anyone else tired of light weights?

Hey Diana, You've done a fabulous job!!  You are a SUCCESS!!!   Why do people feel the need to criticize?  We should be uplifting each other and celebrating our accomplishments!!! I started at 402, got down to 384 before surgery, and now am holding at about 217.  I see all these people who are down in the 100s and I'd like to get down to 190 but am having difficulty.  I feel good, I'm happy, and am thankfully healthy.  If I stay at this weight, I'm proud of what I've done, but sometimes I do question myself, "Could I have done better?  Is it over?  Can I still lose more?"  I know that I'm still working on acceptance of all the changes...  I need to not compare myself to others.  We're all different... I guess I'm still a work in progress...I appreciate that you could share your thoughts and feelings as it gives me a way to validate my own journey.  (There I go again, making comparisons) Keep up the good work and don't get discouraged, Kristen

I do understand...I beat on myself because I can't get to 200.....I want to get below it and should I guess.  And yes you see postings from the lightweights that are below and can't understand why you the 425 lb person can't get there...well they haven't been that far and people that haven't been that far in the weight zone don't understand and won't.  They aren't experienced in it.  They really don't know the reality of that zone so just chalk up their comments as non experience newbies.  I know I have.  Your loss has been great and you look great!  You will get what you need....we don't always get what we want.  But live that life to the fullest and remember weight is just a number and its all about being healthy not the number. Debbie

congrats on what you have accomplished this far...thats more than some people. as for what everyone says.....well look at it this way opinions are like a** holes we all have one and they all stink.  every person every surgery and every situation is different.  i went from 233 to 133 and up to 155. my body seems to do better at the 140-150 range...no i am not happy about it at all.  but i do not look sick and feel better.. and if you have built muscle than weighing in 200 muscular is different than 200 and fat.

dont put too much stock into what people are saying.....just remember we only know what they say... when in reality they could be un truthful. I love it how people with negative comments often times do not have profiles and pics. People need to get a life...there is much more to worry about in this world like are my kids safe at school?????

reality check folks........

Diana, you have done great....keep it up and smile smile smile

huggs, Tammy

I really like statistics (so I'm a nerd), but I do wish people would use them correctly.  Most often what we see reported is averages.  That means (think bell curve) there will be some who lose less than average and some who lose more but most will be in the middle.  And that is % of excess weight lost--not pounds.  So I might lose a lot more weight than a "skinny" and still be just average.  AND, to make it even more variable, people who are extreme cases--in either direction--aren't even included.  Their cases are called "outliers" and are excluded for statistical purposes.   So what this all means is that the numbers--averages, percentages--etc. are good and meaningful but they are just numbers, not people.  I was obese since youth.  I am, sigh, middle aged.  I do not expect to reach the same goal as a twentysomething who was only obese a few years.  There will be similar women who do better and some who do worse.  And yes, some people do have heavier frames, are more muscular, etc.   You are doing a great job.  Your attitude seems possitive and you're still doing healthy behaviors.  Keep up the good work and forget the numbers (and the silly people who think they know better!). Sally

Diana,

Not only loosing 160 lbs is impressive, keeping it off is even more impressive. Each day you must fight the battle to win the war. I started my journey as a heavy weigth 415 lbs and am now 154 lbs....each of us are unique and what works for one may not be the solution everyone. Each of us struggle with our own demons before, during and after surgery. As a community we need to support and encourage each other to reach our goals. Keep aiming for your goal, by staying focoused you will achieve success!!!

Ah you know I think overweight on anybody equals the same feeling of self hate and worthlessness. So I don't think I wanna waste any time thinking if those person's weight or that person's weight was enough to get or deserve wls. I mean that's like making the same judgements on people that people made about me all of my life and I don't wanna go down that road and be a hater.   I do understand what you are saying and the frustration you feel seeing them get to goal faster and not having the same struggles that others of us face and how the sizes just melt off of them in months and not years but I try to just focus on my self and my goals and try not to lose sight on my self. I know it is hard I mean I had to lose 100 lbs before I went down 1 pant size and that was really hard for me while everyone else for the same amount became a new person. I think the key is to not look too much at other people successes I guess.