that took me to the place of needing surgery.  But obviously I haven't left.  I don't come on here as often as I used to or anything but I can't seem to give it up completely.  But I think after the way I have felt the last two weeks reading the accountibility post and the time out posts that I may need to take my therapists advice.  I am paying her to help me so I may as well do what she says.  LOL. My therapist feels this board keeps me in a place of having food issues rather than helping me move forward and get past them.   She feels for me to truly be able to move forward more in my recovery I should let this place go.  She may be right. Melissa  

My therapist assured me that  a good recovery is very possible. but, for some people the eating disorder becomes the identity, then giving it up becomes very difficult kind of a "who will I be if i am not anorexic, bulemic, a binge eater" etc.  I have made some terrific friends thru OH and like you am not quite ready to give it up, but I recognize the grad board is not really the place for me any more.  I am exploring other ones, maybe  I'll find one where the focus is on enjoying life.  I hate to give it up also when i know there are people out there who need support to be healthy. Maybe as I get better I can have something to offer.  I stopped reading all accountability posts for a long time, and felt better for it. i dont know why I looked in on them this week.    hugs!

If my doc knew how much I weighed right now, she might put me on the TimeOut plan!  LOL  But I'm just trying to work on eating healthy and maintaining right now.  Keep working on all your stuff and hang in there!  We're all in this together. Carlita

My response to your post didn't show up in the right place!  Please look below the one I just posted to Willow.  Thanks and have a great day!

No time out for me.. i am still trying to figure out what to eat being so new to the grad board. i am watching to see how they are doing in case down the road I will need it.... so far life is good.. so much more busier than I could imagine.. with good health life has a way of taking off and becoming a new adventure everyday.. i treasure every moment of it..

Glad to see we have more non TO on the board to hang out with..

I'm glad to hear you're doing so well.  Keep up the good work, and thank you for the response. Carlita

Hi, Carlita!  I would love to lose more - BUT I'm not willing to do "crazy" stuff any more!  I really really hope it works for those who are on it - but my experience w/this kind of thing is that as soon as you start eating "real" food again, it comes right back.  I'm trying to be happy w/myself where I am and w/what I've done!

AMEN! The crazy stuff is what got me to morbidly obese in the first place - crash diets, lose a little then gain a lot and I'll guess that is what time outs accomplish as well  when it is all over and done with.  The real key is giving myself a healthy balanced approach to food, Not punishing myself for mistakes by starving myself.  I am not all the way there yet, but i am getting better at recognizing the traps that will pull me back in to the habits that lead me to requiring surgery in the first place. 

I think your right willow. I don't even like the word time out. It's like a child being punished for doing something bad..i've punished myself enough. I have to learn to eat helthy, live healty and take good care of myself because i'm the only one who will. I don't want to be punished or punish myself anymore. I'm just taking one day at a time trying to make all the right choices, and if I mess up then I try to do the next right thing. that's all I can do. I don't need to make food that important to myself. I am captain of this ship of mine and i'm trying to steer myself in the right direction. I'm not comming down on anyone, just saying it's not for some..sheila

Willow,you got a good plan working for you.You are watching your food intake and exercise.You kep it up and you will achieve your goal.Everyone should watch themselvies to make sure what they are doing will not harm their bodies or have the oppisite effect than what they are looking for. bob