I feel so fat today

I have alot of days I feel this way. I always feel like ive gained weight, but ive always lost. my family is getting really mad at me. I always ask them if I look fat.    y cant I just be happy where im at? y dont I feeel normal?                                                          

I hope you do not take offense to this because I say it with care and concern.  Does your surgeon have a counselor on staff?  Perhaps talking to someone might help.  I never post in the "what did you eat today" thread, but I do read it and I honestly do not think you are eating nearly enought food.  Coffee and snack sized cottage cheese for breakfast... 6 ounce yogurt for dinner????  You simply cannot maintain good health eating that little.  That coupled with your emotions make me think that you talking with someone about how you are feeling and how you are eating may help you to feel better all around.   I wish you all the best and will be praying for you. Hugs, Tracy

I've been in maintenance mode for quite awhile now and maintaining nicely, but I still feel this way often. I just recently started seeing a therapist that specializes in eating disorders and she has helped to shed some light on way I feel this way. I am currently working on having an "attitude of gratitude"~just trying to say I'm happy for.........(whatever) every single day and not be so hard on myself. I am much more critical now than I ever was at 328lbs. Its like now everything has to look and be perfect all the time or I'm not happy. So, I too am working on this problem. Good Luck to You!

I understand what you are going through.  I go through the same thing.  As the poster above me said, I am more critical of myself now than I was pre-op.  Isn't it strange how that works?  I mean I know intellectually that I'm at a healthy weight and the scale reads 125, but I still can't help but when I look in the mirror I zero in right at the hips and thighs, which still look disproportionate to the rest of my body. I think I need a therapist to work on this body image problem.  I imagine a lot of us go through this... it's just not that easy to talk about. For what it's worth, you look absolutely amazing in your photo. Hang in there.

We have a fatal disease.  So, I dunno, isn't it NORMAL to fear the end of remission?  I mean,  I have a buddy who survived leukemia, has been in remission for 10 ys now, but she is not "cured". My morbid obesity has been in remission for 12 yrs now, but it can return TOMORROW.  And the first symptom is tighter clothes, right?  So, when we still SEE fat, that's mostly all we've seen for the past few years.  When we've been normal for awhile, we still have fat days and sometimes feel the return of the disease up her . I think what you are feeling is NORMAL (whatever that means).  Or at least a lot of us long termers feel that way.  I've been THIS size longer than I was morbid, but not as long as I fought an ever changing "too fat", but I still get confused.