Tired of hearing I need to stop losing

Hi everyone! I haven't posted much on here and have kinda been out of touch for a couple of years. I am almost 4 years out since having RNY and went from 270/150 at my lowest, which was right after I had my tummy tuck. I had people saying I looked sick, and needed to gain back a few pounds. I'm 5'8" and so over the past two years not only did I gain a few pounds, I gained about 30. I started back with my rules and have lost back down to 150 and once again I am getting scrutinized and told that I better stop losing. I'm pretty big boned, so when they see my collar bone sticking out and me wearing a size 8 (which isn't like a 4 or anything) they keep hassling me. This is what threw me over the edge before. I would just like to know how other people are handling such comments, when I feel that I should be the judge of what weight I want to be. My BMI is still at the high end of normal, and I want to lose 10 more pounds, what do you guys think? And any advice would be extremely appreciated. By the way, I'm taking my vits, eating lots of protein and doing all the things I'm suppose to be doing, eating about 1,000 calories a day! Thanks!

Hi Jennifer~ I would do what is comfortable to you!!! I have lost about 165 lbs in the last 2 plus years. I have gained back 15lbs. I have heard countless times to gain a little weight back but now that I have I feel sooooooooooooooooooooo uncomfortable. I felt really great in an 8 and that is what I am going back to. I need to be more committed to taking my vitamins exercising. I stay so busy that I foget to take care of myself. Once again, do what is comfortable to you!!!

I am beginning to hear the same type of comments. I am not near as far out as you guys. I will hit my yr. anniversary Nov. 21st. However, I am getting comments like ohh your SO thin or do you EAT anything? I am 5'1 so I am petite and I do have a small frame I am weighing around 120ish I go back and forth 2 pounds or so but I am in line with what my weight should be. I do eat. I feel great. I am in a size 6. I think that as long as I am not 100 pounds or anything crazy like that people should leave me alone! I am not "TRYING" to loose the weight I am just letting my body naturally do what it is going to do. I agree with Dayatra we should just do what feels comfortable for us as individuals.

I am 2.5 years out .. 5.7 tall .. weigh 125 .. with out plastics .. If I had the plastics I probably would not weigh a buck 05 . And I hear it all the time .. and I get sick of it .. my doc tells me I am fine .. my nut tells me I am fine .. I look fine .. and am a size 4 .. so ... I do what suits me .. to heck what others think .. I lived my life that way for years and now that I look and feel good .. can't the others just get happy for me .. Congrats to you for getting back to where YOU wanted to be .. Keep up the great work .. as it is a lifestyle forever ! Tink

Well, here is my 2cents ITS NO BODY'S BUSINESS!!! Family sabotages us and mine say the same thing except my hubby who says go for it! I am almost 14 months post op and when I was 175 I was told to stop!! Now I am 150 and I would also like to lose about 5-10 more pounds, and I am a size 8 too. My doc said to go for it, so in my opinion, they are jealous and just really can't handle it. I think most people think we will just lose until we are anorexic, but that is not the case. My mom used to say if anyone ever came up to her and said "You are too thin" she would just say to them..."Thanks!!" That is my new answer when people pick or complain...."Thanks!" you have no idea what it feels like to be over 200lbs, so I am quite comfortable being a NORMAL size! You do what you feel is right, no one has to live in your body but you! If you feel you are too thin, then you will stop, but if you feel you are fine, then go for it!!! Cheers! Deb

Deb, I just wanted to say that I looked at your pics... you look soooo good! I wish my stomach looked like that! Holy Moly! We are surgery sisters and our weights are almost identical. I started at 281 and am now 155! Aren't you scared to go go Mexico for surgery?? I would like to talk to you about that more. Lori

Jennifer, I hear it all the time too. Family and friends, especially my husband and my mother. I'm 5'1" and weigh 120 lbs, wear a size 4 most of the time some size 6's. I do believe people are use to us looking a certain way and the changes for them are just as pronouced as it is to us. They have to adjust to seeing us different too. I just tell them ok, I'm eating, leave me alone. Best wishes, and congrats on getting back to your goal. Dana

I am 3 years out and in the same position. I hear it all the time!! You are too thin, eat, blahblahblah~~ I eat what I want when I am hungry. Y docs say I am fine!! I actually got down to 112, which was way too skinny..I gained back about 12 pounds and now wear a 4 or 6. I am only 5'3' so I think 125 is a good weight!! As long as you feel healthy and okay..it is your body!! REnee

we are the same height and i got down to 139 pounds at my lowest. i'm back up to 150-155 depending on the day/week whatever. i was told how aweful and frail i looked at 139. and looking back at pics my face did look sunk in and nasty. BUT my body now is shifting around and my face has filled out a little more. i'd say you're at the perfect size where you are now. I'm in 8/10 also but i haven't had plastics yet. i told everyone to **** off and leave me alone about it. my sister though is the opposite...she always calls me fatty when we're eating. talk about making someone feel terrible. i know she's just playing but at the time it bothers me because i've been so down on myself for gaining! but i say stay with the size that YOU are comfortable with and tell everyone to shut up. like i said i think size 8 is the perfect normal size! still a single digit but not to little for our height! Steph

People tell me that alot too, but I figure its my life, its my battle, its my body so I'm going to do what I want to do! May sound selfish, but my BMI is also in the good range, my dr's say I'm in great health so what's wrong with it?Could be a bit of jealousy on their part, could be resistance to change, who knows, but its not your problem. As long as you're healthy then why should anyone care what you weigh?? I have family/"friends" that are WAY more concerned about what I weight than I am~does that make any sense? Most of the time for me its not worry or concern its the green eyed monster coming out in them, but I will not let anyone sabotage my success~in fact, little do they know but it gives me strength to keep going! You need to weigh what you are comfortable with. 10lbs more does not seem unrealistic to me~I am 5'9" @150lbs~and there are days when I'd still like to lose a few more. Good Luck to You! Tracy B 328/150 5'9"