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My head is about to explode.

Quinns ..
on 8/4/06 5:10 am
I dont post much here..but I am a 5 year grad.. I'm just working away and reading the main board..and my head is about to explode..maybe I just am PMS'ing lol..nothing really bothers me usually. Is it just that life back when I had surgery was so different and not as intense after surgery as it is now? Back then we muddled through and actually used our heads to learn how to make some good choices... The amount of misinformation out there floating around astounds me more with each passing day..and the fact that so many take what is said to them without so much as a second though, frankly scares me. I dont do things anyones way except my own..I'm an admitted non conformist who does things the way they work for me no matter and i've done quite well..but some people well..just do things and there is no common sense involved. Maybe i'm just stressed and tired..I dont know..but some days I just have to close my browser and do something else or my head WILL explode ;) lol Mariella
SherryWeber
on 8/4/06 6:09 am - IA
Mine does it often...Joshua and Lexi like to watch all the pretty confetti float around... (((Hugs))) ~~Sherry
stephgerlette
on 8/4/06 6:36 am - St Charles, MO
i agree with you...in fact i was just thinking the same thing reading the main board...it's like good lord people use your brain!! i hate to be that way but come on! there are things you should be able to figure out for yourself. i mean i know the site is here to support people but it seems like people ask questions about the strangest things. don't get me wrong sometimes i post with a problem to see if anyone else has gone through the same thing but not like...i ate this or that, did i stretch my pouch? be realistic....i think they need to have a permanent post with all the basic questions that come up every day that people can just go to without having the same things come up every single day! i'm sure i'll get flamed but oh well....such is life!! btw mariella....i aspire to be like you! you are so incredible!! Steph
Quinns ..
on 8/4/06 7:04 am
I guess i'm just curious as to why people say "I know people who this has happened to"..but yet these so called people never ever come forward and speak about it or seem to be members here...they always seem to be someone that someone knows..or someone their doctor told them about..or it's the cousins friends mothers best friends sons wife that it happens to.. 8 years..not one person who this has supposedly happened to EVER come here and spoke about it and tell their story.. odd..makes me wonder... If ya'll dont know what i'm referring to, it's the fish sandwich thread and people who can rupture their pouch. I'd be thrilled to see a real victim of this come forward and tell their story. Until then..to me..it's bull**** lol I came home on regular food..I had toast before I left the hospital..and many people do NOT do liquids or pureeds...so to tell people not to eat solid food when some are allowed to and encouraged by their surgeons makes no sense. I tend to stick the OSSG group most times..I cant deal with the lack of misinformation, myths, rumors and general non common sense that seems to be running rampant lately. Mariella Oh and Sherry..lovelove you..you're one of my best friends..thank you for helping my head NOT to explode... Steph, I hear ya! trust me..makes me nuts as of late too.. Jane..right on..I look up to you..love the no nonsense no bs posts..i'm the same way..i will be keeping an eye out ;)
SherryWeber
on 8/4/06 2:37 pm - IA
Sooo...a pound of Pop Rocks chased with Mountain Dew (Diet, of course and slurped through a straw) won't make my pouch explode...right? LOL Love ya! ~~Sherry P.S. On the off chance your head DOES explode try to make sure that the Little Ones are there to play in the confetti...they really DO like it!
giovanna dibenedetto
on 8/5/06 5:35 am - Kent, WA
Mariella, OMG, in the almost 2 yrs since my surgery you are the first I have seen that has eaten the way I was. Although I came home on liquids, I could not stand purees and shakes, never have, even pre-op was never a shake person, they always made me sick. So within 2 wks I was on soft foods and within a month eating normally. It is important to remind people that each persons journey is different and we must do what works for us, but still remember to use baisc common sense. I know Thank you for letting others know this. I now eat what others consider normal, just less and tolerate almost everything I did before, with the exception of pork chops--go figure lol! Now to keep my head from exploding...or my new tummy whichever comes first Giovanna
(deactivated member)
on 8/4/06 7:33 am - Meridian, ID
Actually, I'm the one whose pouch exploded. I'm talking to you from the other side and I'm not supposed to be in contact with the living....oops ...gotta go, someone's coming.... I hear ya! I'm 15 months out and I can't hardly stand the questions and comments being asked. I suppose I should be more tolerant since I probably asked or said something incredibly stupid. But, geez louise, eating a fat-laden chicken sandwich 4 days out! Why do some of these people even have the surgery? I think they must think that this surgery is the new wonder diet and you don't have to change anything about their current lifestyle. It's no wonder insurance companies are becoming more and more reluctant to pay for this surgery. I suppose it's just me today, I'm cutting back on my estrogen and I'm probably a little b*tchy today. I don't dare respond to that thread or I'd probably come off as flaming and get kicked off the board. I don't mind some of the questions being asked by newbies but sometimes it seems like who can post the most outrageously stupid thing they did or question. Like I said, it's probably just me and my mood today. Linda
Sharyn S.
on 8/4/06 8:24 am - Bastrop, TX
RNY on 08/19/04 with
That's why I stick to the Texas Message Board and the Grads Board. I just started coming to OH in May. I will be 2 years post-op this month and I cannot believe some of the stuff that gets posted on the main board. I rarely reply to anyone over there because I'm afraid I'll just really let someone have and I really don't need THAT drama. I've got enough of my own, without having to deal with someone else's. XOXOXO, Sharyn
deann
on 8/4/06 9:00 am - Brandon, MS
I agree with Sharon's reply (and all the others), I mostly cannot go on the main board, I just stick to this board, the MS board, and "Hunger and Food Issues"....only because I am kinda in survival mode myself and need the support from all you guys about how to maintain/get back on track/lose the last 20-40 pounds/RE-learn the "pouch rules".....etc.... Yeah, you might need to give yur-self a break from the "main board" - IT'S MADNESS - LOL, but I guess it is very good for us to give "good" support to newbies.... So, I'm gonna take this opportunity to MAKE myself go on the main board and take my turn with "THEM" - LOL - .....DeAnna....
Dx E
on 8/4/06 2:10 pm - Northern, MS
Mariella, Harness that "Head Exploding Energy" and stay in there! After a brief scan through, I found the "Death by Filet O'Fish" Thread. Now, here's what I read...... Typical, Useful, Valuable Thread. The thread started out doing precisely what it should have- "I did a stupid thing, I learned." The implication and value of such "Confession Threads" Is that they allow other readers To not only learn from their own mistakes/experiences, But the mistakes/experiences of others. One of the most useful things about the whole message board. Then, what started happening in the thread- "You a Crazy!!!" Judgement, Judgement, I know better, ALL SANE PEOPLE know better, I/We know that - Fried Fish Kills! 'McAnything' Kills!! The lest helpful thing about the message board- Yet, just as typical- Straws Equal Death!, Misery and Total Failure from Carbonation! Carbs Should Never have been Invented!! You Must Drink Shakes Daily!! You Must Never Drink Shakes!! These Cries of outrage are most often from- A pre-op, a new post-op still on liquids/pureed foods. An occasional 'knee-jerk' from a further out post-op But usually Sophomores picking on the Freshmen. Then, what happened is what I hope always happens in such a thread. A Post-op pops in and says- "Wait! So it's not the best choice to make, But don't fear monger! Quit that! You'll cause more people to develop Food-Phobias And re-enforce unnatural relationships with food and Diet Mentality. Not everyone is Saved by the Same Denomination, So Stop the 'Hell-Fire & Brimstone!" Then, the thread, for the outside reader, Turned into one that communicated, rational thought and learning And striving for 'Better Each Day', rather than unqualified Message of "The One and Only Way to avoid Death!" Had you not been there? Who would have balanced the see-saw? Happily the thread didn't turn toward the other least valuable & typical direction- "How dare you slam her for slamming others!" "I don't think you are very supportive of the people who aren't supportive!" "This is how ALL SANE PEOPLE respond to Threads......" All that said- Is it hard to keep wading into the sometimes murky swamp To help clear the water a little? Yes! Am I able to keep at it? No! But I'm thankful that others like you, are. The other point that should be included, Particularly for the Pre-Ops & Newbies Reading here on the Grads Board, (yes, we see YOU!) Just because we may be much further out, and maintaining a normal BMI, Does that mean we have more wisdom? Not necessarily at all. There are some Old-Post-Op Wackadoos Too! But, when running across a successful Post-op who Is dropping in to pass on- "There aren't Absolutes, just lessons to be learned from, or ignored. The choice is in the hands of the person making the choice. Do what works for you or don't." Then, that post-op should be at least be given the benefit of the doubt. Every one works on their own "Journey." Mine of late? My new 'Prayer'....... "Keep me from feeling that I must say something On every subject on every occasion. Release from craving to straighten out the affairs of others. Help me to be Thoughtful, but not Moody, Helpful, but not Bossy. Clear my mind from the recital of endless detail, Give me Wings to Get to the Freaking Point! Keep me reasonably nice, But know that I do not want to be a saint, just yet- Some of them are so hard to tolerate. Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places, And Talent in unexpected people. And give me, Dear Heaven, the grace to tell them so. Amen. PS, Please help me care about punctuation." The Main Board Needs You! It needs More and Less It needs all the voices of reason to rush in To Overwhelm, and Drown Out the handful of those who only add- *Screams of Judgement, (You don't Deserve this Surgery!) *Rants of unsubstantiated Self Righteousness, (I chose the RIGHT procedure/diet, etc...) *Idle Chatter, (That Star Jones is regaining. It serves her right, that Witch!) *And The Easily Offended! (To disagree with Me, is Insensitive and Un-supportive!) Hang on that Great Head of yours, And go out there and "Blow Some Minds!!" Best Wishes- Dx
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