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Robert...I came across this by accident..was looking for the Florida board. You might want to call your Doc. You might have a little depression going on and medication may help.
If thats not the case...then you have lost your will power because you are allowing it. I am almost 4 years out...and I know how difficult it is. I've said it a million times...WLS is not a magic bullet. It is only a means to an end. And once it 'ends'...then you have to keep control and work hard to keep the weight off.
We have to diet. I am dieting now. I have lost 5 pounds...and I need to lose a few more. And I will do it. I'm doing South Beach. You can't just go back to eating the way you used to. YOU JUST CAN'T.
If you always do what you always did, then you'll get what you always got.
It is in YOUR power to get this under control. I can't help you. No one can help you. It will take motivation and work. And if you choose to do it...you will. If you choose not to...then it will be steady gain until you are back where you were. And I know you don't want that.
I absolutely hate to see the phrase 'pounds gone forever'. It gives the impression that you don't have to work at this. That WLS will do all the work and you can just eat whatever your body will allow and get away with it. It's not happening. So what are you willing to do to get back to goal weight.
Are you willing to work at it? Are you willing to take the steps you HAVE to take to get back?
Lack of exercise....or eating sugar and white carbs? Lack of exercise won't put 30 pounds on. It will just make it harder to maintain. But it doesn't mean you can't do it. I don't exercise much either...but I can walk. So I do. And thats pretty much all I do. Can you walk? No excuses. Can you walk?
Are you eating fast food? Are you drinking with meals? Are you drinking carbonation or sweet tea? Sugar? White carbs? Are you taking your supplements and counting protein? Be honest. It's all still there Robert...the rules are still there to follow. You just have to do it.
Now...if you get all defensive and say, "It's not my fault, I can't do it, it's my health"...then you may just be lost. But if you take this in the spirit it is given...if you really dig deep within and realize that you are your own enabler....if you decide to take the bull by the horns....there will be hundreds of people on this website pulling for you....checking on you and doing whatever they can to help you get back.
So what's it gonna be Robert? Can you do it?
Love and hugs from the beach
Charlie
Robert,
It sounds like you are really hurting and might need to talk to someone. Please call and chat with a friend or family member for support, you could also call this hotline for someone to talk to...800-784-2433... this is a crisis center and they can help you, its a positive step for you to take. Please don't let the bleakness you are feeling get the best of you.
Robert,
You have reached out!! That is the first step to feeling better. Keep talking about your feelings. Get some outside help. It's nothing to be ashamed of either. I know I have felt that way in the past...even as recently at 4 months ago. I went to a Dr and I can't even believe I felt like that before now that I feel better. I have just gotten approval for my surgery and your post has helped me to know that I am not alone and I need to always reach out no matter how bad it gets. Feel free to email me at anytime if you just need somewhere to vent.
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Jen
Robert-- Your've made it to goal once. You know how to do it. Just make your mind up to do it again. You are stronger than you think you are. You have already lived through unkind comments. Now you need to do what you have to do. PICK YOURSELF UP, DUST YOURSELF OFF, AND START ALL OVER AGAIN!!!
Everyone here at obesityhelp.com is here to encourge you, so log on everyone will help you. Believe in yourself.
you have taken the first step and that is ASKING for help. you need to call someone and talk. i went through a hell i cannot even describe after losing my mother and called a helpline. YOU CAN GET THROUGH this and you are NOT alone. there are too many people who depend on you day to day whether you realize it or not. email me, i will be glad to talk to you. please, please, please call your doctor tomorrow but talk to someone NOW.
Please find someone to talk to. A counselor, a clergy person, a friend or family member. Even a police officer.
Your RNY is not responsible for your feelings. You are cared about and you can't even imagine how many people would be hurt if they found out you took your own life. Reach out to them like you've reached out to us. We can't do too much for you at a distance besides support you and e-mail you back.
I've lost family members to suicide. I know your pain. I know the pain your family will experience if you take this step. I beg of you to please reach out to someone who can help you better than those of us on the board.
If you ever need anything, please let the people on the main board know and we'll all see what we can do to help. Please be safe and take care of yourself.
In friendship,
Lori
I can so relate 2 ur feelings of despair. Last July I was all set 4 surgery (about 2 weeks away) when the doc decided he couldn't do it b/c what I needed was a revision & he's never done 1. Man talk about DEPRESSED! I stayed in bed & cried for days. Oh yeah & ate. I'd gone out & bought a lot of cloths that I now wouldn't be able 2 wear. After a few weeks I started searching 4 a doc who does revisions. I went 2 him & he had me get an upper gi so he could see how my 1st surgery had been done. He said he'd do it but only if I'd lose 30lbs & c his nut @ $120.00 & have another psych eval @ $1,200.00. Ok, the 30lbs I can do if I really tried very hard. But the more than $1,300.00, no way!!
This time I went into a "small" depression. Only cried a little but not in bed. But I did eat still. So now I'm on my 3rd doc, I see him Wed. the 5th. I'll know more then. But guess what, if he doesn't work out I already have a 4th lined up. I don't walk well either, I use a scooter & a cane. I can only walk a few feet b4 I need 2 sit or lean 2 rest. And I am ALWAYS, ALWAYS in pain. U know what u had 2 do in the beginning, right after surgery 2 lose the weight right? So do ur crying, blow ur nose, dry ur eyes & get back 2 it.
U can e-mail me if u want & I will give u my ph# so we can talk.
[email protected].
Hang in there kiddo, u can (will) do it. I have faith in u...
...Eve
...Eve Robert
You do need help and that is nothing to be ashamed of. It is not the weight that worries me as much as you saying you ant to kill yourself. You need to see a psychiatrist and see if you can be put on some antidepressants if you are not on them now. You only put on 30 pounds I bet it is only a fraction of what you lost- you can go back on the food plan now and save the rest of your weight loss. You can do water aerobics- how much did you lose- how much did you gain- see I bet you can still save yourself - don't ket this all go to waste
edyth
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