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Hi all, I am a 1 1/2 year grad and I am very happy with my weight loss. This is my problem though I am absolutely terrified of gaining my weight back. When I started I was 230lbs I am now 115-120. I wanted to stay at 115 but my hubby said I looked sick because I had lost to much for my body frame. O.k. thats not my problem this is I am absolutely scared to death of gaining any of the weight back. I stepped on the scale today and I weighed 121 I started to cry. plus the other night for dinner I was able to eat a whole bean burrito from taco bell (just a plain one not a supreme or anything) but it scared me. I usually don't eat lke that I try to eat alot of fruit and veggies and small portion sizes but still it totally freaked me out and I'm still so upset about it. I need some help I thought I would be fine without support but I'm so scarred of being fat again. I do not want to go from one extreme to the other if you know what I mean. How much are any of you able to eat? This is not an everyday thing somedays I have to force myself to eat even a small salad just because I know I have to eat but still I do not want to be fat. Is this normal. Plese help me.

Hi Michelle, I am almost 4 yrs out and still feel like I could gain. I watch what I eat and try to remember the basics, like not drinking while I eat. I can eat more at times too. Stop eating when you are full. Sometimes I have to remind myself that food is not entertainment. Food is for substanance. That works for me most of the time (except when I want chocolate and then I can really work my way around the rules ) If you feel like you are depressed about weighing 121, remember how it was to weigh 230. You will never go there again. Be proud. You will get past this hurdle the further you get out... This was my experience anyway. I hope this helps! HUGS. Christina

Hi Michelle, You have done so great with your journey. I hate to see you upset about a small gain that it sounds like you really need. I, too am afraid of gaining, but unlike you I'm not too thin. I work through my food issues with a psychologist that is familiar with these problems. Maybe a few sessions will help you deal with the fears you have......just a suggestion. Hugs, Connie -147#

Find a good therapist who deals with eating issues. You need someone to help you with the food and weight gain things that are scaring you. It's not normal to cry when we get on the scale and to be so afraid that we're not eating well says we need more help with this than family or friends can supply. YOu should be eating lots of protein and very little fruits and veggies. There are body extremes and many post ops are so used to failure with each diet that they freak out when they finally reach goal. See your doctor to determine what your weight should be, what your daily intake should be and where you are. We can't use the insurance charts for our goal weight as they don't apply to us formerly obese patients. What you asked is is this normal? For many post ops the way you feel is - is it a normal way to go through life - being afraid to eat and regain weight - NO. You need help to find a way for you to allow yourself to eat normally and to maintain your loss. Eating a small salad for a meal and still being afraid of weight gain is not normal. Ask your surgeon for a referral to someone they recommend in their office to help you with these issues. Many surgeons have nutritionists and therapists they send their patients to as many need more help than support groups and surgeons can give them. Freaking out is no way to live every time you eat or get on the scale. There is help available - and many need it as this is such a drastic life style change. Good Luck to you.

HI Michelle. Gaining weight back is my biggest fear too. I did not do all of this hard work to go back there again! I can eat quite a bit at times now~some days I'm hungry and some days I'm not. I'm just trying to stick with my dr's guidelines on eating and it seems to be working so far. I weigh myself daily in the morning to keep track of what I weigh and if I notice a gain then I'm very strict with my diet for a day or two to get the gain back off right away. I'm so afraid that 2lbs will lead to 20lbs will lead to 100lbs, so I'm trying to nip in the bud so to speak. I'm also trying to keep on track with my work out routine b/c if I get out of the habit I'm afraid that I won't be able to get back to it again. Good Luck to You! Tracy B 328/152 5'9"