My mother,She makes me mad! arg!!!

 about a year ago, i dont know y im thinking about it now, but , my mom came to visit and i was sitting at my desk, i was in about a 14 then, and had lost lots of weight i mean lots like i had went from big womans 36 to a size 14 since she saw me.  She had been here for a couple of weeks already, anyway that particular morning she says, "is your stomache bigger or is it just me. " she always does crap like that to me. trying to make me feel fat or shel say "are you supposed to eat that "or "wow u can eat that much," i swear sometimes i think she wants to savatoge me.. like i already have an eating disorder and she wants to make it worse.. i threw up constantly when she was here.. .. sorry i dont know what made me think of that. since then ive lost alot more. now im in a size 6 and dr doesnt want me to loose any more... im working on it. i see a therapist.. its just hard. thank God I have u guys cause i sure dont have anyone else for support...

it's weird how people's minds work. I don't know your mother so I don't know if the comment was based in fear, jealousy, sabotage, etc. They sometimes don't realize that it hurts others to the core and words can stick with you for a lifetime. Don't let anyone else take the smile off of your face for all that you've accomplished!!!!!!!

ty Tracy..

a good topic for therapy. Many times something either subconsciencely or not will spark a memory, Often times in life these are triggers that generate over eating and must be deal with recognized and interventions put in place to stop the behavior from occurring.. It's good that you recognize.. even that you get mad.. use that to help u through your journey. I know I have so much more to learn about my self and why i do the things I do like over eating,.. but recognizing them is the starting point to making positive changes in your life..

I couldn't even begin to document the inappropriate things my mother says to me and it has got worse with age. My sister's theory is that parents go back to "high school" - you know, that time when girls think its OK to say really mean, personal things - she *****es and moans about all he people that look after her one minute (my poor dad included) and then in another breath says how thankful she is that she has such great family!  Its like some sort of dual personality disorder!!! Anyway, I live approximately 10,000 (yes, 10,000) miles away so our visits are annual and the phone calls weekly (I manage 6 days of sanity therefore) and of course, I always have my sister (who suffers far more often than me!)  to vent to. I realised long ago, and sadly I think you will have to do the same, that my mother will never be the person I WANT her to be, only the person she IS!  I'm afraid that any solution is probably only in your hands - good luck! Kim x

ty for that kim. ur right.. I dont really know wut made me think of it , but i guess it was good to get it off my chest..lol ty everyone again..

JEALOUSY,


I first want to say hello and I am not a year out just here to learn from those before me.When it comes to mothers and daughters sometimes the mothers forget that they are the mother that your children are a product of you and their success whatever it maybe is also yours.Women in general tend to be jealous indivisuals anyway.I learned awhile ago (via counseling) that a mother can be jealous of her own daughter now I see why the say mean things and do hurtful things to their daughters like sleep with the boyfriend.I am not saying that is the case becuase i dont know your mother but if she know that you have battled with your weight she only should allow herself to say possitive things.My mother was against the surgery for one she knew nothing obout it.Even though I was overweight I developed much self confidence.That was my brick wall I refuse to let some one else make me feel bad about myself I was hard enough on myself.I have to tell people all the time over weight people dont want to be that way.But i knew what i wanted and her opinion mattered nothing to me i had my husbands and close friend full support and now she braggs on how much weight i have lost.By the way you look great and I am sure you fell the same focus on that.