Can you believe the Dr. said this????

Hi all, I had my 2 yr. check up on 7/11/06 and was concerned that I wasn't loosing enough. (455 to start, down 200, still have 65 to go!) I had logged my weight loss weekly and when I told him I had only lost 20lbs. in the last 6 mos. he said "Well, what's wrong with that?" What's wrong???? What's wrong??? IT IS WAY TO SLOW!!!!!!, I said. He sits there so pleased with me, so encouraging and I was fuming. His skinny little A** just doesn't understand the psychie of an obese person! And why do I think he should? He's a surgeon, not a shrink!!! So I took a deep breath and let it out, smiled and said I guess I am just impatient...... He offered to re scope me to see if the pouch had stretched too much, but if it had ins. wouldn't pay for a revision and anyway he didn't recommend it! I carry so much of my weight in my thighs that it is hard to exercise and my personal trainer said that exercise alone probably won't help much. The plastic surgeon said" your legs will really be a challenge. Your body fat needs to be less that 40%". So I have set a goal for myself.............plastic surgery by Jan. 1. Now I need to do some heavy duty self talk!!!!! Back to basics......I know that's the way. Why I tend to dig in my heels, I don't know. I really do love my surgeon. I just flammed when he asked that. But I do forgive his little A**! Keep on keeping!\ Dancin D 7/7/04 rny/lap -200lbs.

Do not take this offensively...but to maintain your weight you have to be eating far more than 1,200 calories per day. I would suggest journaling your food intake. Use fitday. I loose weight when I do not exercise.....I just do not eat over 1,200 calories per day. I still drink 3-4 protein shakes per day. It is so tough. I am diabetic and 56 years old. My weight support group has a Tanita scale. It is about $2200 one--very advanced scale. it measures BMR not BMI and body fat. Some gyms have them---about $40 to use it....does your DR have one? I suggest you find out your BMR and then you can calucalte your calorie need. Sandy

What is BMR?

Do you have lymphadema in your legs D?

No Ms. Toot! At least no Dr. has told me that I have lymphadema. They are just super heavy with lots of skin and fat. More in the thighs than in the calfs of my legs. It's like everything drooped to there!!!!! What cha think? Luv, D

Oh and Tooter......On your thread...... how do you make your old picture flash on then your new picture? I wanted to do that but can't figure it out. I did get my latest pic. on but need to make it flip. Thanks. D

D, I have those same thighs! I hate them! LOL. I haven't lost in a while. I did my 18 month check up with my hottie surgeon on the same day as yours! He would like to see me get down to 185 then look at plastics. I asked about the flab bouncing if it made a difference in me losing the weight he said no....Its so hard now and I know I need to get back to my journaling because I am eating more than the 1200 calories I was told to stay at. With all that is going on in my life right now I can't concentrate on me. My Hottie Surgeon said the number like it was obtainable....How come I feel its not. Is it because nothing is coming off on the scale. I wish I could understand how I can do this. I know basics is the key I guess but eating that little again....I don't know if I can do it. PS Jan 1 is a good goal. I hope you make it! Debbie

Sorry your life has so much going on. You said you ate about 1200 cals. Well, I usually get in around 1,000. So I'm close. I just need to get back to water water water!!!!!! Why is it so hard to do such a simple thing like that? Dancin'D

Maybe your surgeon reacted that way because he knows it's almost a miracle for you to still be losing weight at 2 years. Most people are experiencing regain by the 2 year mark. My surgeon told me up front that I'd never fit the insurance tables. He said you could never have gained up to 410 lbs without a metabolic problem and that will still be a problem after surgery. He said I will guarantee you will be healthier, look and feel great when you stop losing. I stopped losing at 210 lbs and nothing I did would make it move any further. I was eating between 800-1,000 calories and working out twice a day for 45 minutes. My surgeon and PCP were telling me my body knew it was time to stop losing weight even if my mind hadn't accepted it. They both said I had no fat left to lose, it was all muscle and it would be dangerous to continue to lose weight because I'd be losing muscle which could be a vital organ like the heart, etc. My biggest problem was my stomach before surgery and it was still a problem at 210 lbs. I had a tummy tuck which took off another 22 lbs leaving me at 188 on a 5'6" large frame. It took some adjusting to realize I'd worked this hard to end up still obese but in time I mentally adjusted to the realization that I'd reached the end of the losing phase of my wls journey. Today I'm happy physically & mentally with my healthy body. I can walk or work in my yard for hours on end. I look and feel good in my size 10 cotton pants, take no prescriptons, etc. What's not to love about this body? Hopefully you will continue to lose some weight, but don't be surprised when the weight loss stops at some point. Then you have to remember where you were verses where you are today and embrace the new body. Best of luck for your continued success.

I just loved your reply. Thank you very much for sharing it with me. This truly helps me get a better perspective on things. You are so right in accepting where you are and what you can do now. I'm only 5'4" so I am going to try to lose more but when the time comes that the loss stops I'm going to re read this and comfort myself in knowing I'm the best that I can be. Thank you. Dancin'D 7/7/04 rny/lap -200lbs.