unenthused friends' response

anyone ever get discouraged by a sometimes blase response friends have of the new you? it's almost anti-climactic to have them just say almost as an after-thought "oh, you look good" instead of the "holy cow!" and screams of joy i had envisioned. maybe not everyone is as enthusiastic as i am...

Remember - sometimes a person's response or reaction says more about them than it does about you. To keep it in the best perspective, just remember how good YOU feel about YOU.  That's all that matters anyway, right? Hugs! Kristi

Kari, It us so unfortunate that some of our "friends" change their attitude toward us when we lose weight.  Some are not comfortable when the fat friend becomes the not so fat friend.  They start to wonder then if they are the fat friend.  True friends will rejoice for you, the others you just have to write off  as a lesson learned.

I've been thru alot with so called "friends". They were not even unenthusiastic, but plain mean and rude b/c of the new me. I had to drop a few along the way, but I've also been blessed to find out who my "true friends" really are. Someone here at OH once told me "if they can't walk beside you and rejoice with you then tell them to get the he!! out of your way" LOL. Good Luck!

I don't get discouraged.  I just wonder about them.  Its the ones that complete ignore how different I look that puzzles me. Torrey (281/181/160)

you might consider that when they don't gush over your appearance that they may be a friend who has always seen the "real" you for the person you are rather than your external shell. sometimes when people gu**** seems a little fake, where when someone is low key it feels more sincere. My DH has only in my hearing said something ONCE about how great I look. he said it to another person at a party  who I hadn't seen in a long time ( a very old friend of DH) when the guy complimented me My DH said"doesn't she look great."  He treats me EXACTLY as he always has. I was somewhat hurt until a  group meeting where I was talking about it and  realized that he also NEVER commented on my weight when I was 260. That is when I realized that the external was not necessarily what was important to him.  That is a far greater compliment, that some one  cares for you as a person with out regard to how you look.  Another thing. I feel a little offended when people are going on and on about how muche bettter I look -IE the person who said how nice I looked and that they always knew the was a pretty girl under all that

willow, this little bit here "you might consider that when they don't gush over your appearance that they may be a friend who has always seen the "real" you for the person you are rather than your external shell." is a goldmine of wisdom. thanks for the encouragement, support and clear-headed thinking. it made me see my friends' reactions in a much more positive light. although my girlfriends often seem to bring up fitness as a topic (even before i do) when talking with me, i am touched that they've always seen the real me even when i didn't know what that person looked like. i really meditated on all that was posted on this topic and it's all been helpful! thanks, kari

you are soo right on about the ego stroking (must keep that in check) and i like what you said about people's hesitation to wax on about a friend's change in weight. i might have made another post lamenting that all my friends can talk about is how good i look now and how it makes me wonder just how ugly i looked before, who knows? but your points are well-considered, appreciated and well-taken. thanks for the feedback, i needed it. take care, kari