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Okay, I am upset i weighed 148 before my period and now almost at the end i weigh 150. Whats up with this....usually i lose 2 lbs. I soooo badly want to make it to goal. Today i am 17 months post op and i have been struggling. i am hungry, i can eat about 1 to 1 1/2 cups of food. I can eat sweets and not dump, I am trying hard to sugar detox. I do exercise but ughhhh... will i ever get there. I wish i knew how to quickly lose these lbs. Today I am trying to start life as a post op again, I would like to do liquids for 3 days, then soft tehn regular foods, with the hope of breaking the cravings, the sugar callings and ability to eat so much. I am just so frustrated. I see people who make it to a normal BMI and i wonder how they did it. I have a very large hernia which makes me feel even larger. Thanks for listening,Melinda
Well maybe this will be a post of me talking to myself, but if you do read this please don't tell me to focus on what i have lost and be grateful for that. i am grateful, but yet i need to focus on getting to goal. I am hungry now, it is 12:30 and i have not eaten. I will make it today. I hope...okay feeling a bit weak...but i will stay strong.
Melinda
I have one question: if it 12:30 (in the afternoon?), why on earth haven't you eaten yet? even had a protein drink to get your vitamins down.
I just looked at the post above my response and it says 9:37 am, so maybe that is the answer-the time difference between your post and the posting on the site. SORRY!
You sound like you need to drink or eat more-even if it's an egg or some cheese. I don't believe you should be starving yourself like it sounds you are. I hope not.
Marilyn
Melinda:
Hi! I don't have any words of advice, but want you to know that I know how you feel and sympathsize!!! I am around 2 1/2 yrs post op, and am not at goal either!! I need to lose 20 more pounds to be a "normal" BMI. I can eat 1 to 1/2 cups also, and i do not dump!!! I am up around 14 lbs from my lowest weight. I work out regularly and weight train, so I do think my recent gain of 3-4lbs is muscle. I wear a size 8, so I know I'm not huge, but sometimes I feel fat yet!! I am losing inches, but no weight!! I would love to have a normal BMI and be at my goal, but I can live with where I'm at. I have few problems eating, I don't feel like I even had RNY sometimes!! ****il I look at my scar!!) I am working hard to maintain my weight, I would like to lose at least 10 lbs, but do not want my life to revolve around the numbers on the scale. I know we are healthier now, and maybe we need to focus on that instead of weighing a certain amount?? I am at a 28 BMI, I was almost 50 preop. I may never get to a 25 which is normal. Good luck with your struggle, you most definitely are NOT alone!! Hope this helps a little?? DeeAnn R
DeAnn, your right i should focus on how i feel and not the number. I start weight training tomorrow and i do worry i may gain. I wear a size 10, but would like to be a single digit. By the way, i failed...sorta, not really a failure though. I had baked fish and zucchini around 1pm with a single pepper mint andy afterwards. i am okay with this. Good luck to you as well. You look great.
Melinda
Hi Melinda.
Geez girl, you use some pretty tough metrics to measure your success...you vs. others, you vs. sugar, you vs. dieting. No wonder you feel like crap...you tell yourself or at least you tell the grads board that you are crap!
You asked us not to tell you that you should revel in your success. I won't. Because I don't believe that your success is sustainable if you continue to play negative messages in your head. Get over it girl...it's two frickin' pounds! You want to make it to goal? Then get your head out of the diet mentality/food denial gutter and you will get there! Why does it have to be quick? Did you get fat in one week? Why do you think that quick weight loss is necessarily better? Is it because when you were fat your relationship with food was about instant gratification? Quick, instant, fast are just that...fleeting. This is not about fleeting attempts to make a momentary difference...
Here's the secret...there is no liquid, sugar detox, soft vs. hard secret! There are no secrets!!! This thing is about lifestyle. And making a commitment to a reasonable, healthy, and comfortable lifestyle will get you to goal (which seems temporary) and beyond...which is about forever.
I can eat 3 cups of food! So what? Who cares? I don't dump on sugar and never have! Does that mean I am doomed to the land of the morbidly obese? No way! Never again. It's all about choices, portions, hunger level, movement and above all else gathering every ounce of your inner strength every minute of every day to be successful. I know this...I have known this for 5 successful years post op. Again, there are no secrets! This thing is about finding what works for you in terms of food choices, frequency of meals based on hunger level and not someone elses plan, every moment of every day.
Your post has made me sad.
Because I believe that you are successful.
Because I believe you can reach your goal.
And because I believe that you don't believe in yourself.
Believe me...there are no secrets, there are no diets, there are no tricks...there is just you and your dreams...the unbelievable is achievable. Really.
Karen
wow what a great response, this really hit home for me. i am on here for the first time is more than six months. i havent been making good choices, i started at 242 and now weigh 159, have been at this weight for several months like maybe 6. i had surgery 12/04. i need support right now but by reading this i have realized that i have to quit wollowing in my self pity and pull up my boot straps and get to it. although i would like support it is all up to me. thanks!
Lynn
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