When is enough, enough?

becky funny thing is when i first started to loose weight oh my god i wanted to be a barbie doll.. after 16 months i stopped losing and realized that this was it..i have skin issuess which i havwe accepted..im 51 years old so what i got a panni i gave birth . had 4 addomonal surgerys, sharpie legs baha if they gross people out at the beach dont look and im blaming my boobs on age. look at it like this bella you are happy healthy and thinner accept yourself embrace yourself you live once and enjoy your new life joann

Hi Becky ... I know where you're coming from ... for the past 30-40 pounds, I've been saying, I need to lose 50 ... so at 210 I needed to lose 50 ... at 200 I needed to lose 50 ... and at 175, I still feel I need to lose 50 (actually, I really feel that I have more than that to lose, because I feel as heavy as I did at 350 ... well, ok, maybe 325). I'm kinda thinking though, that 149 might be a nice number (since that will be the 200 pound loss mark for me) ... but I panic that that's not low enough. SO ... when you figure it all out, let me know, ok? -Karyn

so basically you are telling me that...I'M NOT CRAZY??? wow, i am so relieved! i always try to over-analyze things. i know i am at a good weight, i know i SHOULD try to maintain now, i know from my doc today that i am "under what they would like me to be". but i still am soooo happy when i see the scale move. i am very unhappy with the way i look, it depresses me. i wonder if that is why my head still wants to see that number go down. i can't "fix" the picture in the mirror and i don't feel good about it, but i can feel good about losing weight. then again, i wonder if it is because this is one thing that i feel like i have ever been able to "control". this tool has given me the power to control something in my life - my eating and my weight. GOOD G-D! can someone say THERAPY!? hugs~mary jo

YOu go If you are so happy then you are so cool.

Well now, I think many of us have these issues. Me? Some days (like today) I feel positively thin at 182 lbs. Other days I feel like a fat cow. One of my worst days was recently when I had my first date in 20 years. It was a blind date, but the pic he saw is the same one you are seeing...and I've lost 22 lbs since then. I'm a size 12/14--the avg American woman. Afterward he e-mailed me and told me in essense I was FAT. LOL, so I guess I'm not at goal yet huh! It's just a process and some take longer than others. 1) How do you feel? 2) How do you look--realistically? 3) How is your health? 4) If the answers are wonderful, good, great....you are there! Hold the presses, stop the works, it's time to put the brakes on and MAINTAIN! Love ya, Becky Sue. Pat

Geeeeez. Your blind date was an ABSOLUTE JERK! You look great--very pretty and at a very acceptable weight! Hope your next date has a shred of maturity. Geez. Hugs, Jo

Are you kidding me? What an @$$! You're beautiful! Maybe you should give him the old "scale in the backyard" treatment, eh?

Just want to say thanks to everyone that has replied. You've all given me a lot to think about... I AM happy with where I am. Truly. I've never felt so good in my life, to be honest, even when I was a nearly-normally sized young teen. I feel great in my clothes, mostly great OUT of my clothes, and recognize that I've made some great accomplishments... I'm not sure what the number on the scale signifies for me... I guess part of it is just the 'high' you get early on, when you're losing so fast, to see that scale go down, down, down, so quickly. Now that it's not, I miss that that a little... It's good to know I'm not the only one that feels like this, though. I don't know what I'd do without you guys....

Becky sue, u look goooood, and i just want to add i feel the same why as a matter of fact i feel a lil releive because i thought that i was the only one that feel that way. I just join the forum and i really am a shy person and reading your message make me feel a little more comforting. I had my surgery in 04 since then im down to about 136 now. and i feel as if i need to lose more.. now i have join the gym to maintain but my biggest fair is gaining it all back

Hi there, well i just joined this forum and i am also a very shy and private person but after reading this i wanted to reply bc i am going through similiar issues as well. i bounce between 138-143lbs and i am not at goal i am 5'2.5" tall and still overweight according to charts and so recently started thinking about losing again i hope one day it will be enough and i will stop but there is a high in seeing the scale move down, my husband says to stop losing so does my mom but i will stop when i feel my best i weigh everyday i know not good and i was not heavy all my life i got heavy later as an adult after being placed on several psych meds,so maybe i want to get down to my pre psych guinea pig weight..lol who knows but sometimes i do feel small others i feel huge and uncomfortable....i hope you find out what is enough for you i hope i do too for me it is a horrifying fear of gaining weight back so i figure if i lose more if i ever hit the point of bounce back i will be ok,and i think mentally i want to be as far from 200 as i can get .....bc i know as you get older weight creeps on so if i am really small and gain some back i will still be healthy lemon the nutcase 4 year postop 262.5/143/119?