anyone else tired of light weights?

Hey Diana! WOW!!  I'm going to have a field day with this one!!   The only slamming that I want to do right now is to those that feel they have the right to criticize or judge you in your weight loss journey.  How dare they be so bold as to assume that you would want or need their opinions one way or the other?  Your weight loss success can only be determined by YOU.  The numbers on a scale are only an indicator of our progress along the way.  How you feel inside and out, how you see yourself inside and out - these are, by far, the best indicators of your progress and nobody else has the right to measure them for you. True - there are "lightweights" out there, and to be fair to them, it that doesn't mean that just because they had a DIFFERENT AMOUNT to lose that they don't feel the same passion about their own weight loss journey - they simply fail to recognize that the numbers on the scale are also different for everyone else and there is no "set standard" by which someone measures their own success.  Body size, chemisty, genetics - each plays a big part in how our bodies process this journey. I started out at 350 pounds and lost 160 pounds, still striving to lose a little more.  I was certainly no lightweight at the beginning of my journey, that's for sure!  But I'm telling you one thing - if someone (ANYONE) challenged that I am not a success story simply based on my current weight, I'd be headlining the news tomorrow for teaching someone a lesson they badly needed to learn  - DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU.  Didn't we all learn that in first grade?? I say kudos to you for speaking out and venting your frustrations!  And in the meantime, JUNK THOSE EMAILS and block the senders.  Sounds to me like they are just added negativity  in your life and NOBODY needs that! Big hugs to you! Kristi   

Congrats on your personal success!  You've done marvelous.  You can tell those self-righteous lightweights, I said to bite me!

Diana, congratulations on your lost weight.   you have every reason to be proud of it.  I am sorry that you are getting these kind of negative comments. I am one of the light weights but I do not think I have ever come across to anyone as you have mentioned.  I try to be careful to guard against the "greater than the" atittude.    I have a different problem.  I go to a couple of support meetings.  Sometimes I feel out of place.  Nobody has been unkind to me.  In fact, I get a lot of kindness, but some times I feel out of place.  I guess, there is no answer to my situation.  I really intend to keep going to these meetings.  I need the support, but sometimes I do not know what to say to people.  Some of the meetings have a lot of pre-ops and people who have just had the surgery.  When I say I have lost 130 pounds and at goal, and they want to lose much more, I feel bad.  I wish I could say I had lost more.    I just want you to know there is two sides to this story.  Believe me, I hope you some day you have my problem.  Please hang in there and do not let anyone discourage you.  Of course, I have the fear of regain and problems of keeping it off.  This is not easy either.  Hugs and best wishes         

A 130 LOSS IS GREAT...MOST PEOPL IN MY FAMILY DONT EVEN WEIGH THAT MUCH :-)  i COME FROM A LONG LINE OF SKINNY'S WE PROUD OF YOUR LOSS  YOU DESERVE TO BE THERE AS MUCH AS ANYONE.

Hello Diana. I think you have done and are doing wonderfully. We are all different and we will travel various paths to better health. I am now 59, started out 28 months ago at 330 lbs and have lost 172 lbs. It has been hard work and I am thankful each day for each lb I have lost and keep off. How dare anyone complain about your success and achievements. You have taken back your life and you are empowered. I send you an electronic hug and hope you know that there are many of us here who cheer you.

I'm a light weight but I think we all have the same struggles.  I've never gotten to goal. I had lost at one point 115 pounds.  Now I'm up about 10 pounds even tho I'm doing the right things.  My body is fighting me with this danged hypoglycemia.  I probably won't be able to lose anymore until I get it taken care of thru surgery to remove part of my pancreas.   I think all of our bodies have a point that they want to be.  Some are 135 pounds, some are 200 pounds.  I'm trying to make peace with mine and trying to just be a healthy 155.  Sure, I'd love to be 142 (my goal) but right now, I know it won't happen.  Everyone just has to be okay with the wt their body wants to be.  You can beat yourself up or you can make peace.  I've decided to make peace, at least this week!   160 is a huge amount of wt!  That's more than me!  Just focus on that and how far you've come.  I wouldn't even respond to those emails.  That's why you have a delete button!  :LOL:  I'll bet if you figure out the % of loss, it's about the same for your 160 starting out at 360 and 100 starting out at 250.  It's both around 40%. 

Diana,  Whoa....that is a lot of steam.  Who came up with the names for  all of us?   I understand what  you are saying and yes I am a light weight...big deal !  I am so thankful for this surgery , I am more healthy than when I was first married and raising my kids.  I would have been more fun then if I had taken better care of myself and been healthy too.  You have every reason to be proud of what you have done....I would never have guessed you had more than 100 lbs to loose and any way who cares you are healthier and by far happier being able to do normal things and be normal.  What ever that is for you.  So don't steam the wall paper off the wall - you are a great person and you share with us and that has made life easier for many...so thanks for letting us know how you feel  No trashing here - you go girl!  deb k

Diana - You've done well, and you don't need to worry about what anyone else says or does.  The generalization that "everyone" loses about 100 lbs is just that, though, a generalization.  It varies so widely from person to person, that it is really hard to use that as a norm. We lightweights don't have it easy, either.  I am 13 months post-op, and I have lost "only" 73 lbs.  The majority of that weight was gone after  6 months.  I have another 10 lbs. to lose that I can't seem to let loose of no matter what I do.  I only had 80-85 lbs. to lose, but I had terrible comorbidities, from which I am certain I would die at an early age.  I am healthy now, and reasonably happy, and I look pretty darn good.  As I look at you, I would guess the same is true.  it is all relative, hon,  Trash those emails, Diana, and don't give it a second thought.  You have come so far.  At this point we are like everyone else who has that last bit left to lose.   We'll do it! Hugs, Barb

well im not slamming you either. I am proud of you. You should be proud of yourself.  I wasnt a lightweight. I was 378 lbs and now i weigh 151lbs. My sergeon did tell me I lost more than the usual. Im still loosing. they r trying to stop it. But just because i lost that much doesnt in any way discount the  weight loss of others.. Good luck Sheila

Okay, this may be a slam but here goes. I can understand where you are coming, but I can understand it because I am a LIGHTWEIGHT! In fact I am probably one of the lightest here, with only needing to loose 65 pounds.  People should never critisize someone for taking the right steps towards making themselves healthier. But there are those people out there that feel they have to make someone feel bad for somthing they themselves are probably having problems with.  I started my journey 4 years ago. Still to this day I get emails and messages from people that critisize me for chosing to have WLS. Telling me that I really did not deserve it, there are people that should have it and cannot because people like me ruin it for them. Fact is they don't know the whole story and never will! They don't know that because of the extra weight that I carried around my entire life, that I had to have my lower spine fused when I was 18. They don't know that now, 4 years after having WLS and loosing the weight, that my surgery was actually to late, and I am again having to look at having now my upper spine fused because of the damage from the extra weight (I am only 28 by the way). They don;t know that my doctor told me that I should never have children because of my extra weight and the spinal damage I would have a very hard time carrying the pregnancy let alone carrying the child after it is born. They don't know that back in high school I was harrassed and bullyed so badly that my junior and senior year I did summer school, so during the year I could go full time to the local community college. During those two year I went in the high school one time, the day I graduated. They don't know that I had dreams of becoming a Nurse, but after two years of college I was pulled aside by my two instructors instructor after doing clinicals and was told that nursing was a very strenuous occupation, and because of my back probelms I should look into another field. They don't know that my father had his first heart attack when he was 45 years old!  I could keep right on going. But fact is, it does not matter. I know what my reasons are and thats what matter. Someone critisizing me for choosing this option should really take a look at their own reasons. Obviously my doctor and surgeon and health insurance company thought that I had good enough reasons to need it done.  I am never going to critisize someone for trying to make improvment in their life. In fact I am a big advocate of this and would like to see my hubby get it done (he is 85 lbs overweight). But he is on the other side. Yes he is "slightly" overweight, but he is as healthy as can be, so they won't do it on him right now.  One point I would like to make is, there are those people like myself out there that need this done. Yet end up not having it done because there are people that critisize them for not being overweight enough (this is usually said by people that are overweight themselves), but then there are those that say we are fat and need it done (this is said by the skinny people), so we get ripped on by both sides of the spectrum. We don't really fit in anywhere. Anyways, sorry this got so long. When people critisize you, just bru**** off and keep right on going. You know why you did this!